Partner pawned my dead nans ring without my permission

Dinah93

dotstar24 wrote: »

Hi all just an update. well he's still here but I'm upstairs and he's down there smoking that cr ap/ i just blew my top at him and said i was sick of being poisoned by it. the more time goes on, the further i can feel myself drifting away from him. when he says he's gonna be late in or is popping to a friends house I'm almost relieved and enjoy the time i have on my own (LO is usually in bed).
I have such cr ap taste in men. sorry, just need to vent. x

Throw him out, you're sick of being poisioned by it - think how much worse it is for your son! His body and brain is still developing and you have no idea how being around all that smoke is going to affect him.

Pee

You've given him a chance. You have tried your best. If you are pleased when he is not there and in a different room when he is there, then I think you should be looking at options were you to ask him to leave.

You may find that if you ask him to leave, he will pull himself together and start treating you properly, but I wouldn't hold your breath. You deserve so much more than this. I don't suppose you think you do. You just don't realise it. When we are treated badly, we think that is all that we deserve.

Although Refuge is a charity for where there is abuse, they have lots of helpful info about how to sort things out and get rid.

dotstar24

It’s all so depressing. He started saying last night ‘you’re trying to change me’ ‘you had no problem with it when we first met’. Tried to explain that having kids usually means people grow up…

I’m not saying I’m ready to throw him out. It’s like its just happening gradually.

Pee

I am not sure that having children makes men "grow up" in the same way that it does women.

Pee

You do deserve to be treated properly.

(I don't have any particular issue with cannabis, but when you want to be in a different room... and smoking around a child is not a good thing, whatever someone is smoking.)

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dotstar24 wrote: »

It’s all so depressing. He started saying last night ‘you’re trying to change me’ ‘you had no problem with it when we first met’. Tried to explain that having kids usually means people grow up…

I’m not saying I’m ready to throw him out. It’s like its just happening gradually.

Chuck the loser out !!!!! :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

mrbrightside842

If I were you, I'd run a credit report. If he's pawning your things, he could well have got you into a joint debt with him without him knowing, or could be in debt yourself. I'd want to put my mint at ease and find out. I think you can do it through Experian, but I'm sure someone else will let you know how to do it, if you feel you'd like to.

dotstar24

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

If I were you, I'd run a credit report. If he's pawning your things, he could well have got you into a joint debt with him without him knowing, or could be in debt yourself. I'd want to put my mint at ease and find out. I think you can do it through Experian, but I'm sure someone else will let you know how to do it, if you feel you'd like to.

thanks but i dont have any ID to open a new account and he's dyslexic so i have to fill all forms out for him. plus i always pick up the mail in our house.

Katie-Kat-Kins

Oh get out please!

He clearly has no respect for you or your children or he wouldn't be doing drugs in the presence of his son and unborn baby. He would also be making efforts to at least avoid exposing you to this.

It is even more worrying that you say he is only normal when he is smoking the stuff and not when he is clean. It is clear that he is not someone who should be around you or your children, it sounds as though you are frightened of his outbursts and this rings alarm bells for me.

Please put in place arrangements so that you can leave or kick him out before he does anything worse. Think about the safety and well being of your children and think about how your life will go if you remain with him and he refuses to change. You can always tell him that you will consider taking him back if he remains clean for over a year and gets his anger issues under control. That would at least give him a last chance and an incentive but to be honest I think he has had all the chances he needs.

furndire

Is he on anything stronger than canabis as well? I thought it just made you chilled out - anger - stealing - hmmm