Partner moving in and DLA or not?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

_shel wrote: »

This is actually very offensive. Please tell me as you are so knowledgeable just how to immigrants 'run our NHS into the ground' ?

Youand your kids have health problems, you have talked about them freely here, are YOU and you kids not a drain on the NHS, hleping run it into the ground? Docitors assesments, medication, counselling the list goes on.

Did you know immigrants dont get any priority for housing for the fact they immigrants/refuges/asylum seekers. In fact those with young children who are or at risk of homlessness are the highest priorty and given the most homes by LA's and HA's (no i didnt say single mums there are single dads and other family caring for children)

Did you also know those same immigrants usually get no access to public funds, and are no allowed to work despite having skills and wanting to. They are only allowed a special benefit of around £25 per week for all bills & food a lot more than you get no?

Do you really think the NI you paid for the time you did is the equivilant to what you are receiving in IS, IB, DLA for the whole family by the sounds of it, and the many other benfits you dont actually see as cash in hand like LHA, Medical care, medicine, Councial tax benefit, school uniform grants, free school meals etc etc etc

Because it will be nowhere near.

And no this is not me having a go at single mums. I have enough of them as friends and family and I was one of sorts bringing up my nephew since he was 10.

This is me having a go at you because you are a vile racist.

I was giving my own personal opinion which you have completely misunderstood & you are giving yours.

BTW I don't receive school uniform grants & I would give all the money back if myself & my son's could be normal.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

viktory wrote: »

I understand you perfectly.

Obviously not as I wasnt referring to the polital asylum immigrants but the ones that have flooded our country since their's have joined the EU.

Just because my political opinion is different to yours doesnt mean im racist if that were the case the majority of British people are racist in your eyes too.

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Originally Posted by Breast Cancer Survivor
No being Autistic means you have problems with communication, ie you have problems understanding what people are actually saying (although I don't think im having that problem in this instance) & that people don't understand what im trying to say (obviously you are having this problem in this instance).

Statements like this makes me wonder what you even know anything about or even have AS.

If you did you would know that these issues dont apply in the same capacity to communication like this and apply when face to face with someone, the missunderstanding comes from not being able to interpret body language, facial expressions, inuendo and not being able to understand jokes and hidden meanings.

Zara33

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

We also don't have the ability to tell lies so in effect we are the most honest, genuine & nice people you are ever likely to meet.

My autistic son can.

pipkin71

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The thing is, we are busy discussing here whether having someone stay over, receiving their post, having car insurance with them etc is classed as 'a couple' for benefit purposes and some have said that it's 'unfair' that people on benefits are not allowed a relationship.

But this is not the case is it? No one has actually suggested another alternative, which is don't have them stay over, don't receive their post, don't go on their car insurance - i.e. just be boyfriend and girlfriend and go out togther, or visit and then go home.That's having a relationship without being classed as a couple..

If you are doing the things a couple do, you will be classed as a couple. Fair enough I think!

Not staying over every now and then seems a bit harsh :eek: I don't think anyone on benefits would be penalised having someone stay every now and then, but this three nights thing seems to be a common thought.

Agree with the post and paying bills thing, and think with regards how often someone stays over, they will look at these other things to in order to establish a relationship pattern.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

_shel wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by Breast Cancer Survivor
No being Autistic means you have problems with communication, ie you have problems understanding what people are actually saying (although I don't think im having that problem in this instance) & that people don't understand what im trying to say (obviously you are having this problem in this instance).

Statements like this makes me wonder what you even know anything about or even have AS.

If you did you would know that these issues dont apply in the same capacity to communication like this and apply when face to face with someone, the missunderstanding comes from not being able to interpret body language, facial expressions, inuendo and not being able to understand jokes and hidden meanings.

I was diagnosed with Asperger's 3 years ago & have obviously lived with it all my life, no 2 people who have it are the same as it is a autistic spectrum disorder.

I didnt come on this site to upset people nor to have people upset me but both these things happen frequently.

I know I say things to offend people, I don't mean to (ever) but that is usually the outcome, obviously my communication problems are quite severe.

It does upset me when people make negative comments or insinuate that im lying as I take these a personal attack, put up my defences & fight back, you can see the outcome of this clearly.

You don't like me, join the queue, im used to it now, it upsets me but what can I do?

I am what I am & despite how it may come across I am a nice person, maybe im too opionated for my own good but thats how my Asperger's effects me personally.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Zara33 wrote: »

My autistic son can.

I can assure you that I can't neither can my son, obviously not ever single autistic person is exactly the same, im just going on what Tony Attwood the leading expert on Asperger's has said.

Zara33

It's actually an autistic spectrum condition DISORDER is no longer PC

Zara33

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I can assure you that I can't neither can my son, obviously not ever single autistic person is exactly the same, im just going on what Tony Attwood the leading expert on Asperger's has said.

Perhaps would could carry this discussion on the relevant board rather than disturbing this thread further?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Zara33 wrote: »

It's actually an autistic spectrum condition DISORDER is no longer PC

So why has my son been diagnosed with ASD not ASC?