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  • tamlem
    tamlem Posts: 483 Forumite
    tiamai_d wrote: »
    What would they do though? I just assumed they would be unable to do anything and put it down to 'kids being kids'??

    They can certainly make a visit to the kids parents and have a chat with the children themselves, I know that this has happened in our area but probably only with the older ones. It's got to be worth a try? They might have some useful advice for you or be able to suggest ways forward?
  • mammamia2
    mammamia2 Posts: 83 Forumite
    have to agree my dd is 7 and no way would i let her out on her own . Why not find other things for your child to do ,after school clubs and summer day centres etc etc or take him and siblings to different park .there is loads to do with your son that is entertaining and protecting him at the same time .

    i know it is heartbreaking to know that your child is being picked on but if all else fails take him away from the situation (dont let him go to the park)
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  • notlongnow_2
    notlongnow_2 Posts: 694 Forumite
    My boys are 8 and 10 and I wouldnt let them go to the park by themselves. if they wanted to go, then I would go with them. Personally I think 7 is too young, especially as you say he is immature for his age. I appreciate that you say the park is next door to where you live but you never know who is lurking around, and my biggest fear is abduction(entirely personal view).

    I certainly wouldnt be letting my boys go to the park knowing that one is going to get a punch/kick/have stones thrown at them or to have their personal things broken, especially if I heard these thugs shout that my boy is coming as I opened the door.

    Must be very difficult for you. Seems like you have a brave little boy and I really hope things improve for him.

    Good luck.
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  • hollydays
    hollydays Posts: 19,812 Forumite
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    Ah,villages,well,definitely speak to the teachers!!

    I can feel that you are really suffering worrying about him.

    I used to have a thing i did with my kids each night.

    I would say to them "Tell me 2 good things that happened to you today,and two not so good things"

    Villages ARE different.
  • cazscoob
    cazscoob Posts: 4,990 Forumite
    living in a village is so different than living in town/city. my little boy is 7 and there is no way i could keep him in or go out with him everytime he wanted to play. village kids have a lot more freedom as there is always a nosey neighbour or someone around!

    i would contact the police they CAN do something, also contact the school and tell them that they have to do something about this and if they dont take action then you have no option and will go to the local MP and press. your son has every right to be out their playing and he/you shouldnt have to worry every time he goes out.
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  • suekjw
    suekjw Posts: 866 Forumite
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    I live in a village and wouldn't allow it. There obviously isn't a nosy neighbour if he is getting picked on like that. :( It's only this year my two have been allowed off playing in the street without my heart going in my mouth!
  • Bettyboop
    Bettyboop Posts: 1,343 Forumite
    tamlem wrote: »
    For goodness sake dont do this or video them as advised by BB earlier. In this day and age you could end up getting yourself into trouble recording images of these kids without permission (although I can see the motive in suggesting it).

    I really feel for you and your son, it sounds like a difficult situation. I don't really have any useful advice but i do agree with bluemonkey that none of my 4 would have be going to the park unattended at this age, but that doesn't excuse what is happening.

    I think with the older children involved you should certainly think about contacting the police. That's the strategy that the police themselves have advised in our area with the few kids that cause trouble and bully others.

    Good luck, I hope you find a way forward.

    well these kids are bullying her son - who gave them permission to do that? Two wrongs don't make a right but the purposes of recording would be as evidence... we all know the police don't always take everything seriously but with evidence how can they not? It will also open the eyes of these kids parents.... It should not be tolerated. I know what you may be getting at and I would hope none of us would just be recording things for no reason. But clearly these kids are a problem.... other than paying for a park security guard this little boy will continue getting bullied... that's not right in my view!


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  • Bettyboop
    Bettyboop Posts: 1,343 Forumite
    I don't want to throw a spanner in the works but as they know where you live they could target your property? Let's hope not but it's best to stop this before it gets completely out of hand. It's a bit worrying as they have shown how awful they can be to your son but not how far they could go? If I were you keep a diary to hand and log everything... and don't be shy to set up a security camera either.


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    That he couldn't be everywhere,
    So he put His little Children
    In a loving mother's care.
  • hollydays
    hollydays Posts: 19,812 Forumite
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    You need some support tiamai.

    Discuss with teachers,also head teacher,


    Can you give your child some plans, eg we will do this/we will do that..plan it ,tell your partner he needs to be part of this,build his confidence in himself.
  • amersall
    amersall Posts: 17,037 Forumite
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    hi there, i really feel for you. dont want to worry you even more but i live in doncaster and a few months ago in edlington, two young boys were attacked and sexually assaulted by two boys under 13, they were caught and have been charged with attempted murder,http://www.doncasterfreepress.co.uk/edlington-attack/Boys-quizzed-after-vicious-attack.5144310.jp please go to the police
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