Stop me getting arrested!!!

ChrisCobra

ceebeeby wrote: »

You say you can see the park from your window - could you record what happens (phone video or camera video mode?). Presumably you're watching him the whole time anyway, so would just be a case of recording what's going on??

Or maybe ask the council to set up CCTV?

It took me almost 15 months to get CCTV in my old place in Wales , its worth doing but not really a short term solution

xx_Jo_xx

Ooooooh, totally unrelated (sorry OP), but i was born in scotland and now live in Wales!

I wonder if I'll end up in vikingland too!

SammyD_2

First, sorry to hear of your troubles. I feel for you.
You can't force kids to be nice to your son. At their age, reasoning (or threats) from you are not going to work. While they kids sound really mean and horrible, I don't think that the police would be interested, or the parents.

I just don't think you should let your son be in the situation he is in. I know you say he wants to go to the park, but I think you should ensure he is never there alone, and that he can either go with you or with a friend. Village or not, 7 is pretty young to be going by himself. You have no control over how the others respond to your son, so the only alternative is to take him out of the situation.

What happens at school - is it the same there?

shazrobo

i think an immature 7 yr old is too young to play in the park unsupervised too.
as for the bullying, the best thing is to ring the police and tell them you wish to press charges for assault.
does the bullying happen in school, and if so what is the school doing about it?

SuziQ

I haven't read this whole thread but am really quite shocked that you think it's ok to send a 7 year old to the park alone-whether you can keep an eye through the window or not. (there is no way I believe that you NEVER take your eyes off him,or that you can see EVERY bit of the park!)
Unsavoury people hang around parks to pick off the very kids that are unsupervised. I live in a really nice area but NOW WAY would I allow any of my children to go the park alone.

Look at it this way: God forbit he goes missing from there. You contact the police,and they ask who was with him at the park..............................their reaction when the learn that a 7 year old was there alone? Perhaps I am jaundiced by working in Child protection for 20 years but all the work I have done with the police has shown me that some risks are just not worth it.

There is no actual specified age in this country when you are legally allowed to leave a child alone,however the law states that should a child under the age of 13 come to harm whilst unsupervised then the pwc can be prosecuted.

SuziQ

cazscoob wrote: »

living in a village is so different than living in town/city. my little boy is 7 and there is no way i could keep him in or go out with him everytime he wanted to play. village kids have a lot more freedom as there is always a nosey neighbour or someone around!

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Loads of children are abducted/molested in village settings,it's not just in inner cities!

BTW my goddaughters live in a beautiful litle village in kent. They were sexually abused by a 'nosey neighbour' and my friend now admits she was very naive to think that villages only have nice people living in them.She knew this guy for years-and the girl were both older than 7.

It goes to court for sentancing on monday. Have you any idea how many sleepless nights my friend and her husband have had since this broke,and how guilty and heartbroken they feel? The girls have been allowed no counselling until after the case is finally finished and have not been allowed to talk to anyone-even their parents-about it in case of jeopardising the case. They are both in bits and may never fully recover emotionally-the only solace is that they are both still alive.

My kids are the most precious things in my life and if they want to play either I go with them or if I am busy they wait until we can go toegther.

littlelaurakate

hi there, I don't really have any helpful suggestions that haven't already been mentioned. The only thing I can think is this, do you have any family friends with older children that could go along to the park with your son? Obviously these would have to be kids that he knows well enough to go along with. This may just offer an easy solution.

I also live in a very small town, very isolated from anywhere else (unusually so!!). We have a park on our doorstep and although my kids are only very little now 18 months and 3. I would like to think that being as I am able to literally see them at all times, I would let them play out on the park at your DS's age; it is simply an extension of our garden. I think it is hard to appreciate your physical and geographical set up; but as you are clearly very upset and outraged at your son's situation I find it unlikely that you are the irresponsible parent that people are suggesting!!

Burlesque_Babe

Do you have any community police in your area? They would be good allies to chat to if they are around the village.

alm721

suekjw wrote: »

Have to agree with this. My DS is 7 and I wouldn't let him, certainly not in those circumstances. Can't you invite his own friends round to play?

Also agree there's no way on earth would my 7 year old be out in the park unsupervised in the first place. The fact that he is being bullied to this extent, to be honest is dreadful. I really can't believe you let him go there on his own when you know this is going on. Either keep him away or go with him!

suekjw

tiamai_d wrote: »

If I say he is not allowed to go to the park he throws a strop and just doesn't understand why not. I try explaining that so and so is there and it will just end up in a fight but he simply says he will run away/fight back etc. I'm then made to feel the bad one for not letting him go have fun. And then he gets hard to deal with because 1 he is in a mood and 2 he hasn't expelled all his energy. The back garden and his room are boring ofcourse :rolleyes:

Throwing strops is what 7 year olds do! My DS gets stroppy when I get him up in the morning! Honestly, I can understand you wanting to give him independence but he is 7 and being picked on. If you don't feel your being on the park with him stops the little thugs, the only way you are going to stop him getting picked on is to remove him from the situation.