MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Cilla give Graham a quick reminder for the date cash?

andyroberts1967

Move on - get a life - we all make mistakes but he should have mentioned it on the phone. Plenty more fish in the sea Cilla!!

suiko

Text him her bank details and ask him to pay it in.

Why go on another date if she doesn't like him and will in any case probably spend more money? If you had to spend £20 for every dodgy date, you'd soon be sleeping under a bridge...

siber

I think she ought to go on another date. 1st date nerves, the awkwardness of having a one on one with a new person, the embarrassment/annoyance of the wallet situation. 'Not really that enamoured' might be the best that could be expected on the night in question.

I'd give it another shot, and rather than demanding the money back, say 'It's your turn to treat me this time' at the restaurant. Cilla will also be able to earn some 'interest' on her loan, and reward for her risk, by selecting/suggesting a posher restaurant or dish.

If she's still not enamoured, she hasn't lost anything other than an hour or so of her life. And, who knows where the date might lead.

If it's worth looking once, it's worth looking twice. She's paid for two looks - she should use them both.

jintyb

No second chances, I'd put the cash down to experience but not see him again!

runmichellerun

Cilla should cut her losses and give up. If a guy can't even make the effort to remember his wallet then what else will he not make the effort with in the future?

Ebenezer_Screwj

Cilla must get even with this creep. She should go on a second date making it quite clear that he has to make up for "forgetting" his wallet on the previous occasion. After wining and dining (preferably at a venue of her own choosing) she should go to the ladies room and "forget" to come back.

spankygoodtime

I went out with a friend once and left my wallet at home. It can be done! She paid our fares, food and admission expenses for the day. When we got home (she was staying with me) I asked her what my contribution should be, she said half and named a figure and I was happy to pay up. Even though she was my guest I would not have expected her to bear this cost, because I knew she couldn't afford it and it was something she hadn't budgeted for.

So I'd go on another date and give the guy a break - we all make mistakes. I'd suggest a drink and set a time limit on the date, saying I had to be up early or whatever to save a further drain on my pocket if he is a sponger. If he didn't offer me back my share of the previous date's expenses I'd mention it. The current economic climate has got me and I really can't afford to pay for someone else like that.

If he didn't have the money that would be the last meeting. And I'd tell the friend who set this up, so no one else could get caught out.

Incidentally as a single lady I do go on blind dates and have tried internet dating. I won't go for a meal on a first date, I prefer to meet for drinks or a coffee. I've had one female friend who got caught out by a man who had to take an mobile call outside because of "bad reception". He didn't come back leaving her with a bill for £80!

haveiwon

Don't get mad - get even. Go on another dinner date but meet at the restaurant. Suggest champagne would be lovely. If this is not forthcoming ask to choose the wine, because some can give you a headache, and choose the costliest bottle. Order the most expensive food, all three courses, plus coffee and the tipple of your choice. All through dinner act as though he's the best thing since sliced bread and behave in such a way that he's certain tonight's the night. Just as the bill arrives, excuse yourself for a comfort rest and get to your car as quick as you can and go home alone. SORTED ---SIMPLES!

oldandwise

What a sorry lot you are with all your advice and thoughts.Whether she is a good looker shouldn't come into it. Anyone who goes out without their wallet is a pillock. she should just move on. life's like that. All this she should this or that is irrelavent. One of lifes lessons.

bargainbetty

Personally, I'd call the friend who set it up, and let them know what happened. That person can then make reference to it with 'Graham' and see if the error was genuine. If so, he can send the money back that way.

Then again, if you really aren't that keen on someone, you could just let it go. Lesson learned, move on. Next time, just do drinks and bar snacks!