The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

time2deal

On a lighter note. Had anyone else handed their entire life across to candy bloody crush! I don't have time for a baby... Those candies aren't going to crush themselves.

lilymay1

Tea, I felt a bit sick reading your post.

I just don't know what else to say. I'm so sorry

mrshappy

Tea, thinking of you. I don't have much to add to what has already been said. You have to do what is right for you, and what is good for you. Life is too short to be unhappy and money lost in property is only money-I do know as I have been there. x

Primmer

Tea - so sorry honey to read your posts as you sound so unhappy only you know whether you can work things out with your oh or even if you want to. Just give yourself time before making such a big decision xx

tea_lover

Thank you all so much. I know this is nothing to do with TTC but once you start writing it really does all come out! I can't tell you how much I appreciate you all xx. Am having a think.

lucyloo77

Oh Tea, I'm so sorry that things are so utterly rubbish for you at the mo. Sending you massive hugs. I can reiterate that the property matter really IS only money and can be resolved - been there and done that on that one unfortunately! No rash decisions, but your life is yours alone and you absolutely must make the choices that are best for you hun. You must make the life for yourself that you deserve (which, by the way, is an utterly awesome one!) Thinking of you xx

fannyanna

Tea - I have no advice but I wanted to give you the biggest, squishiest cuddles.

squ1rrel5

Tea, big hugs coming your way. Sorry to hear all that.

Your OH sounds very much like my ex. He was lovely to start but then there were always glimpses that things just werent what they seemed. I put them all to the back of my mind and a few years down the line we got married and I was desperate for a baby. We didnt get chance to try before he started being disinterested and then told me he didnt want children. He then left me for someone else. (although he then left his mistress for someone else who already had children!!)
My biggest saving grace in all this was that we never had children together - I'd feel so sad if that !!!!! had fathered any of my kids.

And now I'm having difficulty conceiving, DH no 2 couldnt be more supportive and loving if he tried.

I agree with fluffnutter - dont do anything rash now, but do think about what you've written and if its something that still rings true, then you have some big decisions to make. It wont be easy but you don't have to do it alone. And as Claire said, there's always donors - as much I love DH sometimes I think it's be less hassle on your own!!!

chickpea

Hi all - I have been away in USA for last few weeks, hence lack of posts...sorry for everyone having a rough time, especially tealover.

I have to tell you, my AF was due over there....but it never came. After a few days, I had to go to a pharmacy, just like any other regular Fertile person and buy an OTC HPT ($15!)

It was a BFP!! - after 3 years and 9 months TTC, can you believe it?! It was a FRER, , the line came up practically before the pee hit the stick. After all these years squinting at non-existant lines, it was a lovely thing to see.

I got home today and did the full range of HPTs - same each time (my by now 2 years out-of-date CB digi said Pregnant 2-3.)

By my reckoning, I am now 5+4.

I am one month shy of my 40th birthday, my AMH was 3.1 when it was last tested 2 years ago - let no-one tell you there are no more miracles!

Primmer

Chickpea - that is such great news, I am soooooooo happy for you. Bet you still can't believe it! :j:j congrats :j