MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Cilla give Graham a quick reminder for the date cash?

lowlitmemory

tryfive wrote: »

OMG, I can't believe all the SEXIST !!!! here!

The guy forgot his wallet, she paid - GET OVER IT!

Why should HE have to pay anyway? Being fair, it was 40 quid for the two of them, so effectivly 20 quid each.
If she's chasing him for what is, in all fairness, 20 quid, I'd suggest he'd be wise to dump her ASAP...!

THANK YOU! I can't believe it took over 2 pages for someone to make this point.

If they had agreed to split half-and-half beforehand then she does have a right to the 20 quid, but NOT to the whole 40 quid, and she should quietly inform the friend who set them up.

But if it was the other way round and he had to pay because she had forgotten her purse, I bet half the people on here would think that was perfectly fine! And it's not! Women who accept such things as their "due", or indulge in the frankly disgusting practice someone mentioned above ("only bringing enough cash for the cab home, and no cards") are demeaning all those women, including myself, who are proud to make their own money, stand on their own two feet and not accept money from a man for the pleasure of her company.

Susan_Frost

When Graham said he would pay her back on the next date, why did Cilla not have the guts to say she would rather not have another date as she did not feel attracted to him enough? Then make an arrangement for the £20 to be paid back, possibly through her friend.

Why not just be upfront an honest.

Any why are all the cynics on here willing to give up £20 on the off chance he is scamming. How do you all usually sort out difficulties? Assumptions and walking away?

Why would he text her a few days later if wanting to scam some cash. Surely he would just do a runner.

taralampy

For him to have forgotten his wallet is excusable... everyone makes mistakes sometimes and maybe he was nervous/in an excitable rush to come out for the date. However he should have mentioned repaying that debt when planning a second date and if Cilla's not that fussed with him then why waste more time and money on him. For me it wouldn't be worth having an awkward night out just to get my £20 back so i'd just forget about it...

JayD

No more dates with Graham but she should put loads of pressure on for him to refund her his half of the bill from the last one. She has his number, simple texts saying she is a bit strapped and would appreciate the money he owes her to be paid back pronro - via their mutual friend. If that doesn't bring a result she shoukld talk to their mutual friend and ask them to try and get the cash back.

A bit of pressure and embarrassment might do the trick.

But that is as far as she should go. He isn't worth any more of her time than that. If those steps fail, she has to walk away and label it one of those life lessons that you pay for. It cost but it was worth learning.

Blind dates are a risky business on so many levels!

Pee

If I didn't like him, I would just feel mean meeting up with him again or asking for the money back some other way. Cilla is already rejecting him, it's a bit much to ask him to pay for the priviledge.

I have a rule that I would lend £10 to anyone I consdiered a friend as if I never see the money again, it was money well spent. I have only twice had any problems with getting the money back. I suppose with inflation that may well be £20 by now.

dig4victory

Leave it, dump him and put the cash down to experience.

A_little_stressed!!

Go do something on date 2 that is pay upfront - banger racing, cinema, paintballing! Anything that u can have fun doing. And he can pay 1st!

If Cilla is in need of blind dates, the experience of dating will come in useful for when she does meet someone she is attracted to, communicating with the opposite is hard work, and practice makes perfect!!

JimmyTheWig

haveiwon wrote: »

choose the wine
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get to your car as quick as you can

Anyone else see a problem here??

JOANNESAPHINE

That amount of money isn't the end of the world. He may have genuinely been very nervous going out on a blind date and it may not be a scam, you have to judge people individually. I would feel mean seeing him again just to get my money back and would chalk it up to experience. If I felt there was a chance I could like him I would see him again to check that but if definitely not then leave it.

Ferry_Girl

Why she would even:

a) Have fallen for the oldest trick in the book!
b) Think that she would see th £20 again
c) Given the "free loader another thought

£40 quid for a meal, put it down to experience, learn and move on!

Oh! Consider the friendship that set her up with this individual that would concern me more!

:rolleyes: