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Bunnie1982

That is really harsh of them to do that, keep you hanging on for so long and then turn round and do that to you, some employers really frustrate me.

Louise22

Bunnie1982 wrote: »

That is really harsh of them to do that, keep you hanging on for so long and then turn round and do that to you, some employers really frustrate me.

well its not all over yet - some things came back dodgy on my referencing, things I were not expecting and they want me to put it into writing explaining things. Now, part of me is thinking that if it were a definite NO, then would they ask me to explain things in a letter? Is this them giving me a chance because they want to employ me? so confused.....

Bunnie1982

That is really confusing, I'm guessing they told you what came back on your references?

Louise22

Bunnie1982 wrote: »

That is really confusing, I'm guessing they told you what came back on your references?

Yeah, and the person I am dealing with said "normally this would be enough to withdraw your offer of employment but HR asked me to speak to you....". Then he said they want to see in writing me explaining certain things. Surely if it was a straight no they would have just said no?

sackcloth

Hi Bunnie, good for you for taking the plunge and resigning. Just because it's desperate times doesn't mean we have to be taken advantage of. I have a similar situation where I am now really suffering with my RSI problem which I haven't had since I was last in an office. And it's agony. But needs must and I'm trying to be a tough cookie for a little while longer. Just until I get my other iron ready. And it's a complete career change for me too so am quite excited!

Louise, I am SO SORRY that you are having to jump through hoops for this role. It doesn't seem very fair and I know you won't want to go into specifics publically, but if I can help at all, let me know. To be honest, I think that it's a little indiscreet of the staff member to be so frank at this stage and a bit of a tease (sort of leading you on) to keep you dangling like this. It's stressful enough already. And I'm not sure what the law is on ex-employers giving bad references either, so check it out with the CAB if you need to.

I know how much you want this role so I'll keep lots of positive thoughts for you and try and stay positive in your written replies. Actually, wouldn't it be better for them to see you at the same time so you can talk it through?

Finally, don't take the other job that you don't like unless you are really desperate for money. Something will come along.

Yippee it's the afternoon,
Sackcloth... :T

sackcloth

Oh and Louise, if the very worst does happen and you do get rejected, don't feel down. It is their loss not yours and maybe it wasn't to be.

What I would suggest is contacting the company that have caused you the referencing problems to find out what you can do to improve things? Find out why they have issues still and see if you can talk it through with them. The very basic reference they can offer is a confirmation of date you worked for them and that you were employed by them. They don't have to go into specifics. Talk to the CAB.

Finally, if this area is the one you want to go into, then look around for another company with similar roles. Canvass all the ones you want to work for and rework your CV. If you do have any problems with referencing, be ready for answers when you have your initial interview. You can turn this around.

Chin up, chicken!
Sackcloth.

Louise22

sackcloth wrote: »

Oh and Louise, if the very worst does happen and you do get rejected, don't feel down. It is their loss not yours and maybe it wasn't to be.

What I would suggest is contacting the company that have caused you the referencing problems to find out what you can do to improve things? Find out why they have issues still and see if you can talk it through with them. The very basic reference they can offer is a confirmation of date you worked for them and that you were employed by them. They don't have to go into specifics. Talk to the CAB.

Finally, if this area is the one you want to go into, then look around for another company with similar roles. Canvass all the ones you want to work for and rework your CV. If you do have any problems with referencing, be ready for answers when you have your initial interview. You can turn this around.

Chin up, chicken!
Sackcloth.

Thanks

I am trying not to be down about it and I am putting it into perspective. I know I will get something in the end. I am remaining positive

Bunnie1982

Thanks for your words of support sackcloth.

I'm keeping myself ticking over, have got an interview already for tomorrow. It's only temp work but it is doing something I want to be doing so we'll see how that goes and will keep everything crossed.

Have cleaned the lounge and also been doing some of my husbands Betterware books.

Louise22

haha as if things couldn't be bad enough! I accidently emailed the draft copy of the letter I was going to send to the HR people instead of the proper one! How stupid am i? Has this put the final nail in the coffin?

chicacherrycola

Louise: Whoops! I'm sorry its not worked out as you'd wanted. I discovered the other day after sending a bunch of covering letters that there was a glaring grammatical error in the third paragraph. Blunder. And I'd proofread them and spotted other mistakes. Fingers crossed it's overlooked!

I'm so cheesed off at the moment. I just feel totally lost and out of my depth with this job hunting malarky

*sigh*

Still, positive thoughts all round.