MSE Pregnancy Club XIII

harley1

That's why I always ring MM. Glad that you can now get on with the rest of your day.

Well done on your mummy duties with Dylan btw... bet he was loving the attention.

xxx

tiamai_d

Beenie, you will get sympathy all you need till you make the decision for yourself.

You may be depressed but I think he is doing all he can to make it worse. Speak to someone about it, especially if he is getting physical, you deserve so much better than that! I don't care what got into him there is no excuse for that, none at all.

BeenieCat

Last night i looked up if i could get an abortion at 16 weeks I don't want to but if it means it's easier for him to get out of my life then it was an option in my state. Apparently they shove tweezers up there to dissect the head as it's too big to come out in one go :eek: :eek:

tiamai_d

MM, good job you phoned! Hope Dylan is lovely today

The gala parade was seriously crap! The flyer said pipe band and floats... and all we got was 2 ponies and a horse drawn cart with the gala royal family... then the tractors and float beds drove down empty! Me thinks it all went pete tong.

My tidying is done, dishes can get done later and I'm going to put a load of washing on. DS2 fell and hurt his tummy (think he winded himself) and is having a rest on the sofa. I'm also running to the loo every 5mins! grrr

tiamai_d

Beenie don't. You know you'll regret it especially under these circumstances. There is help to get away from him, you just have to make the decision to do it.

harley1

Beenie...

That is a decision that only you can make, but don't rush in to it and don't do it due to pressure from (or because of) anyone else.

Truely, it is not that bad on your own, and many people in far worse situations than us manage just fine. Get rid of the idiot by all means but have faith that you are strong enough to give baby a good life all by yourself. If he is the D**khead he seems to be he might just bu66er off and leave you and baby alone anyway.

xxx

BeenieCat

He only tends to get physical if i push him away, or on the odd occasion get physical with him first in frustration (no excuse) but he's really strong I accidently stabbed him with the car key in the hand the other day, i lunged at me and i used all my strength to lunge back and caused him immense pain as it punctured the skin :eek:

Oops So sick of this

money_maker_3

beenie, dont have an abortion just to get rid of him, think of your DS in this as well, not just the baby. He deserves better and he needs a happy mum. PLEASE dont stay there to take abuse, get help from someone.

money_maker_3

I wont be up to see Dylan now till after lunch time as my SIL cant take Jasmine till 12, even though se said yesterday she would come over and get her early for me !!!
So it will be near 1pm by the time I'm there and will have missed doing all the morning feeds.

harley1

Please beenie... there is no excuse whatsoever for him to get physical with you ever, nevermind when you are 16 weeks pregnant. Even if you had gone at him with vicious intent a REAL man would walk away and calm down. There must be so many women who have put up with the same behaviour only for it to escalate over time.

He will never get any better whilst you let him get away with it and each time you give him another chance it is the same as you giving him permission to treat you so badly.

Please get some help, either from family, friends, doctors, police, social services. Anyone... we don't want to hear about him taking it too far one day and you being found buried in the woods.

I'm really sorry that that sounds so harsh, but it is becoming increasingly common to read it in the papers and I bet none of those women thought their partners would go that far either.
I promise I'm only saying it because I care.

xxxx