MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Cilla give Graham a quick reminder for the date cash?

Edinburgh-foodie

As someone who has forgotten their wallet on a first date, I sympathise with Graham!

Cilla should give him another chance, if it was a genuine mistake he'll make up for it on a second date. If she doesn't like him that much, she should suggest a quick date where it will be easy to get away (ie drinks rather than a meal or cinema), see if he makes up for it or not, and then make her decision.

I made up for it on the second date and we are still together 5 years later!

aliy

I just think it could have been a genuine mistake and if she thought he was ok why not give him another chance, I wouldn't go ordering an expensive meal coz what if he not got money again she would get stung but why not just meet for a drink and then ask him for the money he owes you, better to be honest and upfront and if he gets offended then that's his loss but can't be doin with all this sneaky stuff - it's a bit sad.

smiler6900

Cilla you fool try and get your money Bloomin free loaders need taken to the cleaners :T:mad:
They need putting in thier place. If you have a butch big best friend take them along as well.:A You should not have been put in that postition as to have to pay in the first place. Your share should have been just that.
Wish you the very best.

monicamiller

Move on....£20 is a loss but at least Cilla doesn't have to waste anymore time with someone she's not interested in. Time is money...but Cilla should tell her friends who set them up that he "forgot" his wallet. I am sure Graham knew he forgot his wallet way before the bill arrived...

Andy4444_2

Well if she doesnt mind the loss of £20 then it sounds like she sholud stand the loss & move on , if she had wanted to see him again she would have contacted him & asked for the money , well i would have thought so anyway .

relaxtwotribes

I was advised by a solicitor friend to add an extra zero onto the amount I am chasing for. It always works.
So, Cilla should text Graham requesting him to settle his £400 debt. He'll be in contact like a flash correcting her that it is only £40 and she can then tell him where to send it.

Andy4444_2

Well whats the scenario then when Graham is not interested in a second date ? Problem Solved !!

Stampede_2

Fortunately my dating seems to have been in happier times ..mistake or a scam .. who really knows as mistakes can and do happen but the real issue surely is do you think it is a relationship worth following up for the friendship and romance that might result.

If it is then go for it but getting even and approaching a relationship on the basis of strict accounting, getting even, and selecting the most expensive on a menu or similar tactics is demeaning and a recipe for disaster.

If you do not think meeting up again for the friendship in itself is worth it then just put it down to experience and move on.

:j debt free, always pay my credit card in full and
just day to day bills, and savings in the bank in case the roof blows off.

zzzLazyDaisy

This happened to me once. I wasn't keen on the guy and didn't have any real wish to see him again, so I just put it down to experience. But it is swings and roundabouts, I have equally had dates with some really nice men who have refused to let me go halves.

So I'd say chalk it down to experience and write the money off (though I'd mention it to the friend)

hundredk

relaxtwotribes wrote: »

I was advised by a solicitor friend to add an extra zero onto the amount I am chasing for. It always works.
So, Cilla should text Graham requesting him to settle his £400 debt. He'll be in contact like a flash correcting her that it is only £40 and she can then tell him where to send it.

You mean add a zero and double it:rolleyes: