Partner pawned my dead nans ring without my permission

Dinah93

My ex was a weed smoker, while most people get very chilled out on it, they get very, very stressed without it if they are a heavy user smoking most days. He would get very angry, throwing things when he didn't have any. He also stole, money off friends and my little brothers ipod, it was horrible what he felt justified in doing as it was my choice to have him in my life, but my brother deserved better and I should have protected my family and friends from such a negative person.

Pssst

You will just suffer him and eventually it will pass.

Thats how it goes doesnt it?

Better to live alone than to live with someone who you cant bear to look at any more?

Personally,i cannot stand pot heads who think it is so right on and cool to smoke that filth and i wouldnt countenance its consumption under my roof,especially with a child in the house.

Just my choice.

As for communicating via text...well you just know thats a cop out and so Jeremy Kyle.
If its your house, just give him notice to quite. If he hasnt left by due date, phone the police and have him removed.

He is nothing more than a parasite living off you.

Send him home to his mother. Hopefully she can try and make up for her obvious poor parentings before he inflicts his thieving carcass on some other poor woman.

dotstar24

Pssst wrote: »

Send him home to his mother. Hopefully she can try and make up for her obvious poor parentings before he inflicts his thieving carcass on some other poor woman.

thats a little harsh. his mum is a lovely woman. her other son is a teetotal church goer. some people choose to take certain paths in life...no matter how good an unbringing they've had or not.

quick update. i am 200 miles away at my mums. doc signed me off with stress. told her about the ring, she's disgusted. he rang earlier, ranting asking why i'd gone. weed and ring ofcourse! he said 'dont bother coming back then slag' and hung the phone up. might make an appointment with the housing officer here to see what my options are. i'd rather be near my family and friends

jenhug

weldone dot star for taking a positive step.

skylight

Best of luck with it all.


If the tenancy is in your name only, then he better have shifted his butt for when you get home; cheeky git. Your own council should be able to help with home swaps and stuff then.

ailuro2

Get down to the housing office quick, before you have a change of heart.

It's over with him, and has been for quite some time, but it's very hard to admit it sometimes, it's as if we're admitting defeat, don't you think?

Well, this isn't a defeat, this is a victory for your LO and the LO in your tum.
Having a stoner for a father and a mother who lets him smoke weed in the house where kids can breathe it in / absorb it from the surroundings is not the best place for kids to grow up.

If you Ex's mother is a good soul then she might take him in. With any luck he'll quickly find someone else and not pester you.;)

The best of Luck to you and your kids.:D

dotstar24

skylight wrote: »

If the tenancy is in your name only, then he better have shifted his butt for when you get home; cheeky git. Your own council should be able to help with home swaps and stuff then.

we rent privately.

chocdonuty

I rented privately when i upped sticks miles away and left from a bullying husband, at that point he wasn't living with me but the tenancy was in both our names, I simply wrote a letter as soon as i had left (was a very rushed decision to move) cancelled the dd and apologised, I expected to lose the deposit and never actually asked for it, according to my neighbour they were fine about it all, I'd contact them asap and definatly cancel the dd, it's not your problem anymore.

skylight

dotstar24 wrote: »

we rent privately.

Apologies for my assumption.


In that case, get yourself and take your Mum to this council this morning and see. Look for the good bits today - the kids laughing, the amazing colour of a sky (even when raining), stop and watch any raindrops, check out everything around you. It does help calm you and the gentle smile it will bring shows you that its not an end; its a new beginning.

dotstar24

furndire wrote: »

Is he on anything stronger than canabis as well? I thought it just made you chilled out - anger - stealing - hmmm

thats what i thought before i was with him...