Would you go on holiday?

4Chickens

Morning All

Wow, you lot were busy yesterday after I logged off for the day.

Clarification:
If you want to judge me on my parenting skills then I will start a new thread so that you can really get your teeth into it.
When I said I would print off only the positive comments it was in jest, see the hypnotise comment I made. I think the tone of my posts has been fairly light hearted and I think Maya doesn't like me.
We are not trying to get away from our son. He has made it clear that he no longer wants to come on family holidays anymore.
I spoke to hubby last night and said that if he doesn't want to go then I will stick by that decision.
He can't get anyone in to do the job whilst he's away, its too complex and would not have the time to train someone. We have taken this loss of pay year on year when we go away as a family. It's just this year there seems alot more to consider. We do have quite a nice nest egg tucked away for emergencies so we wouldn't be over stretching ourselves or leaving ourselves vulnerable.
My mum is only 57 and my step dad is a similar age. What makes this opportunity different is the trip to Ontario, Canada, they only do it every other year. I don't want hubby to miss that opportunity.
I want to spend time with hubby like it was before we married, had a home, children etc. All we both seem to do is work all the time, if not at work then diy etc. We haven't even had a weekend away.
Well thankyou all for all your thoughts it had been most helpful.:beer:

bestpud

cindiedunkley wrote: »

Morning All

Wow, you lot were busy yesterday after I logged off for the day.

Clarification:
If you want to judge me on my parenting skills then I will start a new thread so that you can really get your teeth into it.
When I said I would print off only the positive comments it was in jest, see the hypnotise comment I made. I think the tone of my posts has been fairly light hearted and I think Maya doesn't like me.
We are not trying to get away from our son. He has made it clear that he no longer wants to come on family holidays anymore.
I spoke to hubby last night and said that if he doesn't want to go then I will stick by that decision.
He can't get anyone in to do the job whilst he's away, its too complex and would not have the time to train someone. We have taken this loss of pay year on year when we go away as a family. It's just this year there seems alot more to consider. We do have quite a nice nest egg tucked away for emergencies so we wouldn't be over stretching ourselves or leaving ourselves vulnerable.
My mum is only 57 and my step dad is a similar age. What makes this opportunity different is the trip to Ontario, Canada, they only do it every other year. I don't want hubby to miss that opportunity.
I want to spend time with hubby like it was before we married, had a home, children etc. All we both seem to do is work all the time, if not at work then diy etc. We haven't even had a weekend away.
Well thankyou all for all your thoughts it had been most helpful.:beer:

Well, FWIW, I think you should go for it then.

Have a great time!

pollypenny

Unless the business has a huge turnover, £2000 is a lot to lose in the present climate.

You've been to the US many times, so why not have a shorter holiday, time together, without this risk. We can all persuade ourselves that we 'deserve' treats, however costly.

You're young; Canada will be there for a long time.

poet123

I have to say it never ceases to amaze me how people read into anothers posts and extrapolate from them, and reach conclusions that may be completely unfounded. Maybe it is indicative of someone with too much time on their hands or a need to dig deeper than is strictly necessary, for reasons of their own?

Using a mild "derogatory" term in jest is not the most heinous of crimes, the word div is similar in meaning to twerp, and can be said in affectionate jest, not in a disrespectful, or nasty way. Most families joke with each other in this manner, it denotes that they are comfortable with each other, have a humour shorthand language particular to their family, and do not stand on ceremony, not a lack of respect, nor does it indicate that they would behave that way outside the home.

ginvzt

When was the last time you visited your family? As it seems you only look at this from holiday point of you.

Yes, it is holiday, but your mum is paying for flights, thus already saving you money, and you get to spend some time with your family and with your husband without anyone else.

Money is not everything - I don't always enjoy paying to go to visit our respective families (both abroad), but we visit them at least once a year. Yes, it costs money, and could just as well take no holiday and continue working, but it is not what the life is all about, is it?

I would say - think for yourself. If you want to see your family, go on holiday. You have double bonus - paid flights, seeing the family and some time off with just your OH!

bestpud

poet123 wrote: »

Using a mild "derogatory" term in jest is not the most heinous of crimes, the word div is similar in meaning to twerp, and can be said in affectionate jest, not in a disrespectful, or nasty way. Most families joke with each other in this manner, it denotes that they are comfortable with each other, have a humour shorthand language particular to their family, and do not stand on ceremony, not a lack of respect, nor does it indicate that they would behave that way outside the home.

I agree! :T

mrcow

poet123 wrote: »

I have to say it never ceases to amaze me how people read into anothers posts and extrapolate from them

And it never ceases to amaze me how there are some people on these boards who are under the assumption that they are somehow qualified to comment on what is appropriate when raising a child when it's obvious that they are completely oblivious to what it actually entails.

I completely agree with you - it probably comes down to having too much time on their hands. Switching off the computer and going outside and acquiring some more life experience would probably benefit.

4Chickens

Cheers everyone.

I am inclined to agree with those of you that think we should go. The money aspect isn't keeping me awake at night. But the thought of me and hubby sharing a new experience together with freedom to travel as much or as little as we like and do what we want when we want is keeping me awake at night, it sounds like heaven (the honeymoon we never had as I was in the pudding club). We need to make the decision soon as our provisional departure date would be 11 Sept and I have noticed that flight prices are starting to creep up and although mum is paying, I don't want to take the mick.

Well I won't be online again until Monday. Perhaps me and hubby should make time this weekend to have a serious discussion and make a decision. I will let you know on Monday. Have a good weekend and thankyou all for your thoughts.

pineapple123

I also think you should go on holiday, your kitchen can wait abit, your son will be fine (someone looking out for him).

Your hubby works hard and deserves a break, surely he would have some sort of time off anyway this year so I would not take into account his loss of wages.

It sounds like a great holiday.
Having lovely memories are what we hold dear, I would want to look back in the evening of my life and think its been a wonderful day, rather than sit in a brand new kitchen with a pocket full of change.

poet123

mrcow wrote: »

And it never ceases to amaze me how there are some people on these boards who are under the assumption that they are somehow qualified to comment on what is appropriate when raising a child when it's obvious that they are completely oblivious to what it actually entails.

I completely agree with you - it probably comes down to having too much time on their hands. Switching off the computer and going outside and acquiring some more life experience would probably benefit.

I would agree:D, and it is wise person who knows the limitations of their expereince in any field,;) fortunately that clearly does not refer to me in the area of child rearing or life experience. I have 4 children ranging in age from 24 to 12, including one Lawyer, one at Law school, one Teacher, and I work with teens day in day out too.

How many do kids you have?

And as for life experience, I have quite a lot of that too, in many spheres, so, do I feel qualified to comment?....you bet I do.;)