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dmv_2

VICTORY - I know he only meant it in a good way but he is bigger than he has ever been and seriously needs to lose weight now as it is affecting him so i when he says anything to me about my eating it hits a nerve. In his words I have lost weight in spite of him, not with his support! Not that he didnt want me to lose weight or anything, but he wants take aways etc a lot (a lot more than he gets them aswell!) so he makes it very difficult. Oh well, he wants to lose weight but he needs to really dedicate himself and as we all know, he has to have a real light bulb moment and decide to do it for himself before that will happen.

Actually I must trawl through all the recipes (again!) as he insists on meat/ fish with some sort of potato/pasta as the main components of any evening meal so must try to find some yummy exciting healthier recipes as he wont eat plain chicken breast etc he likes some sort of extra sauce/flavour to jazz it up. Anyone have any particularly good recipes to fit that specification?! *mutters about awkward OH* lol.

katiepoppycat

morning all! some very wise words on here - I too am a binge eater, not necessarliy for any emotional reasons, but simply because I love to eat an will keep going till there's nothing left. Thatrs why i do slimming world because you can still do it, but just on free foods. Now, if i can just get my head around the fact that if i know there is a meal or occasion that I cannot control, I go totally off the rails, this whole thing would be working for me! day one today, but i'm climbing hte walls as i opted for a red day to se some salmon up thats in the freezer. I'm stuck at home waiting fora b&q delivery and there is nothing else in the house that would count as free food. Might empty the freezer and try to find a stray quorn sausage . . . .

1HANNAH

Thanks for all the advice so far offered, its nice to tell someone how I feel and for them to understand as my OH is very tall and slim and can eat anything without gaining a lb, my mum comes to RC with me and in the same time has lost 4.5st but she has brilliant self control & will power. She could have choc in the house for months and months and not touch it unlike me were it sits in the fridge calling my name. I do not have choc in the house anymore and that does help. Its the sneaky eating that has reared its ugly head again for me at the moment but have got back into food planning & diary keeping so hope to be back on track soon. It was my birthday last week and I worked out that if I lost just over 3/4lb a week every week til my next birthday I would be at my target. Got to say the week hasn't started great as I had a pre-arranged birthday lunch with a friend today which wasn't exactly low calorie but I do have a low cal tea planned and am going out to exercise class tonight. Whereas before I would have just taken the full day off the diet and eaten anything.
My plan is that from tomorrow I will stick my food/exercise plan on here to help me regain focus.
The trigger for me to start my diet at the start was wanting to get pregnant (it worked within a month of starting the diet!) then my next goal was to get to the 13stone being the lowest adult weight. Its since getting below that that I feel I have lost my way again.
I don't really know were the binge eating came from with me but I do remember as a child around xmas time unwrapping pressies that my parents had either bought as gifts or received and eating the chocs out of them, also I remember pinching penny sweets from the local shop :eek: that were the sneaky bit comes from I think, I don't know if that started because we weren't given sweets etc at home, I'm not sure.
DMV, I have been in the same boat I tell OH that I want to be good etc no snacks and then later that day I will get something and OH will say are you sure you want that? and I will bite his head off! He just can't win!
oh god sorry I am waffling again xxx

Vixstar

Hannah, Sary - know what you mean about not knowing who you are when slim. I'm a bit shallower but its little things like realising something is easier or not knowing what to wear and feeling strangely frustrated cos all my favourite clothes don't fit and I can't find replacements. Also nice now to see myself in photos and not hate myself. Not too sure what triggered my desire to lose weight. I'm in a job where being fit is part of the job description and I kept on struggling with fitness tests. When I got six weeks off I decided to lose some weight with a target in mind. What I didn't realise was how much smaller I'd be as last time I lost this much weight I stayed a 14.

1HANNAH

Thinking about it again, I guess that I could hide (emotionally) behind the layers of fat and for instance if someone didn't like me I could say it was because of my size.
I don't have many photos of me as I always am the person taking the photos because I hated seeing myself in pictures. I know that my mum has photos and vids of us growing up and I think I will go and have a look through them because my memory of childhood is that I was always the fat one and my sister was the thin one. My parents say I didn't start putting weight on til I was about 11-12 when I started secondary school but in my head it was long before this. I think it could be interesting for me to look back at them now.
I have got to stop hiding from the camera now though as when I have looked back on piccies taken since the birth of my boys there isn't many pics of me with them and I am sure that when I am 80 that will be a big regret.
You guys have really got me thinking today x

grannynise

I find that I usually overeat when I'm particularly pleased with my weight loss . So am I trying to sabotage my progress and turn myself back into the fatter person I really believe myself to be? I do hope not. This weight loss / body image thing is just too complicated - especially in such hot weather.

bananasplit -- sorry, I've changed your + to a -.:o

Beanie and FFD :j:j:j

bails

It is interesting to read what motivates people to overeat, in whatever guise that takes. Those longtimers amongst you know I have struggled with food all my life for a variety of reasons which I've been working through with my counsellor. This has been the single best thing I've done in finding a healthy relationship with food.

At the moment, my aim is to lose weight before we try for a family but I seem to be lacking motivation...wonder why? Answers on a postcard...

katiepoppycat

grannynise wrote: »

I find that I usually overeat when I'm particularly pleased with my weight loss . So am I trying to sabotage my progress and turn myself back into the fatter person I really believe myself to be? :j

whoa granny, that rings so true!

flipping b&q never showed. they've refunded my delivery charge, not sure whether to take it further. They are now delivering tomorrow after 1600 when i getback from work, so thats a full work day plus up to 2 hours of ferrying bricks from the front garden to the back garden. wanted to have it all done today ready for sat!

off to have my red day meaty tea now. lots of very interesting thoughts on here tonight. ooooooooh bails, there's a scary thought. maybe it's a maternal instinct thing, laying down body fat? good luck figuring it outxx

vixarooni

hey guys!!

Im back. Crete was lovely, although at Gatwick a man stole my mums purse - her english usage one with £80 inside, all her cards ect. Really rubbish way to end the holiday. We've got to give statements and everything so i hope he gets caught.

hope everyone is ok, i wont be on here much because there is no internet at mums so im at matts mums! im hiring my gown for my graduation at the mo and trying to book a helicopter flight for my auntie and uncles golden wedding anniversary.

anyway, take care everyone x

nmm

OMG vix, thats horrible what happened to your mum, glad you had a good holiday but agreed a rubbish way to end it.

My Q2 goals were be at target weight, get a six pack and wear a old ring. Well i only managed the target weight one, i have lost 16lbs, my stomach is getting flatter but i've not really tried for a six pack hehe, and my old ring still doesn't fit but it was bought for me over 10 years ago so wishful thinking really. I'm still doing workouts only not so much this past week as i've been clearing out the spare room, trust me it was better than a workout :rotfl: