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sarymclary

Wow Raph! *wolf whistles* don't you look stunning!? C is a lucky woman, but then I guess you are too. That dress is absolutely perfect for you - great choice. Oooh, don't you just love a good wedding? My BF even hinted last weekend, when we were sat in the garden, and we heard the church bells ringing for a wedding, that 'one day that'll be for us'... Well, he's not been married before out of choice, so that's quite a statement. He then asked if I could marry in church as I've been married, but as I'm widowed, I can, so we can have the bells! (He may think I'm more Quasimodo though!)

BB - I hope you feel better soon.

Victory - a contribution within a marriage isn't just down to finances y'know. You could have never worked within a marriage, and still be entitled to more than half of any joint assets. As well as joint assets, you will have joint debt/financial responsibilities. When I was going through divorce proceedings (never finalised) I was actually awarded 90% of the house/finance equity, and hadn't worked during our marriage, as children arrived very soon after. It wasn't my husband's choice for us to split, but mine, so he was very bitter, but a relationship is made/broken by both parties in most cases. These things take a lot of time to resolve, so you are probably feeling very raw ATM, but in time you will be able to consider your options, and those of your OH and the children. Thinking of you, and know how difficult it can be.... PM me if you want to 'chat', but hope you have friends/family who you can chat to also.

Well, today went off plan, but it was planned, IYSWIM. We had chinese for tea, but we'd planned it last week. We don't gorge ourselves. Just a spoonful out of the tubs, not lots of rice, but the lean meat, and definitely not a packed plate. I didn't feel full afterwards, so that's a good sign. Lots left over, so we'll probably have it for tea tomorrow too. Otherwise food was OK.

Did some gardening, until it started raining, then just mooched inside.

Hope you're all having a good weekend.

victory

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dmv_2

Hi everyone! Have missed way too much to try and catch up so I won’t even try to. However, RAPH you look stunning.

VICTORY - No one can tell you what you should do only you can decide. However last time I was on a low I was thinking that maybe forever love (in the sense of what “love” is often perceived to be) rarely exists. As in after a certain amount of years things have drastically changed and at best maybe you can hope for the routine and friendship and kids, friends, built up life together etc to sustain the relationship. Maybe that’s a plus point for settling down later in life. If you get along well generally maybe you could consider what’s important to you and if what you think you are missing out on (if that’s how you are feeling) is realistically attainable elsewhere. I only say that because that’s how I feel sometimes, but then I realise that the grass isn’t always greener and I appreciate the little things and try to let the rubbish stuff wash over me and move on. When it comes to relationships I try to be sensible and a realist and stick at it but that isn’t always possible or the right thing to do I know. Everything is worth a little extra push before giving up/moving on etc though, but maybe you have already done that. Whatever you decide you will have as much support as we can possibly give you. Hugs x

My holiday was lovely and relaxing and much needed. Nothing exciting at all, just a nice chilled out pace and a chance to go out and have some lovely food and drink in the evenings that we aren’t able to do regularly here because there’s always work to do. I haven’t weighed myself yet as realised before we went away that I think my scales are broken as despite a new battery 90% of the time you turn them on they say error and turn themselves back off again! I know I have set myself back at zero on the chart but I hope I haven’t gained too much as it was hard work getting it off. Still it was worth it letting go though.

OH actually said on holiday that he needed to cut down/give up smoking and lose weight. Thing is he’s said that before but it’s still positive that he has said it and hopefully between us we can do it. Exercise is very hard for him so I suggested we go swimming together which he thought was a good idea so hopefully we will get into that soon as it’s one of the few things he will be able to do, plus I enjoy it and its easier than other exercise with my back.

Cannot believe that it’s taken me hours to type this (in between other stuff) and its now gone 1am! Hope everyone else is good and I haven’t missed too much.

Vixstar

Very surprised to report a STS this week. Although my amount left to lose hase gone up as I mistakenly calculated the difference between 12.5lb and 7lb as 4.5lb which it isn't Off for a run now.

Brighton_belle

lovely to have you back dmv

fredsnail

Wow Raph you will make a fabulous bride, you look stunning.

BB I hope you feel better soon.

Victory only you can make a decision about what you want from a relationship, what is viable where you are now and if that is good enough. I wish you all the best as it's a difficult decision for you to make.

dmv sounds like a wonderful holiday

victory

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dmv_2

victory wrote: »

I am not really talking about it too much because I don't want my judgement to be clouded, told my sis and she went mental saying I would end up the back of beyond my kids are better than that they deserve better than that what kind of person am I it is not as if he drinks or beats me or disprescts me or etc etc so shut up put up sit still don't moan etc I had both barrels and beyond and have not rang her since, she knows she has over stepped the mark and I know that I cannot ring her atthe mo because she is so abhored etc:rolleyes: I can't make decisions when people are calling me the worst mother on the planet etc when I am not, I have to decide for us

Well lets just establish that you are a great mother and whatever you decide to do will not change that. As has been said only you know your relationship and if its enough or not and whilst your kids will always be a consideration your happiness is important as well. Take care of yourself x

techmax76

Count me in! I definitely would like to lose extra pounds. Any vegie recipe. I'm a vegetarian but lately I became an emotional eater. Before I know it I already gained so much weight.