MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

SuzyWuzy_2

I get where you're coming from (not the pee bit though ! lol here) about the "its a boy!" bit , although you still always have that even though you find out at the scan , its just more of a confirmation when you see it with your own eyes. Theres always that thought there of what if the sonographer got it wrong.

Think your right about enjoying the pregancy as a pregnancy , i don't feel I've done that with working full time and being a mum of 4 as i havent really had the time to do it ..PLUS i still cant believe im pregnant tbh..(it took 18 months) even though i look like i've swallowed a beach ball. Strange isnt it..i just want to race ahead towards the finish line now

lou66_2

Me and oh dont want to know the sex of the baby he has some quite old fashion views on things and being ten years younger than me i still find it quite strange but lovely at times. sj like that cant hold his own pee !!! but i agree with you sj that special moment at the end when they say it's a boy or Girl. However i tend to refer to bumper as a boy dont know why hate calling it !! Ok just had red face moment got caught singing my head off to the radio my a patient !!! must rememeber they can hear me. :rolleyes:

carlamagee

im lurking about here today.
my oh cant hold his own pee either - -he is the type that wants to know what happens at the end fo a movie or a book even before he starts to read it. right weirdo if u ask me!! lol.
so, i had to really put my foot down when i didnt want to know sex of baby first time and this time round!
altho, at our 20week scan, our sonographer wasnt very nice. DD was with us, and OH was chatting to her saying there is a picture of your baby brother or sister on the tv ( DD only 18months!) and the sonographer snapped "We dont look at that area as there is nothing we need to check developmentally, so no point in asking what sex" - i was a bit gobsmacked and said "we dont want to know anyway, like it to be a surprise" which is the truth, but still think she was a bit rude to us!!

Sarah_Joanne

Carla that's not nice. Can't believe the sonographers can be so rude sometimes - there's just no need! People come into my office at work all the time asking all sorts of things, often really stupid questions and even then I am never rude to them! I don't see how they think it's acceptable - especially as pg women are known for their sensitivity!!!

SuzyWuzy_2

Lou - Hope you were in tune! lol

Carla - Sonographers think they are gods ! (apoligies to anyone that is one...but you do..lol)

Ok ladies thanks for your support today - enjoyed being on here (I sound like im leaving for good don't i..?) off out now to look for a new car, sick of spending 60 quid on petrol per week just on school and work journeys alone so going looking for someting classy, roomy and economical (my wants ) but still very sporty and extremely fast ( his wants ) ..God help us.

Sarah_Joanne

Tia - I just read your birth story on the BS thread. Don't really know what to say but thanks for sharing and I hope more than ever now that you have a fabulous easy birth with your Lil Lady xx

Triggles

Our sonographer was very polite during both of our 20wk scans (we had to have 2 of them as baby wasn't cooperating for measurements during the first one!). We asked tons of questions, and she patiently answered them all. She seemed absolutely certain we're having a boy, although to be honest from the shot she showed us, I have no clue how she figured that out! lol So we have been cautious - expecting boy, but won't be shocked if it's a girl. We have names picked out for both, just in case. And while we have a lot of boy clothing (due to saving them from when DS2 was an infant), we also have a fair amount of gender neutral as well (as DS2 wasn't horribly cooperative during HIS 20 wk scan either!).

There's absolutely no reason for the sonographer to be snippy or rude when people ask about the sex of the baby. It's a common question - it doesn't imply that you don't care about the health of the baby - it's like apples and oranges. Asking about one doesn't mean you don't care about the other. But the point is that they generally will TELL you if there are any health concerns, whereas they won't necessarily tell you the sex of the baby unless you ask. I probably would have complained about her attitude as it's completely unprofessional.

elastigirl

SuzyWuzy wrote: »

A lot of hospitals dont tell you as some people prefer boys and are absolutley not interested in girls watsoever. I think it depends on the diversity of the place where you come from. I've seen it in hospitals where boys are worshipped and where the women who have had girls have no visitors at all. Shameful.

yes and infact some people actually decide to terminate the pregnancy once they know it's a girl. It's quite shocking but true so i think that is why the sonographer at the hospital in question may have snapped.

I really don't mind either way, i would love a girl but a boy but be great too. I just want to get sorted as if it is a boy i can wash all my sons old baby clothes and get ready with it being so close to xmas there will be tons to do.

We are meant to be going to the in-laws this year for xmas we take it inturns with the parents. Aren't we good as we have never had a single xmas on our own as before we were married i worked xmas day. But we have already said that we are not coming and stopping at home. They will have a house full anyway of BIL's family who stop for a week. But mil has said well i am sure we can come to you and change a nappy or 2. No way i am not having 7 extra people in my house on xmas day when i will still be getting over the birth is she mental.

Triggles

Regardless of what the sonographer thought, she still had no reason to snap. I know some hospitals have a policy that they will not say what the sex is, and that's fine. All they have to say is "I'm sorry, but hospital policy doesn't allow us to speculate or discuss the sex of the baby." Parents might be disappointed, but still, no reason for them to be rude to the patient.

We asked whether boy or girl, mainly because DH wanted to know. I wasn't fussed either way (knowing or not knowing), but he can't keep a secret for the life of him, so I figured it was best to just ask. LOL

karen1907

Elasti - there are big notices in the waiting room where I go which says to let them know you want to know the sex when you go in. We didn't want to find out and it wasn't difficult because they don't go anywhere near that area. I did ask just as we were leaving if she had spotted what it was but she said they don't look unless the parent asks.

SS - I went to a nappy lady demonstration on Saturday and was so pleased I did because I got to feel and see all the different nappies available. One thing they did say about bumgenius was that it doesn't have as much protection from wetness than two part nappies which makes sense and that the waterproofness on the outside can go quite quickly due to washing so much (with a separate wrap you only wash it every 4-5 changes). I have to say I was please with their recommendation for us and that we shall probably get our nappies from there (the majority if not all of them) with our 5% off for getting advice from them.