The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Floaty

Oh TCD I'm so sorry to hear that, horrendous And don't worry Tea, rant away!!

Welcome Skaps

I have a question this morning..This cycle I need to go for bloods on day 3 and 21, and an HSG on day 7-10 (which I need to phone and book on cd01). So, my question... Last month something odd happened and I'm concerned it might happen again and muck up my days. Last month I started bleeding on cd22. Not masses, buy enough to think 'oh, cd01'. But then it stopped, and didn't start again until cd25. I counted cd25 as 'proper' cd01, which makes today cd24.

This morning I have started bleeding a tiny bit again. Now I don't know whether to count today as cd01 for the sake of booking tests, or wait until proper cd01.

Actually, I know you lot can't give medical advice but I don't know who to ask. I don't suppose the hsg secretary would be able to help but I don't know who else to ask

Thanks all xxx

cwtw

Hi floaty. I have had lots of similar problems with rubbish cycles when booking tests. I would ring the clinic and get their advice. I book provisional appointments and then reschedule them if needed, as it is easier to rearrange than book at short notice, iykwim.

It feels like after loads of waiting and uncertainty, people are dashing to all kinds of appointments at the minute. I have everything crossed for all of us.

TCD so sorry for your news, cancer SUCKS. It sounds good that they have caught it early though? I can totally relate to your description about how you feel about work.

Tea if yo can't rant here, where can you go? No one will have you on ignore, you are a star on here!

Welcome skaps, it is not fun that you have to be here, but it is a lovely place to be!

tea_lover

TACOD - life really is kicking you in the crotch right now isn't it?! Massive hugs for you and your mum. Am wishing her all the best for her treatment, and wishing you all the best for your return to work xx.

Whattodonow

Hugs tcd and primer xxx

Welcome skaps. Hope your stay is short and sweet (in the nicest possible way )

MrsDavo

Hi ladies.

Hugs to everyone who needs them, Tea, Tacod, prim et all!

It does seen there are some exciting things happening for people at the moment and I so hope we have some good strong BFP's in the next couple of weeks.

Well I am so peed off this this cycle! We were told on 12th that the clomid didn't make me ovulate, and I'm now on CD 41 waiting on my new cycle to start so I can do round 2 on a higher dose!

All my wasted time seems to be waiting on a horrible period which I hate when they come but at least it means another chance!

I hope it starts soon, I'm getting very fed up! Xx

chickpea

SK - So pleased this IVF has worked!! Very cautious congratulations to you. Your posts in times of yore really resonated with me, you were so broken by the whole business. I will say a little prayer for you that this is it for you.

Depressingly, September brings with it my 4yr TTC-versary..

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Tea Lover and Teacakes+d - sorry you are both feeling so rotten at the minute. Wish I could teleport a largish glass of nice red wine to both of you.

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Onestep - yes, it's not always just as simple as just adopting if you can't conceive. We haven't been motivated to pursue it - I guess there's still a part of me believes I can get my body to do this, because it did it once and I conceived again recently, even if I did M/C.

I've gone sugarfree again anyway, that's what I believed worked before.

sexki11en

Oh Chickpea, sorry to hear you MC

Have you gone for IVF at all? I really think there's something in the use of steroids as my BFP's are getting stronger by the day and that's what was different for us this time.

I heard this a million times on my journey and I still roll my eyes at hearing it now (and probably always will!) but really don't give up hope. Realistically there are ladies who will never have their own child. But that is a really small number. I remember you have so much fight in you. Keep going, just that little bit longer.

I swear to god, last Saturday was the 4 year anniversary of TTC for us (I know this because we started trying the first day of our honeymoon) Last Saturday was when I got a TLP.

You just need to keep going until you can't keep going anymore.

SK x

time2deal

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

I feel like my life has turned into a terrible never ending miserable episode of Eastenders (I hate soaps and don't watch them but am reliably informed this is the miserablist of them all...)

Just found out my mum has primary breast cancer. At the mo it's very early so they're hopeful about treatment but I just feel wiped out by it- my family and cancer have a long and bleak relationship. I want to curl up in a ball and quit. To make matters worse my phased return back to work started this week and I already want to set fire to the building. I want to escape my life please.

Hugs TCD.

I feel sort of the same at the moment. I'm feeling like nothing will ever happen, my job is boring and I got a mediocre review, and I just struggling to care about anything. Then today the girl who came through the same surgery as me has just found out her cancer has spread. It should still be early, but looks like Chemo and Radiation are on the cards for her, with all the long term impacts that means. I just feel like it is so unfair.

Even my acupunturist seems to be giving up on me. I'm just over it all - tired and feeling like I'm spending my life waiting for things that won't happen. I was tempted to quit yesterday, just because all I want to say is - I don't care, I don't care about anything here. To be honest all I'm really waiting for is to move back to Australia next year. But that only happens if we fail with IVF, so even planning for that is a bit depressing.

blauugh. Sorry if I have missed new people on the list. I'll go through when I'm in a better mood and update.

Fingers crossed for all our IVF ladies. Lucy loo - you must be close to testing time?

Primmer

TCD - huge hugs, you really are going through it

T2D - hugs honey it's hard when your life seems on hold

MrsH - good luck for this cycle

Skaps - welcome

Chickpea - hope the sugar free plan works for you

Good luck to everyone having treatment

Smookle

Peonie - Thanks for the advice! Might head on over to fleabay shortly! My new month resolution to take my temperature has failed terribly so far, I've only charted 2 days out of about 10 lol.

TCD - That's awful news! Hope you and your family are all ok and that work gets a bit better for you.

Chickpea - How does going sugarfree help? I'm curious!

Had an interesting appointment today... On the downside, the FS told me that since my endometriosis has been 'cured', my continued painful periods is just 'bad luck' and that I will just have to put up with them till I fall pregnant. Great flipping advice!
On the upside, she has agreed to start the process of starting IUI so could be joining all you injecting ladies in October! Not quite sure how I feel now, little bit overwhelmed by what exactly is involved! Also a little bit worried about how work is going to respond to needing to attend appointments as they were incredibly annoyed today, even though they new about it ages ago. Are there lots of side effects for the daily injections? I don't know which one my area uses just yet, but am a little bit worried how I will cope with them.