Today is a new day!

mum2one

P+F, worried about you, hope everything is going ok and you have got somewhere with the new school, following on from you, everything kicked off at DD's school, the school got welfare involved with a view to social services, - till we gave welfare a few home trues about the school. Good news we managed to get DD into new school 10 minutes further, she started last week, within 2 days - the difference in her is unbeliveable.
The school suggested waiting till Sept so she could start yr 6, - then when I mentioned be home education and how serious the issues have been, doors opened and she was straight in.

You both take care xxx

POSITIVE_AND_FOCUSED

So sorry everyone, didn't mean to cause alarm. This last month has been a rollercoaster, more upsetting than not but I think I have finally managed to put things to bed as far as they can be. Dd is NOT changing schools. I went to look at another school only for a friend to tell me of problems there and I just couldn't do it. So many sleepless nights wondering what to do for the best. Dd is happy at this school and she has one more year after this one. I didn't want to end up "punishing" her and causing resentment or other problems by making her change schools for something that I will never truly know the ins and outs of. It's her word against a school who have already proved from 2010 do not follow "best practise " in govt guidelines. For me, I have written to the school, 4 copies so every teacher involved with the situation knows where I am coming from. I have quoted various guidelines. I have sent a copy to the Governors and a copy to the Parent Advisor who Social Services allocated to me because the case is not serious enough for Soicial Services to become involved. In fact I am not seeing the Parent Advisor anymore either. She is happy to "sign me off" and is happy with how I am with dd etc. And so she should be!

So, thats it. Ordeal over as far as it can be. I know that if I was to take the situation further, obtain a copy of the referral etc I would be opening myself up to more stress. The Social Worker has urged me to not obtain a copy simply because he says there is no need as nothing more is coming of it. At the time I was just aware of everyone involved reading from bits of paper asking me things when I had absolutely nothing to refer to whatsoever.

All I need to do is keep going for a further year. Then dd will be at a new school and we can move on positively.

Financially, all the progress I made in April has been offset by May comparible poor progress as I had appointments to fit in, some days I just couldn't get myself together as I was so tearful about what had happened and was trying to make sense of how it all came about. Dd was feeling so confused about everything. I won't go into specific details other than the referral came about from her being with 2 teachers for 90 minutes and I knew nothing of what transpired for 4 days. They sent her home over a BH weekend and I will never know if they encouraged her to keep quiet or whether she simply forgot about those 90 minutes at the end of the school day she was with 2 teachers asking her questions. Anyway, its over now. Hopefully.

So, for June, my focus over the next week is to finalise my tax return, get some good sales in, start phoning prospects and maintain our attendance at swimming and the gym. The physio is so pleased with my progress that she has discharged me. All I have to do is use a walking stick every time I go out which is difficult when I walk shorter distances because with only one good arm the practicalities make it difficult! But I am using a stick for longer distances and trying to be good by not forgetting to take it! Nevertheless, I plan to do my best in the gym to keep myself in the best shape possible. When stress strikes I notice it in my walking and during May I thank on high I had no falls. Thats another reason why I can not afford to take on the school again like I did in 2010. I have to accept my energies are limited and so I need to focus on positive things and making sure dd is happy and I keep on top of the finances. Which leads me on to say in closing that during May we discovered scouts and dd is in the progresas of joining. I am so happy about that, she is in her element and so I really feel it was meant to be coming at the time it has.

Thank you, sorry for the long post. Will get back into the rythmn of posting again this month!

mum2one

As long as you and DD are ok thats all that matters, glad you got the situ sorted out, as you say youve only got a yr left there, and by the time you take out the school hols soon fly by.

I'm plzed ur getting there with the fitness and sounds like the gym is really doing u the world off gd.

Thats brill DD is joining the scouts, give her some independance, and a fresh start xxx

beanielou

SWhat a bleeping carry on.
But as you say only a year to go.
Keep plodding xx

Verbatim

So sorry to hear about the useless efforts at you dd's school but I'm glad you're through it now.

I might be inclined to get a copy of that report as it will stay "on file" and it might be a good idea to reply to it in writing at this time when it's all fresh in your mind in case any thing comes up in the future. I quite understand about the stress tho'.

POSITIVE_AND_FOCUSED

Following last week's entry I have managed to get my tax return paperwork finalised and to my accountant. Sales are picking up again after last month's dip and have sold £500 in half a week, right on target, still to get on with prospect calling but thats in hand. Have managed to go swimming with dd twice this week and plan to go to the gym in a couple of hours before collecting dd from school. Lots to keep on top of but feel so much better about where I am at. Plan to revisit my goals and weekly plan to check where I am at there ...

Re the school have received three letters. One from a Parent Advisor confirming there are "no obvious signs of concern". One from the Head confirming my letter will be added to dd's file. My "paper trail" of whats gone on. Then the third from the Head Governor with...A WRITTEN APOLOGY..for the "stress and worry caused". Result, to me that acknowledges we have once again been treated incorrectly and is more than I thought I would ever get given an apology last time took months so all things considered I am relieved and pleased. All of this will go on dd's file so gives the balance I want.... Meanwhile a letter from the Head has gone out about the use of the disabled parking spaces and congestion in parking area, how there have been complaints from disabled parents etc etc which is true but she omits to say the reason for the congestion is that school staff park in the disabled parking areas and if they didn't there would be a lot more room!A typical example of how the situation is "twisted".. There was really no need to say disabled parents and parents of disabled children were complaining whatsoever. Make us out to be the "bad" guys. Anyway, its all settling down. I will just ride the wave for the next year. Dd is settled and happy and thats what I need to focus on. That and our lives together, focus on the quality of our family life and my business.

Other good news, am able to allocate more debt to my asda card which offers me 0% for a year so that will help in the long term. Also plan to look into my home insurance which I believe I can get a lot cheaper. Lots going on with Adult Social Care too which I hope will be positive. Take care!

beanielou

Positive news on the apology.
The year will hopefully go quickly.
You take care too.

mum2one

To get an apology is wow, glad there put it on file, its not fair to you and DD, hopefully this will be the last time.

Glad things are on the up xxxx

Verbatim

All sounding good there. Well PAF. All power to your elbow!

POSITIVE_AND_FOCUSED

So, things are continuing to move on calmly. Dd had a sleepover at the school with the rest of her year last Friday and I saw the Head and two other of the teachers involved in the recent "saga" and they were all extremely welcoming to me. The Head waved at me the other day too! Well, I'm happy to keep the peace for one more year and then heave a sigh of relief!!But if I have to continue to fight to be treated fairly I will. The main thing is dd seems uneffected by what went on. We are just getting on as normal..

Dd is being invested in a local Scout group this evening which for the last 6 weeks has been a wonderful addition to our lives. She is learning so many new things and having such fun. I am meeting new acquaintances and enjoying it all too. So, I have got dd a proper scout blouse and I willbe a proud mum this eve watching her repeat the "Scout promise" and being enroled. ..

Business is steady, financially would like a bit more flexibility but I'm not going into more debt, it's tight but its all going in the right direction. Everything continues to be paid on time. Desperately need a new computer but first need to pay my accountant who has finalised my accounts this week. It's all in hand!

Taking dd swimming later before scouts. Yes, we are doing ok, and being proactive in making our lives more fun and interesting other than it being about just work, chores and school, homework!!!Trying to make the most of each day positively and keep doing my best...