Trying For a Baby III

jacqhale

Hi, I hear about the fertile after miscarriage thing and it seems to make sense - my sister is pregnant again now and it was 3-4 months after MC. It's still early days but she's been told she's at no greater risk of another because of what happened before which I think is really positive ... although it's so hard not to worry every time the phone rings.
I was looking for support groups for her and there is a lovely site where you can post messages, memories, poems etc if you feel like that kind of thing. It had me very emotional.

emmzy

Aww scotsgirl so sorry hugs for you and when you do decide to get back on the TTC horse I wish you tonnes of sticky dust xx

twinklie

As the others have all said, I'm really sorry to hear your news scotsgirl. Pretty much all the ladies in my family have had one - although we only found out at my cousins twins funeral. Turned into a female confessional, where everyone (that had had one) admitted to having one - (turns out everyone who had children had had at least one).

Does make you think that the stats that are quoted can't possibly be right though doesn't it.

CAFCGirl

The only thing that at the time was of comfort to me was this:

Our baby was a spirit, who had chosen us to carry him into this physical world.... We provided warmth stability and most importantly love, and thats why we had been chosen.
In coming into our family our baby spirit got to see the outside world, and all that happens, and our baby spirit decided that now wasnt the time for him to come into this world, he wouldnt be able to become the person he was destined to be, it just wasnt right for him right now. And so he's still a spirit, always with us, and waiting for the right time to join us.... He's not dead, he's not lost, he's just biding his time to make his appearence. I know he's going to join me soon....
And I know he's sorry that by not being able to join us, we endure great pain, and sorrow, and grief, but its because we experienced that he knows we are the right family for him, we experienced that pain because we love him, and thats why he'll come to us soon, and we will love him just as much, if not more when he joins us again.

I'm not a religious or a spiritual person but i can't accept that our baby was just a collection of cells and that he will never be again. I mean you can take from my theory on things what you will, whether its just what I need to be able to get through each day, or whatever

He will be with us, as will your baby Scots, and I pray that day will come again soon...for all of us.....

try4bambino

Scotsgirl my dear, all my love and hugs for you.xx take it easy and try not to stress to much..

sorry not been posting much lately been feeling right down myself and just had to come out of hiding for Scotsgirl.. xx

that was such a lovely post CAFCGirl..had tears in my eyes..xx

Leopardlady..i am trying to write my phd and it is such a pain.. i am around 60% done.. but it is so hard to get myself to write.. i just end up writing for the sake of writing..good luck with yours.xx

well, i was so stressed out about things that i did not ovulate last month and had a 26 day cycle, so this month, tried not to think about it and OV'd at CD14 and and am in my 2ww...

i am soooo scared though..wonder if anyone has had any experience with palpitations in pregnancy??

yesterday i went to see my cardiology consultant as i suffer from palpitations called SVTs, i have been fine for the past 4/5 years and only twice in my life have i had to go in to A & E for an injection to have them stopped. i am not on any meds as things have been quiet for so long now..

anyway.. the thing is the first time i saw a consultant in May, he said i should be fine with having a baby and carrying a baby so we started TTC.. but the one i saw yesterday really got to me.. he said he seriously recommends i have ablation therapy ( similar to angiogram and 1% chance of pacemaker) before i get pregnant as the palpitations increase and the strain on my heart will be great, especially towards the last stages of pregnancy.. i am just so scared, how can 2 consultants, both at the top of their field say 2 different things? he was a right git as he would not answer question about any research on this in pregnancy.. and then he just said to me to wait outside and just reffered me to the BHF nurse who actually said that it is manageable but not ideal for me or the baby, but women do have healthy preganancies..

i am terrified.. what if i cant carry to full term? but if i opt for the op, the waiting list is five months so will have to put TTC off.. so confused..

ooo what a long post..

if only i could write for my phd as well as this.. i would be finished by now!!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Uber sticky baby dust vibes to everyone xx

bitzer_maloney

I found this linky try4, it says that only 20% of ladies with SVT get exacerbated symptoms when pg. Also that: In patients with mild symptoms and structurally normal hearts, no treatment other than reassurance should be provided.

Obviously I don't know your personal circumstances/nature of your SVT but it might be worth trying to get a third opinion to see what the majority say. I know what you're on about though as I have been under a cardiologist for something similar in the past, but mine appeared to quieten down a few years ago thank heavens!

twinklie

Right still no AF...very annoyed now. Got so much to do today but feel like I've got nowhere. I'm tired and cranky. Probably not the best idea to try and do my assignment...but if I don't I feel like I'm just making excuses not to do it!

God I'm rubbish.

try4bambino

QUOTE=bitzer maloney;24021433]I found this linky try4, it says that only 20% of ladies with SVT get exacerbated symptoms when pg. Also that: In patients with mild symptoms and structurally normal hearts, no treatment other than reassurance should be provided.

Obviously I don't know your personal circumstances/nature of your SVT but it might be worth trying to get a third opinion to see what the majority say. I know what you're on about though as I have been under a cardiologist for something similar in the past, but mine appeared to quieten down a few years ago thank heavens![/QUOTE]

thanks me dear, good to hear that yours went quiet, that is great:j

I thought mine had gone away too, was told that as it has gone quiet 4/5 years that all is well....well that is what the first consultant said, and then I saw this consultant and he was different???!!! He said i should have it done..both were at the Royal Brompton so i cant say they are no good but different docs have diff ways..my SVT is not that frequent i would say had one that lasted 10m at the most in the last two years and not on any meds.. so i cant be that bad as i am healthy with no other medical disease / issue?

was trying to post but got phonecall from a friend and she, having had a baby said that it is a difficult to thing to go through but it is not something that cant be managed...mmm

or i could just get it done and not have to worry:T

i will be talking to another doc next week.. hey ho.. need to not stress

nunnygirl

*pops back in*

Hi everyone

Scotsgirl, I couldn't read and run, so sorry to hear your news hun

katyj10

Sorry to hear your news Scotsgirl, my thoughts are with you. Lots of good advice on here, make sure you get plenty of rest and have whatever you want to make you feel better. I MC in Feb this year and agree with you that it's not talked about a lot. I didn't tell anyone but my DH and boss, that's partly because no one knows we're ttc because we don't want people to keep asking us if we have any news.

I was due to test Sunday but AF arrived with avengence today so that's me back to cd1 and a 24 day cycle two months in a row.

Good luck to all who are due to test, fingers crossed for you all.