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Lollypop75

sackcloth wrote: »

Hello all and glad to see you've all been busy in my absence!! :T Well done to everyone who's been busy, got an interview or landed that job. I'm delighted to hear that everyone is staying positive too... :j

Bad news though, on the job front for Sackcloth. Having started the new job with high hopes and knowing that we had no money, no prospects and I had to take the first job I was offered, I am now feeling very down and tearful.

The job's okay... actually, it's probably a very good job with good prospects - it's just it's not right for me. I re-read my original posting to you all and the signs were there that I had reservations, even my OH had reservations and just because the office didn't move, doesn't mean that the job was the right one. My concerns about being flexible 24/7 have certainly been right and I am now pretty much on call all the time something I was adamant that I didn't want at the beginning of my search. However, with the recession biting badly, it just didn't happen and now I'm stuck in a job that I feel is going to take over my whole life and I'm incredibly overwhelmed.

I thought it might be adjusting back to work and having been off for such a long time but the truth is that I had to convince myself to take this role because it really wasn't what I wanted to do. I never let on to my OH that I hated the idea of going back in to the same line of work and although he is supportive, he's a bit surprised that I am feeling so down this early on.

I always felt really positive about getting another job but I guess in the end I had to settle for something - anything. And I feel more resentful than I did when I first was made redundant, damn it!!! :mad:

Of course, I'm not going to give up the job - we really do need the money but please could you all tell me how stupid I am so I can knuckle down and get on with this job without moaning???!!! :eek:

Yours in despair...
Sackcloth...

Really sorry to hear you're not happy in your new job.....

rosered1963

sackcloth wrote: »

Hello all and glad to see you've all been busy in my absence!! :T Well done to everyone who's been busy, got an interview or landed that job. I'm delighted to hear that everyone is staying positive too... :j

Bad news though, on the job front for Sackcloth. Having started the new job with high hopes and knowing that we had no money, no prospects and I had to take the first job I was offered, I am now feeling very down and tearful.

The job's okay... actually, it's probably a very good job with good prospects - it's just it's not right for me. I re-read my original posting to you all and the signs were there that I had reservations, even my OH had reservations and just because the office didn't move, doesn't mean that the job was the right one. My concerns about being flexible 24/7 have certainly been right and I am now pretty much on call all the time something I was adamant that I didn't want at the beginning of my search. However, with the recession biting badly, it just didn't happen and now I'm stuck in a job that I feel is going to take over my whole life and I'm incredibly overwhelmed.

I thought it might be adjusting back to work and having been off for such a long time but the truth is that I had to convince myself to take this role because it really wasn't what I wanted to do. I never let on to my OH that I hated the idea of going back in to the same line of work and although he is supportive, he's a bit surprised that I am feeling so down this early on.

I always felt really positive about getting another job but I guess in the end I had to settle for something - anything. And I feel more resentful than I did when I first was made redundant, damn it!!! :mad:

Of course, I'm not going to give up the job - we really do need the money but please could you all tell me how stupid I am so I can knuckle down and get on with this job without moaning???!!! :eek:

Yours in despair...
Sackcloth...

Hi Sackcloth - you are the furthest away person from being a "moaner" I have met (on the interweb!!). I really know how you feel - I went back to my line of work last year for 8 months even though I knew I hated it and didn't want to do it - I felt I really had to. Your gut feeling told you "no" about this job, but logically it seemed the right thing to do. To keep yourself sane, you could say you are going to do six months then get yourself in a position to leave. I do know how you feel - it's all very well people saying "stick it out - you're lucky to have a job in a recession", but really, life is so short. I regret bitterly staying in my last job for three years more than I wanted to. I wish I had cut loose much earlier, but I was afraid of what people would say if I turned my back on the job, which on the face of it, looked very impressive (it was not - everyone was the boss of me and I was on 24 hour call and had no life). I would do what your gut feeling tells you to do.

As for your OH - mine just wants me to be happy, and doesn't care what job I do as long as I am happy - I bet yours is the same. He'll support you. You maybe talked yourself into this job out of what you felt was neccessity. When you feel hemmed in by a job you don't want or like that curtails your freedom entirely, remember that you do have a choice.

Sorry I can't be more helpful. Lots of love RRX

Louise22

Hi guys - how are we all doing?

chicacherrycola

Hello Troupers!

I've been following this thread for some time and thought I should stop by and say hello this time. I hope you don't mind me gatecrashing but I'm about to kick my job hunt up several gears and you all seem so positive i'm hoping the good vibes will rub off.

so hi my name is chicacherrycola and I'm unemployed.

I finished my degree in June and got a 2:1 (woo! I'm pleased because i worked really hard for it) I had a bit of a mental holiday and applied to a bunch of jobs without much (any) success. I then arranged some work experience in the industry that i want to get into and that ends tomorrow. Its been really interesting and will hopefully be noticed on my cv. Also it was nice to have a reason to get up in the mornings. Next week I need kick my job hunt into over drive and i'm pretty much dreading it. I dont do rejection well and every 'no thanks' i've had so far feels like a dig at my self confidence. Do you have any strategies for not taking it personally?

anywho, i've waffled on for long enough. thanks for reading and being so nice to each other - it is nice to see a positive thread without serial whingers or arguments.

take care

xxx

Louise22

chicacherrycola wrote: »

Hello Troupers!

I've been following this thread for some time and thought I should stop by and say hello this time. I hope you don't mind me gatecrashing but I'm about to kick my job hunt up several gears and you all seem so positive i'm hoping the good vibes will rub off.

so hi my name is chicacherrycola and I'm unemployed.

I finished my degree in June and got a 2:1 (woo! I'm pleased because i worked really hard for it) I had a bit of a mental holiday and applied to a bunch of jobs without much (any) success. I then arranged some work experience in the industry that i want to get into and that ends tomorrow. Its been really interesting and will hopefully be noticed on my cv. Also it was nice to have a reason to get up in the mornings. Next week I need kick my job hunt into over drive and i'm pretty much dreading it. I dont do rejection well and every 'no thanks' i've had so far feels like a dig at my self confidence. Do you have any strategies for not taking it personally?

anywho, i've waffled on for long enough. thanks for reading and being so nice to each other - it is nice to see a positive thread without serial whingers or arguments.

take care

xxx

hello cccola! :T

rosered1963

Hi Chica - big congratulations on your degree! Good luck with the job hunting. I know what you mean about handling rejection - no doubt the thread gurus will be along to help soon

Hia Louise!

I don;t have much to report - just waiting to hear if I have the security clearance fot the shop job in the army barracks. I haven't seen much more to apply for since I was last on here.

Hi to everyone

RRX

Louise22

Same here - still waiting for my vetting to clear - its taking its time!

Glad you are well

scrooge2008

Hi all,

Well I am staying in a beautiful villa in Menorca. It should be the height of the holiday season here, but it is so so quiet. Every second villa is up for sale and the restaurants are almost empty. Prices are about 30% more expensive than in the UK too.

Still we are having a lovely time. We like a quiet life and the island is so pretty.

Talking to the locals here and in comparison things seem to be much better in the UK. They say that tourism is almost dead here and the island economy depends on it.

Sackcloth, don´t think of your job as the one for life. You took it for good reasons that are still valid. One of my many escapades this last year was as a cleaning supervisor. It was the hardest job I have ever done in my life. I was supervising 26 contracts, with staff who spoke very little English and I was forever covering shifts as staff called in sick etc at the last moment. I lasted a month, and was totally exhausted by the end of the experience.

I ended up leaving and just keeping one of the contracts on, that is the one that I am now doing most of my account and debt collecting work for. I still do their cleaning too.

Just view it as a stepping stone, something better will come along soon. Just don´t give up and resign yourself totally to it.

Hope those references come through soon everyone. So slow.

Off now to the pool and the vino. xx

rosered1963

Hi Scrooge - lovely to hear from you and very interesting to hear about how things are in Menorca - it used to be massively busy in August, I remember.

Hope you are having a lovely holiday.

medini

Hi guys. I had my 13 week interview today. I actually spoke to somebody at the job centre who looked at me and didn't mind questions :j. I have spotted a couple of tempting jobs floating around the jcp website this morning so Im crossing my fingers and toes etc.