Why does'nt PWC pay towards there child?

Valli

If I went for household income against household income I would be better off as ex lives with a new partner and they both work FT. I am on my own here. So that wouldn't be fair - our kids aren't her responsibility. What would be NICE is not to be called all the names under the sun by exMIL as 'I am taking her son for every penny'.
No I'm not.
And VERY few splits end up amicable.
You hear of these kids who 'get' double everything - hols with both parents etc etc
And then there are kids like mine - their dad has NEVER taken them away for a holiday...and has had umpteen breaks. Usually when he is supposed to be seeing them.

LizzieS_2

These type of threads always remind me of the double standards my nrrp once had - my ex should not have to pay towards our children as I work and can pay the full cost myself, whereas she did not work and needed the csa from her ex.

Moral of the story - do as you would like done to yourself.

i_hate_the_csa

Interesting thought that LizzieS

The ex thinks it's more than acceptable to have 30% of my wage.Then on the other hand the ex and her husband see no problem paying 15% for his kid.

LizzieS_2

Looks like you have the old mix of csa1 for one and csa2 for the other.

Still do not understand why csa1 cases never moved - have a few thoughts but they are far deeper than the obvious of blaming the computer.

Blob

Valli

All I am asking for is a level playing field that the CSA dont keep changing the rules to suite themselvs as they do at this time. There are many modles that show that household against household would be a better way as there are the other way. But in my view to put the income of one person against the income of two is wrong.

When I started with the CSA I was to be left with a higher PI than I have now. They then changed my PE to a level lower than IS level and took me below IS level. ICE sorted that out and the CSA paid for it.

My point is that both side need to be able to move on and to be able to live. The simple fact is that teh CSA have without doubt, through their own fault destroyed many families when people have tried to start again. This has had its effect on the lives of many children and not for the better.

Yes there are without doubt people out there that dont want to take responsibility for their kids and I have no time for them, and like wise there are PWC that want to use the system to destroy their ex's and again they are not worth the effort of talking to.

There has to be a way that the kids are protected and helped, it is the kids that we should be looking out for as they cant do it for themselvs, the systems that we now have all 3 of them dont seem to be helping the situation at all, and as such there has to be a better way, that will help the kids and helps the adults move on without the grief that is caused by the way that it is done now.

It would seem to me that if the split was as happy as it can be, then these people come in and distroy the agreement that suited both sides, the downward sprial is started and will only get worse, and who are the ones that suffer for this, the kids, and a big thank you to the CSA for that, not!

kelloggs36

Lizzie I totally agree! I met many an NRPP in my line of duty and found that they ALL wanted to claim CSA from THEIR ex's but despised the PWC in their new partner's case for doing so!!!!!

Blonde_Bint

A bit of Kettle calling the pot black, was it Kelloggs. worst thing is I bet even if you explained it to them they still couldnt see it.

I believe the CSA does more harm than good to family life. In fact I know due to CSA, bad relationships with pwc's etc some of my friends have split. they have even said by splitting they are better off financially and in their life as its now stress free.

being with someone who has kids with someone else is a strain on your relationship to start with, before you get going on the stresses and strains that you have just between the two of you. I'm not surprised people split up at the rate they do. How I stayed with my husband through some of the things that happened i'll never know. Imagine if I had a child with someone else at the same time:eek: that would be mind boggling. At the moment i'm gritting my teeth and marking off the next 2 yrs, I think what carries me through it is that we will have a life together when the child is an adult. Its the keep splitting up business thats doing it.

bit old fashioned and not always possible but .... I think a bit of sticking together sitting in the sh*t like your granny and grandad used to wouldnt go amiss :rotfl: I did it. in the process of it right now in fact lol. i'll let you know how it goes.

mommarat

Can I just say that no-one is forced to use the CSA anymore on benefits or not. Cases are only taken on now if requested by the pwc (or nrp at that). I agree with everyone on here that a lot of mistakes are made but people still ask the CSA to take on their case. Why ask when everyone thinks they make such a mess of things?

amilotte

DUTR wrote: »

It is all a complicated issue, which no one will have the right answer that will suit all cases

Couldn't agree more!

prowla

i_hate_the_csa wrote: »

Why does'nt PWC pay towards there child?

Where child?
There child!

Oh - their child!!!