The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

ginvzt

Jiblets - take care and don't stress. You know all will be fine, don't you? We will be here waiting for you once you come home with tea and cakes/biscuits (or anything else you would prefer!).

I have sat (sorry, stood!!!!) through Health and Safety presentation (including how to drive!!!) for about 40 minutes and I felt like I have wasted my time. Anyway, I think I am working from home next week and on Saturday we are going to collect a cotbed I bought on ebay to use when our godson arrives (and then other young visitors). The other day my husband asked if I am not superstitious about this, and I answered that after all this time of nothing happening, it can't really make it worse! (And who knows - maybe that is all we need to have a baby: buy a cot!). We also bought a group 1 car seat (again, ebay!!!) and I will be getting some bedding for the cot and a few toys to keep young ones entertained... I am hoping to get tripp trapp chair, to be used as a second chair in our office (instead of a dining chair), which would be converted to high chair as needed... Someone needs to stop me before I set a complete nursery!!! On the other hand - it is all investment, as one day we WILL have a child! (there is me hoping)

hamish222

Ginvzt that is the attitude we all will get there in the end and have our own little bundles of joy. My Af still has not arrived should have came yesterday or day before. Is always on time. I know I am not pregnant as did a test this morning (one of those early indicator ones that can tell you 5 days before due) and negative. So dont know what is going on. I think it is because I am stressing so much.

MadMac_2

Just a quick fly-by visit as I've got to get back to work, but just wanted to say to Meercat, best of luck for tomorrow, x

Lilo, I have that book Nadine mentions if you want it? PM me if you do, can't say it has helped me as I gave up on it a while ago, so will be happy to see if it helps you? Hope you're keeping that PMA alive! x

Jiblets, we'll count down with you, fingers crossed, x

Emmzy, sounds good to me! So, all that waxing/shaving was for nothing then?!!! Always seems to go that way with me - if I haven't bothered, then it is students around the bed having a gawp sort of time!

Hamish, stress is definitely a good way to keep AF at bay....!

Thinking of you all and hoping for better things for all of us, xx

Catw0man

sarahs999 wrote: »

Cat woman, so sorry. I've had three m/cs in similar circumstances. I don't know your story but if you want to chat you can PM me. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Just to let you know it turned out I have two blood clotting disorders which are responsible for my M/cs, have you been checked for anything?

They are going to do investigations now that I have had three, but I have been wondering about an autoimmune disorder as I have another AI already and wonder if I could have a predisposition to them, I mentioned this and these are the first tests they will do.
All my mc's have been similar no real bleeding (I had slight spotting with the first) and no pain, all were picked up at scans and required a D&C, though that hasn't been discussed for this one yet.
I had my second blood test today to check my hcg levels they have gone up - a normal pregnancy would have doubled, and a mc should really go down, so I'm going for another scan tomorrow to check for the possibility of an ectopic. I'm feeling really rubbish - I've been in a foul mood all day I am so fed up with everything:mad:

sorry for the rant

MadMac_2

Oh Cat, huge hug being sent your way. Will be hoping everything goes OK today, x

angelavdavis

Catw0man wrote: »

They are going to do investigations now that I have had three, but I have been wondering about an autoimmune disorder as I have another AI already and wonder if I could have a predisposition to them, I mentioned this and these are the first tests they will do.
All my mc's have been similar no real bleeding (I had slight spotting with the first) and no pain, all were picked up at scans and required a D&C, though that hasn't been discussed for this one yet.
I had my second blood test today to check my hcg levels they have gone up - a normal pregnancy would have doubled, and a mc should really go down, so I'm going for another scan tomorrow to check for the possibility of an ectopic. I'm feeling really rubbish - I've been in a foul mood all day I am so fed up with everything:mad:

sorry for the rant

Rant away, this is what we are all here for. Give yourself a chance - you have been through a hugely emotional upset. You have every right to be in a foul mood!!!!

ginvzt

Catw0man - hugs!!!! Try not to think he worst (easier said than done) and give yourself a chance, as angeldavis says!

Meercat - best of luck today!!! Hope all goes well - keep us updated!

I am still hoping for some good news. Have you got the white pants??? Baby dust (and superglue!!!)

I am on CD14 and cbfm just showed a peak this morning! All fingers crossed that Clomid does its magic this month!

Catw0man

Well I have come back from the hospital no further forward!! They don't think it's ectopic (although they are not ruling it out completely) but they don't think it's a continuing pregnancy, I have to go back on Monday for more blood tests to check hcg levels again, if they are still rising then I will have to get Methotrexate to kill off the cells. Why is nothing ever straight forward for me!!

liloandstitch

Hugs, Catw0man, sorry to hear about your probs, I hope it sorts soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Have been lying low for a couple of days, hunting that PMA! Have been reading so hugs, commiserations etc etc for all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Off away for a couple of days to Somerset so see y'all soon - be good and dont eat all the cakes!

Lilo

ginvzt

Oh, Catw0man, so sorry!!!! Please, be strong and take care of yourself over the weekend.

Hello, lilo! Hope you have a nice weekend and weather won't spoil it! Somerset sounds nice!

I am proud of myself! I have managed to get to the gym again today and did another session on the treadmill! (Not that proud that I can't get any motivation to do actually work I am supposed to though...)