**Daily Chat 19th June 2009*

bookseller1980

Your sons have been extremely lucky to have you pick them up until this age Lou. Getting a bus will add to their education! Do what is right for you for once. Regret and missed opportunities are hard to live with and can cause resentment.
They will be gone in a few years and you need to have the life you want then and if this is the time to start building it .......

LouiseJ

I will have to do something but I know that it will be a total shock to the system for the 3 lads.

I do everything.

redsquirrel80

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Does that include Grey Squirrel?

Yeah, to be honest I have given up being upset or angry about anything, I just can't be bothered.

LouiseJ wrote: »

DS2 is 14 and DS1 is 16 (he will be at 6th form in Sept)

The thing is Luc that I know I can do well in this new job but I dont get much support from elsewhere:o

So if i do want to push my career forward I will be living in a house resembling Steptoes and Sons.

OH is great, he really is but I have always been the housekeeper and organiser, he works 8-5 too.

I think Luc is right that you should get everyone together for a chat, but I would tend to say go for it - the chance to do what you want in your career doesn't come along that often and will surely be better for you all in the long term. Stuff the tidy house! :rotfl:

Lucifa73

LouiseJ wrote: »

I will have to do something but I know that it will be a total shock to the system for the 3 lads.

I do everything.

Time to let go of some of it then. Don't get caught out with what if...

LouiseJ

bookseller1980 wrote: »

Your sons have been extremely lucky to have you pick them up until this age Lou. Getting a bus will add to their education! Do what is right for you for once. Regret and missed opportunities are hard to live with and can cause resentment.
They will be gone in a few years and you need to have the life you want then and if this is the time to start building it .......

I know you are talking sense Bookie, I just feel a bit guilty:o

maybe thats just a Mother thing. I have always put their needs before my own. I have worked evenings, weekends and even did a degree where I would do my assignments at 4am so that I didnt disrupt anyone elses life.

Lucifa73

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Yeah, to be honest I have given up being upset or angry about anything, I just can't be bothered.

Sorry to hear that Red. Thought things were rosy in the romance department...

jinky67

LouiseJ wrote: »

Hi HWGA lovely to see you back:wave:

Application form in but it does feel a bit pointless as I have been informed that the other person will not be applying to technically the job is mine. Mixed feelings about it though as I think alot of the other person. But must think of yourself more;)

Anyway, I am tying myself in knotts about something......

So the job will be mine, OK.

This means that I will be the only person running the courses, I have a feeling that they are going to offer me a full time position in September as it is going to be impossible on a 0.8 contract.

I have already enrolled on a course all day Tuesday which I will need for next September so that is one day down.

I am also being encouraged to apply for an additional role (unpaid but get hols and remmission) which if I get might actually be the opening I need to launch my career into the area that I want (teacher training).......:jthey obviously think you can do it then, but will it be too much for with everything else?

I have always been there to take the boys to school and bring them back at hometime and this new role will mean that ~DS2 will have to get the bus home possibly 3 times in the week.............he is perfectly old enough to do so, he's not a baby anymore:o:A I know you worry but really

Maybe these opportunities wont come around again, do I put my career first for the first time ever in my life.......or do I wait until DS2 leaves school in 2 years time????

What do you think?

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Maybe you should have a family get together to discuss the possible change and explain you'll need more help? If you don't ask you definitley won't get...

And is a little more personal satisfaction worth a slightly less tidy house?

I second Luc, you need to have a family conference. Discuss what it means to YOU and for them


I know you have always put others first:kisses3: but this a great opportunity for you, to do something for you, and them as well.

you know you want to, and i know you can:T:T:T:T:T

What if you say no? What if the chance doesnt come around again? How would you feel? Would you think you had missed out, and resent it?

bet you're glad you asked now:p:rotfl:

Herewegoagain

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Yeah, to be honest I have given up being upset or angry about anything, I just can't be bothered.



I think Luc is right that you should get everyone together for a chat, but I would tend to say go for it - the chance to do what you want in your career doesn't come along that often and will surely be better for you all in the long term. Stuff the tidy house! :rotfl:

I agree with the guys, opportunity only comes now a few times and you have to go for it at sometime, and children move on. Love em, they will soon have other places to be and this could be a good learning curve for them, gentlely letting them get what it's all about.

I usually make a for and against list but if it was me, I'd go for it, a happy mum glows;)

HWGA xx

redsquirrel80

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Sorry to hear that Red. Thought things were rosy in the romance department...

They were great for a while.. but, I dunno, I think it's run its course. Been avoiding confronting it though as I know it won't be nice :rolleyes:

LouiseJ

Thanks so much for your thoughts on this everyone, I know I have alot to think about but my gut instinct is to go for it.

The additional role is what I am really interested in and wonder if it is worth gritting my teeth in the short term to reap the rewards later.........hey I coped with 2 kids aged 1 and 3 and worked, and ran the house and studied for a degree........

Maybe its time I busted a gut for myself this time:rotfl::D