A new start for Mooloo

shaz_mum_of__2

crikey thats a lot of miles and i know all too well what driving long distance does to someone with our condition

Good you had some quality time with ds .........funny i get more out of my eldest when we are in the car ...........at least now he takes the i pod headphones out and actually listens (i think)

Hope today stays as stress free as possible

Savvy_sewing

I have to leave again to get DS back from his college. He only had one lesson today. He did finish a little while ago, but I told him I needed to eat my breakfast/lunch before I leave to go back for him. Then its back to see twin1, and see what we can do to help her sort her stuff. She has to be in Town to sign for her flat at 10am tomorrow. So that means I have to pick her up either tonight, let her stop here, or get up even earlier tomorrow to collect her before taking DS to college, and then on to her Flat signing.!! I think I may well be Dead by the end of the day. Taking my heatpad with me into the car now.! Left arm is not happy and its only Wednesday morning.!
THink I will need a holiday next week!!!! Exhaustion. Oh for the funds to have a spa day!!! mmmm. Hot bath, candle and heat pads my limit.
Time to go again. (My skirt will have to wait another few days to finish as arm will not cope.)

Errata

That's certainly a ferocious number of miles. Looking at it, mum's taxi gives the kids a Get Out of Jail Free card so something has to change to stop them from constantly using it. Asking them for petrol money might concentrate their minds a bit.

oystercatcher

What do people do who haven't got a parent to run them around to all these appointments?
DS I can understand needs support at the moment until his transport is fixed but I am sure the job centre must have some way of assisting those without transport if it is so far away from places?

Big hugs for you Mooloo it must be so hard for you trying to balance your own needs and those of your family. It seems being a Mum is certainly a job for life !

I hope you manage to get some rest today.
Remember that it won't hurt DS to wait a while if you need to eat or rest before collecting him. As soon as his EMA comes through he needs to be paying you petrol money as well as paying back for using your card (I would charge interest on that bit too!!)

floss2

Mooloo, can DS get to college from town tomorrow? And is he helping you to sort & pack up DTwin1's stuff for her move with you? That way he is earning a bit of his travelling back from you, by allowing you to sit & direct operations while he does the hard work

I guess the support Twin1 has needed from you in the past will be given by others when she has moved into her flat?

~Chameleon~

Mooloo wrote: »

I have to leave again to get DS back from his college. He only had one lesson today. He did finish a little while ago, but I told him I needed to eat my breakfast/lunch before I leave to go back for him.

I wonder whether it would have been better for you to have stayed around college for this one lesson to save yourself an extra 40+mile round trip? I don't know how your college is set out but most of them have a refectory or canteen of sorts where you could go and buy a coffee and breakfast whilst you wait. Would give you an hour or two free to yourself and you could also take your laptop if they have free wi-fi access

Just a thought in case this situation ever arises again for you

Savvy_Sue

Very good point from Chameleon, and the posts above from Errata, oystercatcher and floss.

When I was still doing a lot of taxi-ing, before they got all independent and walked or bussed or cycled everywhere, I would always either find another errand to run or think of somewhere I could sit and have a cuppa rather than just back and forth, up and down like a yo-yo. Far less stressful.

Savvy_sewing

Morning all,Thanks for the comments.
Re Twin2 and the money situation, I too keep asking how others manage, etc but most seem to manage to either have still got their busfares put to one side,rely on mates, or the like. Twin2 and her BF cannot budget, so do not manage to keep the bus fares back, even though EVERY WEEK, i tell them too.
The other day, I asked for £5 petrol money, and she did give me £10 as that was all she had. (I realised that as she had £130, that she wouldnt have a fiver, naughty me). She also got lectured quite a bit.
Normally I would have hung around waiting for DS, (until we can get the bike on the road), but he was stopping to see some of his new class mates for a little while. I did tell him to get a bus to towncentre, and gave him the funds (I hope it was enough) but he didnt source the correct buses!, Anyway, last night I got him on the computer and he can now get a bus back, and hs the keys to his sisters, she has said he can wait there till I can get him.
There is a local library in a shopping centre near College, so I can wait there in future, and do any shopping that I need too. Huge Tesco, and a Lidl, and even a 99p store! (But only if I have the budget back under control).

DS's Dad, has let him down about the bike, so we aretrying to find who/where next we can take it. One of my very old contacts, used to be my gardener, knows someone who may be able to help. DS is going to give me the mileage allowances when he gets it, and pay off his Xbx stuff, when he starts to get his EMA, and he is fine about having to take Sandwiches, instead of go to the canteen, for a few days.
Yesterday, I dropped him at College, called in to the centre to drop off a watch to be prepared, handed in my application to volunteer at Willen Hospice shop, and then had a cup of tea with the old parrots, coming away with a bag of spuds! Handy, had them for tea.
Then managed to come home for a few mins. Had my lunch/breakfast, left here again at just before 12, and collected DS, went to a garage, about the bike, then on to see Twin1 thats moving/ Spent the next 3 hours I think cleaning/sorting, packing things. DS took toddler down to the park for us, so that we didnt have her to contend with. The Social's care worker was there, and she was rearranging the collection of the keys as the Social are having a meeting at 10am in twins bedroom tomorrow. So we now collect the keys at 12.45 I think?
Anyway, I brought little one back home to mine, along with DS and a car full of dirty washing!! Leaving TWin1 to do more sorting/packing/ etc.
Fingers crossed that she actually did do more, but I was tired and have really been over reaching myself these last few days. And it looks to continue.

Biggest of Mooloo's came to tea, its going to be a Wednesday thing, so she bathed little one, while I finished the cooking, then I put her to sleep, not a peep until 4am. Managed to get her to go back to sleep with a bottle and she is still asleep, but I am now going to have to wake her, so we can take DS to college. Then go back to her Mums, and catch the tale end of the meeting (As I was not invited).
Then take them to town (28miles away from the flats), to her new flat.
Hopefully the meeting will put in place the necessary help that twin1 is in need of!.
Thats the idea anyway.

Then I am dropping her back at the old flat, and saying bye, going to the old Parrots, and we are off to Marlow to vist my brother, and his partner, who I hardly ever see.
DS will get the bus back to Biggest of Mooloo'sand I will collect him on the way back, or he will stop there, and I will stop with the Parrots and collect him tomorrow morning to take him to college. Then My Dad, Biggest of Mooloo, and I, will all help to move Twin1 to the new place.!!!!
Thats my week fully mapped out now!
Saturday, I am off to see the BF, (and collapse in a heap probably!!).
Take care everyone, I will rest as often as I can, tonight will be lovely
Mooloo

floss2

Crikey Mooloo, you don't do things by halves, do you?! Please remember to stop before your arm gives up though - I think your role in the move could be director of operations, from a comfy seat!

Savvy_sewing

Well I had a hectic Day, but at 3pm my Dad picked me up from the cottage and we all went to see my Brother and his partner. It was lovely to see them, and hear all about thier antics in France renovating the place they have out there, etc.
My niece brought along my great nephew, 14 weeks old! So cute. The youngest addition to the clan. (Until twin2 has her baby in January).
We got home around 10pm and I went straight to bed. Woke at 6.30 this morning.
Got 10 more mins to get dressed in, and out the door to collect DS to go to college, then back to continue the move of twin1 into her flat. Its a palace compared to the rooms she is in now!. Happy days, there are workers there 24 hours a day to help. guide etc so I can take a step back from her life soon.
Got to go. Or I will not get DS to college on time.
Take care all.
(I will do my best not to lift anything. Just co-ordinate!). And drive