in a difficult situation with our neighbours- what should we do?

tbs624

Does it make a difference if you have a dwarf pampas grass, or is best to have the giant variety?

There was an anti Pampas League that went out digging up pampas plants in the dead of night a few years back, but I think that was restricted to Cheshire. Lincoln should be ok

superfran_uk

I told my BF's brother this when we went to his new house, complete with 6ft tall pampas grass. He looked at me like I was crazy!

Apparently there was a very old lady living there before... A pretty randy old lady I imagine! Haha!

pawpurrs

In my old neighbourhood, everyone was friendly, it was so welcoming and I loved the fact that people of all walks of life and ages, could meet and chat, and feel a part of the community, its the very reason, I am moving from where I am where that isnt the case, my old neighbours on the whole where all much older than me, but some of them have become very good friends, despite the fact that some live in differennt parts of the world now, and yes they were old enough to be my parents, but I love them dearly. Others I would just chat to, over the fence or in the street, but it was nice to know if I ever had a problem, I could knock on their door. Try not to judge people, before you really know them, she sounds a character, and your other neighbour that you think is ok, seems to get on with her, and she knows her a lot better than you do. Try and get to know her a bit better, you dont have to go out drinking with her, but give her the time of day, and have a little chat now and then, perhaps she is just slightly nervous of meeting new people, and will take a little time to get to know.
Having true NFH is a nightmare, that I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy.

cheepskate_2

I think it says a lot about your attitude to people in general, AND you've only been there 2 weeks

So what if she is older .

My son who is 19 now knows practically the whole of the scheme's oldies , very polite to them and them to him. He got to know them by taking the dog a walk early in the morning and meeting them on his tours probably started wehn he was about 12 ish.

Now he has left home i get to talk to them and they all ask about him each time i see them, its actually quite nice and obviously made him feel very nice when at times he may have been going through little teenage bad patches. And they tell me what a wonderfull young man he is :A:D

You are lucky to have neighbours that welcome you. Just be polite and non-judgemntal and they will be polite back.

TTMCMschine

OP, this may come as a surprise, but you will not get on with everyone you meet in life. If you walk around assigning pantomime villains in your life - you will blow people out of proportion and your tolerance of them will be nil. Make life easier for yourself by keeping a bit more to yourself and thinking of any positive points about this person so you'll see them in a better light.
Remember - you are not better than them and they are not better than you, this is just a clash and you will meet many more people that you don't gel with in life. They may not live an existance you agree with, but it is their life and up to them how they live it and not up to you to judge or choose how they do it.

MrsE_2

ILW wrote: »

Swingers!
Or so I have been told.

Fcuk me:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

I got the stuff:o:o:o:o:o

I hate it & keep trying to kill it off:D

But it come back:mad:

My neighbours have it too:eek:

LittleMissInDebt

TTMCMschine wrote: »

OP, this may come as a surprise, but you will not get on with everyone you meet in life. If you walk around assigning pantomime villains in your life - you will blow people out of proportion and your tolerance of them will be nil. Make life easier for yourself by keeping a bit more to yourself and thinking of any positive points about this person so you'll see them in a better light.
Remember - you are not better than them and they are not better than you, this is just a clash and you will meet many more people that you don't gel with in life. They may not live an existance you agree with, but it is their life and up to them how they live it and not up to you to judge or choose how they do it.

Great post and not surprisingly I agree.

While I do tend to keep a friendly distance from my neighbours (ostly because I work from home and find it very distracting to have surprise visitors) I would never dismiss the idea of making a friend based on their age. At one point a lot of my friends were older than me because we shared the same interests - also, as quite a few people have said, surely this is a great situation to be in when you could have ended up with horrific neighbours - bet there's a lot of people on here who'd swap with you!

TTMCMschine

LittleMissInDebt wrote: »

Great post and not surprisingly I agree.

While I do tend to keep a friendly distance from my neighbours (ostly because I work from home and find it very distracting to have surprise visitors) I would never dismiss the idea of making a friend based on their age. At one point a lot of my friends were older than me because we shared the same interests - also, as quite a few people have said, surely this is a great situation to be in when you could have ended up with horrific neighbours - bet there's a lot of people on here who'd swap with you!

Distance is key. OP - It also helps if you can distinguish between looking down your nose at someone and accepting you have differences. Heck - you might even learn to find those "irritating habits" of hers endearing (sp).
Funnily enough there are two people i have chosen to keep a distance - or have decided to move on from, they are similar in that they are negative and critical of other people's lifestyles. Plain snobbery in my book. After a few years of listening to this and their "high standards" of the way we all live i decided i don't have room for people who are like this. They're far more unpleasant, because they concentrate on the way other people live their lives. (Wonder what they say behind my back). I have no time for this.

Scabs

Welcome to up north.

If you dont like friendly people I suggest London where nobody will talk to you and you will all be happy.

greenface

I often go around and water the neighbours pampas they dont have a garden though it up their back passageway.

To the OP keep a good distance from your new neighbours i suggest all the way to the end of your snobby nose.