Diary of a broken gambler

Noofywoo

Amiga,

I'm glad you have an interview for a charity shop best of luck and let us know haow you get on. Glad to say in your last e-mail you sounded just a little bit more cheerful that's a good sign. Keep in touch and just remember you nover know when you will meet your miss right. Lots of people use charity shops these days, maybe she will be a customer!!!

Take care
Noofy

Amiga

Well I went for the Interview, things went well until I mentioned I was on JSA. This means if I get a full time job I have to stop any volunteer work ( maybe moving it to the weekend or evenings) Well the lady said this wasn't feasable as she needed a "real" commitment !?! I thought volunteers can pretty much come and go as they like, clearly not!

She said they may have something for me at weekends and she will call me if they do

property.advert

Amiga wrote: »

Well I went for the Interview, things went well until I mentioned I was on JSA. This means if I get a full time job I have to stop any volunteer work ( maybe moving it to the weekend or evenings) Well the lady said this wasn't feasable as she needed a "real" commitment !?! I thought volunteers can pretty much come and go as they like, clearly not!

She said they may have something for me at weekends and she will call me if they do

I truly found your thread such a good read. The way going through BR affects real life is somewhat lacking here and your posts just draw an accurate picture of how these rules operate in real life. Forget assumption and supposition, the real warts and all is what people need.

I actually find it no surprise that those in the charity shop have such a high handed attitude. They were rather pulled to pieces by a recent documentary series and I know from where I used to live in Islington in London, they were all very "up their own !!!!". Sod them and find someone more willing and grateful for your offer of assistance.

I hope you'll continue to post as you go through your BR.

Bethankim

Hi Amiga, what utter nonsense - volunteer shop woman that is...grrrrrrrrrr

I worked for years with volunteers,placing them in all sorts of roles. and she is talking out of her posterior

there are lots and lots of volunteer roles out there with decent 0rganisations, pm me petal and i will happily take you through the kinds of things out there and what would really suit you, and would give you good stuff to go on your CV, with a reference and possibly even a new direction.

silly baggage - her not me of course :rotfl::rotfl:

property.advert

Beware though of informing those at the benefits agency. See if you can but trust that they will most likely screw your benefits up and you inform them at your peril.

Amiga

property.advert wrote: »

I truly found your thread such a good read. The way going through BR affects real life is somewhat lacking here and your posts just draw an accurate picture of how these rules operate in real life. Forget assumption and supposition, the real warts and all is what people need.

I actually find it no surprise that those in the charity shop have such a high handed attitude. They were rather pulled to pieces by a recent documentary series and I know from where I used to live in Islington in London, they were all very "up their own !!!!". Sod them and find someone more willing and grateful for your offer of assistance.

I hope you'll continue to post as you go through your BR.

Thanks very much sir/madam! Nice to know it is helping and not just peeing too many people off ( apart from the lovely person who PM's me to say I derserve what is happening to me :rolleyes:)

When I started this I had two main aims really. First was when I read this forum back in March there was noone who seemed to be in trouble due to gambling. I knew there had to be more like me and wanted to see if I could help people as I went through the process. I write exactly what happens, I do want people to realise that there are massive ups and downs even after you go to court and meet with the OR.

The second reason isn't so noble I am afraid. I basically have noone to talk to about stuff like this. I now live 20-30 miles from my small group of friends and haven't seen them in months. I use this place to get support, gain knowledge and try in my own little way to give some back to the people who are in the postion I was in August.

I will carry on updating I have mostly sad days so I try not to update on one of them as I don't want to dampen peoples days too much


About the Benefits Agency, sadly I am totally reliant on them for money to buy food and pay rent, so if that means I can't do more than 10 hours unpaid work then so be it. I have found them to be really fair so far. It is the first time I ever signed on and there are doing a ok job considering the fact my local jobcentre seems to be filled to the rafters!

Thanks Beth, it is bedtime now but I will PM you tomorrow

**Upsy_Daisy**

Hi Amiga
I have no experience of gambling but have lots of experience of debt :beer:
Re charity shop snobs - are they a national charity shop? - if so please name and shame them - they obviously have a superiority complex and are best avoided all round

Sorry some saddo is PM'ing you via these boards, ther are quite a few inadequate saddoes around this site who take a vicarious pleasure in putting down those who are already feeling down and are vulnerable. just remember, you have hope and a future, those saddoes don't.

As for being bad looking (can't quite recall your terminology)
I was the ugliest female on the planet in my teens
i was very ugly and had a low self esteem in my twenties
Throughout my 30's I got better looking
In my 40's I am beautiful - no drop deads gorgeous
I look no different now (apart from wrinkles than I did in my teens, 20's 30's)
I haven't got any better looking at all. however...
My peers have got uglier and I have got a lot more confident in myself
I have children now and their beauty reflects back on me
That's what you need mate
Sod what everyone else says about your looks etc -10 years from now you will realise what a handsome little devil you really are
It's called growing older and wiser and realising that what is on the outside is nothing, it's that inner core of fulfillment and happiness where beauty resides.
(Just one thing - look after your teeth)

For crying out loud - don't give up on yourself at 31 - YOU ARE YOUNG and you have another 50 years plus ahead of you.
My son was born when I was 39 and DH was 58
Our twin girls were born when I was 43 and DH 62
For both of us these were our first experience of children/being parents

You have years ahead of you and you have been granted a fresh start - GO FOR IT

elephant-astic

**Upsy_Daisy** wrote: »

Hi Amiga
I have no experience of gambling but have lots of experience of debt :beer:
Re charity shop snobs - are they a national charity shop? - if so please name and shame them - they obviously have a superiority complex and are best avoided all round

Sorry some saddo is PM'ing you via these boards, ther are quite a few inadequate saddoes around this site who take a vicarious pleasure in putting down those who are already feeling down and are vulnerable. just remember, you have hope and a future, those saddoes don't.

As for being bad looking (can't quite recall your terminology)
I was the ugliest female on the planet in my teens
i was very ugly and had a low self esteem in my twenties
Throughout my 30's I got better looking
In my 40's I am beautiful - no drop deads gorgeous
I look no different now (apart from wrinkles than I did in my teens, 20's 30's)
I haven't got any better looking at all. however...
My peers have got uglier and I have got a lot more confident in myself
I have children now and their beauty reflects back on me
That's what you need mate
Sod what everyone else says about your looks etc -10 years from now you will realise what a handsome little devil you really are
It's called growing older and wiser and realising that what is on the outside is nothing, it's that inner core of fulfillment and happiness where beauty resides.
(Just one thing - look after your teeth)

For crying out loud - don't give up on yourself at 31 - YOU ARE YOUNG and you have another 50 years plus ahead of you.
My son was born when I was 39 and DH was 58
Our twin girls were born when I was 43 and DH 62
For both of us these were our first experience of children/being parents

You have years ahead of you and you have been granted a fresh start - GO FOR IT

Top advice, well put Upsy Daisy!

Noofywoo

Amiga,

Don't let the silly woman in the charity shop put you off. My mum's friend works in a Hospital shop and she always says as long as someone is willing to help it doesn't matter if they can do 1 or 21 hours, helping out is the main thing. Keep trying there is something out there for you.

Noofy :j

Amiga

**Upsy_Daisy** wrote: »

Hi Amiga
I have no experience of gambling but have lots of experience of debt :beer:
Re charity shop snobs - are they a national charity shop? - if so please name and shame them - they obviously have a superiority complex and are best avoided all round

Sorry some saddo is PM'ing you via these boards, ther are quite a few inadequate saddoes around this site who take a vicarious pleasure in putting down those who are already feeling down and are vulnerable. just remember, you have hope and a future, those saddoes don't.

As for being bad looking (can't quite recall your terminology)
I was the ugliest female on the planet in my teens
i was very ugly and had a low self esteem in my twenties
Throughout my 30's I got better looking
In my 40's I am beautiful - no drop deads gorgeous
I look no different now (apart from wrinkles than I did in my teens, 20's 30's)
I haven't got any better looking at all. however...
My peers have got uglier and I have got a lot more confident in myself
I have children now and their beauty reflects back on me
That's what you need mate
Sod what everyone else says about your looks etc -10 years from now you will realise what a handsome little devil you really are
It's called growing older and wiser and realising that what is on the outside is nothing, it's that inner core of fulfillment and happiness where beauty resides.
(Just one thing - look after your teeth)

For crying out loud - don't give up on yourself at 31 - YOU ARE YOUNG and you have another 50 years plus ahead of you.
My son was born when I was 39 and DH was 58
Our twin girls were born when I was 43 and DH 62
For both of us these were our first experience of children/being parents

You have years ahead of you and you have been granted a fresh start - GO FOR IT

Thanks for posting that! Very wise words indeed and you are of course correct

However (there is always a however with me!!) I have had years of being teased since I was very small, I thought after school this teasing would stop, but of course it didn't.

I will give you a example, my current landlady and her friends don't call me by my first name, I get called "Gollem" after the creature in Lord of the Rings. At my first job I was called "Merrick" after the elephant man. So you can see why no amount of counselling can remove years of peoples comments.

This has now totally reduced my self confidence to zero. There is more chance of Norwich City winning the champions league than me asking another girl out again. ( I have grew tired of the "I like you as a friend line")

Bless you Noofy

I am not going to volunteer. I know all places can't be like that but it took a lot for me to go in the shop and ask about jobs ( silly I know but again this goes back to the confidence thing) so will just continue to look for paid work. Hopefully a job ( any job) will allow me to get my own place and try and move forward as I can't carry on in the same way for much longer