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in a difficult situation with our neighbours- what should we do?

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  • PasturesNew
    PasturesNew Posts: 70,698 Forumite
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    Getting back on topic ... as interesting as all the above confessions were ....

    What do you mean "not your sort of people" ...?

    Are they common?

    You don't have to drink if you go out with drinkers. I don't. I am not teetotal but I never get drunk ... but I'm happy enough drinking at 1/4 the speed of others, with a diet coke.

    It's people like you that make life for people like me difficult ... if neighbours are stand-offish it's no wonder I never get to know them.

    Is it because she's single? Do you feel threatened? I've heard that happens ... women drag their men inside the house when I'm about ... and I am quiet, reserved and conservatively dressed. Women just are nervous/suspicious of single female neighbours.
  • rosie-lee
    rosie-lee Posts: 1,134 Forumite
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    I have some lovely chats with my neighbours when we bump into each other coming and going and we are very friendly 'acquaintances'. We water each others plants etc if you know what I mean.

    BUT we never socialise together and personally I have no desire to do so. I want to spend any free time with people I choose not who I happen to live next to.

    We never go round for coffee etc. I would just explain along the lines of the truth, you don't drink so don't really go out and with the move your a bit broke right now.

    Can't see anyone being affronted by that. Just be too busy to see them.
  • sandyrosie75
    sandyrosie75 Posts: 85 Forumite
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    I think it would be helpful to you and your neighbours if you explain to them that going out drinking isn't really your thing, but thank them politely anyway
    Maybe when the older lady starts talking allow her 4-5 minutes then apologise and say you have to rush off, after a few occasions I'm sure she will understand you are busy
    Sometimes we can be lucky to have a neighbour we actually get on well with, but most of the time being polite is the best way to keep it, even if you aren't keen on them
  • ShelleyC_2
    ShelleyC_2 Posts: 1,500 Forumite
    ILW wrote: »
    Swingers!
    Or so I have been told.

    Don't know if its true but when I moved into a house with one I did dig it out :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
    Looking for the perfect home and saving to make becoming a MFW easier
    MFiT3 48103/50000 Saved So Far :j
  • mrcow
    mrcow Posts: 15,170 Forumite
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    ShelleyC wrote: »
    Don't know if its true but when I moved into a house with one I did dig it out :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    I'm going to plant one tomorrow.

    Give the neighbours something to wonder about ;)
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • ILW
    ILW Posts: 18,333 Forumite
    ShelleyC wrote: »
    Don't know if its true but when I moved into a house with one I did dig it out :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
    Spoilsport
  • McKneff
    McKneff Posts: 38,857 Forumite
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    It used to be a box of OMO in the kitchen window when i were a lass
    in Newcastle:rotfl::rotfl:
    OMO (soap powder) meaning ON MY OWN (just explaining for you youngsters, you understand
    make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
    and we will never, ever return.
  • McKneff
    McKneff Posts: 38,857 Forumite
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    mrcow wrote: »
    I'm going to plant one tomorrow.

    Give the neighbours something to wonder about ;)

    Theyll all be pushing their door keys through your letter box.!!!! (so to speak)
    make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
    and we will never, ever return.
  • Poppy9
    Poppy9 Posts: 18,833 Forumite
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    edited 19 June 2009 at 10:17PM
    mrcow wrote: »
    I'm going to plant one tomorrow.

    Give the neighbours something to wonder about ;)

    I'm off to google image Pampas grass as I'm sure that my elderly neighbours have one in their garden. :eek:

    edit:

    googled :eek: :eek:
    :) ~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
  • mrcow
    mrcow Posts: 15,170 Forumite
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    McKneff wrote: »
    Theyll all be pushing their door keys through your letter box.!!!! (so to speak)


    As long as it's not that guy from no.7, it'll be okay ;)
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
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