Trying For a Baby III

bitzer_maloney

giddynici wrote: »

Just wanted to pop on and say I'm bowing out as I don't feel this is the place for me.

I do want to wish everyone lots of luck and I hope you all get a BFP sooner rather than later.

Take care.

Good luck giddy, hope you're successful soon too :beer:

scotsgirl - i'm actually really chuffed for you! As I recall you had your bfp then a m/c and now you've got a sticky one (fingers crossed). Don't get me wrong, I'm jealous, but so happy for you (and I'm a bit jealous about the lovely hot holiday too, bar the food poisoning bit :eek:)

Maddie

Courgette wrote: »

Can anyone relate to any of this or am I just a complete weirdo?

Hi Courgette, I can't relate exactly, however I had crazy hormones before my wedding. My periods were incredibly heavy and lumpy (huge lumps!). Then I started getting an extra period in the middle of my cycle.

I went to the docs and they were worried that I could be pregnant and possibly misscarrying even though we were using contraception at the time. Tested and of course it was negative.

I carried on this way until about 2 months after the wedding when eventually things went back to normal. The only explanation I cold find was that it was probably due to stress. I hadn't felt stressed really (registrar said we were the most chilled couple she'd met!), but my body was experiencing stress.

What I'm trying to say is that perhaps it could just be down to stress. Get yourself to the docs (can you request to see someone else?) and see if they can shed any light on it.

Mrs_Tradition

I find you hurtful, upsetting, unsupportive and wish I hadn't even entered to this forum. I saw other ppl post their good news so thought I would. Never again.
You have had me in tears theday after I have some good news.
There is no more to say. Continue as if me and yorkygal had never been here. We obviously don't have faces that fit with your click,
For the ladies who were supportive (sorry it was overshadowed by the previous) thank you so much and I wish you ALL the happiness you deserve.
I will post no more, this is not what I need right now.
Mrs_Tradition (also a person, with feelings)
What's worse, to be happy and post that without any malice intended or to shoot someone down for something they didn't mean to do.

becs

Mrs_Tradition I'm very sorry for any hurt or upset caused as I have stated in earlier posts that is never my aim. I hope you have read some of my later posts to realise why it was said.
I can assure you there is absoloutely NO clique here and all those who are starting out or have already been trying to conceive are more than welcome. We are genuinely happy for all those that "graduate" this thread whether they've been here 1 month or 3 years. However you have to see why I have said what I did, it is because there are alot of us on the thread that have either been trying a long time or have had miscarriages and are back to trying again and it is extremely insensitive for someone who has never posted on the thread to appear from nowhere to announce a BFP. I know a lot has been said on the pg thread about us not being supportive of newbies who join one month then post a bfp another. And whilst that may cause a teeny bit of envy for us we are still genuinely happy for them but they did join the thread when they started trying to conceive and then were one of the lucky ones.
Whilst I am deeply sorry to have upset you can you not see that your post also deeply upset others who are already struggling and don't have the joy that you do in your life and just heightens the feelings they are already going through.
I sincerely wish you and Yorkygal the very best for the next 9 months.

smartie12

Cor blimey... the hormones are extra hormonal today aren't they??

Mrs T (cool name;)) I see you put this thread made you ill over on the other thread. I'm so sorry hun...... but isn't that a bit of an overaction?? I hope you can chill out a bit during your pregnancy and all goes well

Oh and I'm a little confused... I quote from PG thread

I felt ill yesterday after the responses on the TTC thread

As far as I can see Mrs T you had nothing but nice responses yesterday!!

Unless you're special and you can see forsee future responses on forums:cool:

lizziebell*80

I was on the TTC thread about a year ago and got a BFP after one month, however I decided just to hang back and not post it which was more on my part as I didn't want to jinx anything (I had been on quite a bit posting about the "trying" as it has been described-I realised it also might be taken badly as there has always been some frowning on first post/newbie BFPs, but did not post to blatantly say as much), but I carried on following things - in the early days I didn't want to head straight over to the preg thread just in case, also, speaking as someone who follows that thread now, the ladies don't really think about pg test results/reliability and 2ww and symptoms etc etc it is usually stuff about much further on in pg so TTC really is the best place (well it was when I was here) for these type of questions. Testing/test results are part of "trying" IMO.

I suffered a blighted ovum with that preg so I am glad I didn't dash over to the pg thread and also I stayed off the TTC thread for a while as it was hard. However once I came back I understood that it is a public forum and that there would be other ladies with questions about preg tests etc - if something annoys/offends/seems inappropriate then I found it best to ignore it than get upset and take it the wrong way then potentially upset someone else - and mostly ladies are desperately looking for info from other ladies who are more experienced in that area and that inevitabley will be women who have been part of the thread for longer than they have.

FYI I wasn't upset by questions about testing, I understand some ladies might be possibly but if that is the case then mabe a public forum isn't the best place to be visiting if it is only causing them extra distress?

Finally (to really throw the cat amongst the pigeons :eek:) if we are going to nit-pick about thread content then all that should be discussed here should be ways to save money when TTC, nothing about symptoms/2ww/testing dates/results IYSWIM as it is a MSE site?!?!?

becs

I must be really really really thick but I just don't get how a positive pregnancy test, meaning you are pregnant is "trying to conceive!" As my earlier post said the ladies on the pg thread have ALL had positive tests therefore whether they discuss them or not surelyt they would ne the ones to ask?
Speaking as someone who is very mse because I don't test. I only ever plan to test if af is over a week late and as that's not happened I do not have the experience of using pg tests so can not offer any advice as to their accuracy.

lizziebell*80

The fact is that the person isn't sure if it is a positive, if they were they wouldn't be asking for other people's opinions. They are trying to be MSE and use the cheaper tests, but that in turn can place doubts about the accuracy of them hence posting about it. This can be the same regardless of how long the TTC has been or even if you have actually had a positive test in the past.

I would agree that you are very sensible about your attitude to testing from what you have posted (I was nowhere near as sensible!), but I am sure others may have something to contribute who have tested earlier. In many cases I am sure that the person might get the info from the instructions with the test etc, but it is always more reassuring from another person.

Yes the women on the pg thread have had positive tests, however I can only speak from how I felt initially, but I didn't want to post on there at all until I was lots further on in the pg and as such would not have even considered asking at such an early stage, but as I said that was only how I felt. Also the pg thread moves very quickly most of the time so I would have probably lost answers to a post anyway.

Courgette

Maddie wrote: »

Hi Courgette, I can't relate exactly, however I had crazy hormones before my wedding. My periods were incredibly heavy and lumpy (huge lumps!). Then I started getting an extra period in the middle of my cycle.

I went to the docs and they were worried that I could be pregnant and possibly misscarrying even though we were using contraception at the time. Tested and of course it was negative.

I carried on this way until about 2 months after the wedding when eventually things went back to normal. The only explanation I cold find was that it was probably due to stress. I hadn't felt stressed really (registrar said we were the most chilled couple she'd met!), but my body was experiencing stress.

What I'm trying to say is that perhaps it could just be down to stress. Get yourself to the docs (can you request to see someone else?) and see if they can shed any light on it.

Thanks Maddie, I hadn't actually considered the stress of the wedding! I'm gonna take it really easy tomorrow then see how I feel on Monday.

For the record, the dr I saw after the mc wasn't actually horrible and I have no problem seeing him again (I know I said I did earlier but I've had some food and a warm bath since then so feel almost rational again :rolleyes:) it's just a 1st mc at 7 weeks is medically completely uninteresting and tbh there wasn't a right lot he could do as I would have still had a BFP and a scan wouldn't have been clear enough to tell what was going on. He was being professional and sensible, I just at that moment needed someone to wave a magic wand

BeenieCat

Just to say. If a new member follows the forum etiquette and rules, they will use the search function to find the appropriate place to post.

Guess what "pregnancy test" brings up.. :cool: :rolleyes:

Some of you need to chill out. And to say it's not cliquey is a joke, looks like you don't mind being nice to people as long as they don't get pregnant before you.

When i got my positive test i still didn't consider myself worthy to join a huge thread full of pregnant people, what if the test was wrong? It's a natural feeling to need to rush off to tell someone and on a forum is as good a place as any. Why should people be made to feel bad just because you haven't yet managed to fall pregnant and they have?

Everytime i've lurked in this thread you've all been talking about testing, that's precisely what those people have just done, just because their result was different doesn't mean you have a right to kick off.

Don't pretend to be happy for people if your jealousy is consuming you so badly.