MSE Pregnancy Club XIII

SugarSpun

Nicki wrote: »

the earlier posts in this thread about the "carp" woman who accept pain relief in labour have really upset me

I don't think any of the discussion was meant to upset you, and I think the point was not that she took the pain relief but that she was completely uninformed about the process of labour.

We all know it's a dynamic process and we're not all going to get the births we want (I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be a mama by midnight with a flat tummy and my navel back...), which is why people are suggesting that being well informed about the specific potential risks/events likely to be associated with our own births is so important.

I hope this helps.

Nicki

SugarSpun wrote: »

I don't think any of the discussion was meant to upset you, and I think the point was not that she took the pain relief but that she was completely uninformed about the process of labour.

No the point being made was that she didn't debate the pros and cons with the midwife before she took it. No one can know how informed or otherwise she was about the process of labour - we are encouraged to stay at home until we can't manage the pain on our own any longer, and this woman, who was televised, arrived at hospital and wasn't in a fit state to do anything other than accept what she was offered by a professional who could see she needed something. For this she was called a piece of excrement by the poster on here. And that's what has upset me, as I have no idea how I'm going to cope this time round having had such a bad time on so many fronts last time round, and the thought that there will be hordes of women judging me and making apalling comments like that about me if they find out I haven't coped well either physically or emotionally is really not helping me at the moment.

SugarSpun

That's not how I read the post, Nicki, and I'm sure you'll cope the same way that everyone does - the best you can, whatever way that turns out to be.

helen81_2

Ive caught up,but forgotten most of what Ive read :rotfl:
Hope Tara's doing ok, if you're reading Tara you are no failure woman!!
Welcome back Nikabella,congratulations it's great to see you back here,Im so pleased for you!
Welcome and congratulations to KYM too, :Tfor the 12week mark, doesn't seem that long ago I was on here celebrating hitting 12 weeks!

Karen- Yay for viability :j it's a good feeling isn't it!!

I haven't got long left at work really. Im planning of finishing at 36weeks but Im having some time off (unpaid) in school hols to be with my son (my daughter is going to Spain to stay at her Grandads for 15days). Ive got tommorow,Wednesday and Thursday to work this week then school breaks up Friday so Im taking Mon,Tues and Wed off next week..no Thursdays anymore anyway as I asked to drop to 3 days a week...3 days a week for the next 2 weeks after that then its just me and my son so Im having 2 weeks off. Then Ive got 5 weeks running of 3 day weeks then thats it!! :T thats 24 working days!! :D:D
I could have walked out today, it was sooo hot and very busy..I was sweaty and face like a beetroot when I clocked off,everyone was joking saying they could fry an egg on my cheeks!

kindofagilr

Somnium wrote: »

Yup watching M+M would def not help, I wont watch the film as I read the book a few years back and cried at that! As for brown spotting then yeah I understand, hand pink wee for a few days at the end of my 2ww (I had IVF) then a one off bleed the day before I found out I was PG so totally understand. Hang in there is all I can say oh and huggles xx

Yeah it really didnt help lol, thanks for the huggles

wrote:

This thread is such an eye-opener! Vaginal evening primrose capsules! Add to my list of things to do to self from 34 weeks

What lol, what do we have to do?

fattybooboo

Hi all, not caught up with the rest of todays posts yet so Ill do that now. Just eaten 2 bits of flapjack after my dinner of chicken, chips and mushy peas, mmm. It was homemade flapjack so didnt seem as bad, hehe!!

Just wanted to ask a quick question. We bought a moses basket and stand from ebay a little while ago and it is in great condition. Do I need to buy a new mattress for it even thought the one in there looks as good as new (but I presume it has been used). Its just I heard that you should have a new mattress for cots although Im not too sure why.

Thanks in advance!!

harley1

tiamai_d wrote: »

Harvey, they measure things in your urine like this... a trace (tr), 1 + upto 4 +.

1+ of protein is note worthy but not serius, did they send the sample off or is she just leaving it to see how it is next time? It could well be a faulty batch. Or your sample could be contaminated by cervical mucus which is protein.

Thanks Tia. I think she meant 1+. Didn't send anything away so I guess she'll test again in 3 weeks and see what that shows. Been clear up until now and she did comment that this batch of tests had all shown something (maybe a trace - the student called it a line). I'm sure if it was anything to worry about she would have said so, I just wondered what it meant. Of course, the mucus is what I was there to check so that it a highly plausible reason.

Nicki, I didn't really want to get involved in the discussion because it is a personal decision that everyone has to make for themselves. But I wanted to say that the only person in a position to judge you is you. You don't need to tell anyone how well (or badly) you have coped with labour. It is a personal moment and I can't see me going into any detail with friends or family. And anyone who felt free to criticise any decision I made in the best interests of either me or my daughter might find that they are not on my Christmas card list this year. lol. You make whatever decision you think is best, everyone else can mind their own business.

xxxxx

helen81_2

Oh and someone asked me how tall I am? ..Im 5ft 5 and weigh,well used to weigh 9.5stone so don't think the midwife should have been shocked at me having an 8lb 13 baby should she?!

newmoneysaver_2

Nicki - You are not a failure. No-one knows how they are going to react to pain/child birth until they are actually there. Please don't take the comments on here to heart, I'm sure they wern't meant that way. Any woman that can go through child birth deserves a medal, no matter how or what they took to get there, at the end of the day a safe and happy abby is all that matters! Hugs! x

got-it-spend-it

Harley- I was just going to ask if you'd heard from Mothercare. Wonder what they class as a 'partial refund'?

No news from Tara? Hopefully that is a good sign and she will be on soon to tell us of her gorgeous new arrival!

WM-hope your OH gets his op soon. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you.

My deputy who was exposed to Swine flu last weekend is now ill! He was off yesterday which is very unusual for him, then came in but went home early today. I did point out I'd rather he'd stayed at home today. I don't think it's flu though- he doesn't seem to have that many symptoms plus it was seven days from exposure to symptoms which I think is too long for swine flu. I did disinfect the whole office though, and broke the phone by putting to my anti-bacterial gel on it!