A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_Sue

More hugs from me mooloo, and a massive "YAY" to errata's suggestion of talking to Social Services about twin2's bf. If you don't know who their Social Worker is now, or think they don't have one, phone and ask for the Duty Social Worker for Adult Services.

Would the bf be allowed to live with her in the New Horizons place? I know he's not supposed to be with her where she is anyway, but they may be stricter elsewhere.

As for the bf and the Job Centre, I don't know how sympathetic the JC will be to "It's 20 miles, there's no transport here that early" but even if he WAS your son, it's simply Not Your Problem.

And do try, if you can, only to be as angry with your DS as what HE has done warrants, if that makes sense. It's not his fault that the timeshare is a nightmare, and that the twins' housing is a nightmare, and that you feel awful. He can only be held to account for getting himself where he needs to be, when he needs to be there.

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

More hugs from me mooloo, and a massive "YAY" to errata's suggestion of talking to Social Services about twin2's bf. If you don't know who their Social Worker is now, or think they don't have one, phone and ask for the Duty Social Worker for Adult Services.

Would the bf be allowed to live with her in the New Horizons place? I know he's not supposed to be with her where she is anyway, but they may be stricter elsewhere.

As for the bf and the Job Centre, I don't know how sympathetic the JC will be to "It's 20 miles, there's no transport here that early" but even if he WAS your son, it's simply Not Your Problem.

And do try, if you can, only to be as angry with your DS as what HE has done warrants, if that makes sense. It's not his fault that the timeshare is a nightmare, and that the twins' housing is a nightmare, and that you feel awful. He can only be held to account for getting himself where he needs to be, when he needs to be there.

Thanks for such wise words. You are right, I must not take it out on DS.
But he is still in trouble for not getting intouch this morning, or being here when he is supposed to be.

Just had my Dad on the phone. He thinks that if I surrender the timeshare that would be best. He also tells me Childbenefit have not paid me any money even though I was supposed to have it reinstated. (And CSA hasnt been paying anymore either.) so it looks like my new worked out budget is already a problem as its not accurate!!

Biggest of Mooloo's is off to visit her cousin to babysit for the night, and is within spitting distance of Bournemouth. So seems I am the only one not going that way !! (Well not literally!).

I dont have the number of the actually social worker, I think twin1 might have it so I will give her a ring and ask.
first I must go and get dressed.!! 2 and 1/2 hours and i am still not dressed.

ifonlyitwaseasier

mooloo - hugs and wishes i could come up to visit with coffee and cake for you!

DS- well yes he's daft but hopefully he'll be back in time to prep for his meeting

Twin2 - call the SW, give em hell about not seeing to her needs as they should!

Twin1 - YAY!!!!!!!

you- deep breathes and calming thoughts, maybe some crafting to relax, and know that we are all here for you and if you ever want to lat off more steam then go for it!!

shaz_mum_of__2

Another blip for you but you seem to have shook it off this morning which is good

My docs appointment went well new meds Mobic to be taken in addition to the 12 Gabapentin i am taking .........i wil be rattling soon

aken some already and no sicky side effects so far! fingers crossed all the strong painkillers i have been given so far have made me sick or hallucinate so am hoping this is the answer ............................why is it that on a sickness benefit you don't get free prescriptions???


Hope todays a good one for you and dont worry about ds my lad was the same at that age just interested in his mates but he like spending time with us now

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

I suppose I am lucky that I am on low income, so I have an exemption certificate for my medicines. Do you have a Prepay medicine thing? Cant remember what its called, but sure someone will tell you. Before my parents retired, my mum paid a fixed fee for her things.?

I still have not heard from DS, and as the time wares on I am panicing about him getting home or to the college on time. I am really so stressed out about everything and I think that I am fit too burst!!
Deep breath, time to find something else to do, other then sit here waiting for him to pop up on the msn, its too late for me to go and get him now and be back here in time for him to go to college anyway.
I would have suggested he got a bus, but I know he doesnt have any money left now. Teenagers!!!!! aaagh!!

Perhaps its time to go and make a handbag!

Savvy_sewing

Just thought I would let you know that DS is back.:T
Currently having a shower after a quick cup of tea to warm him up. The bike has been playing him up (apparantly). I will take him to his appointment at the college and makesure that he gets there today. Its just so important that he does start.
Then we will need to re look at the issue of the bike.
His Dad was supposed to have fixed it. (I always knew he was a bit useless!!!!).:rolleyes:

Portugal have telephoned me back, after my email last night.
If I am sure that I want to hand it back, they know of other people that have sent the deeds back, with a letter in the post. So he said send them to him, and although I wont get anymoney for the timeshare, at least I can let it go.:D
That means I will not be liable for the maintenance, and I can stop arguing with my BF about things, and we will have to look for somewhere else to go, (thats much cheaper) for our holidays.
That will be our next problem as the flights have been paid for, (Cheapish Ryan air deal).:money:

Twin2 is still waiting for the Housing People to get back to her, so I will have to keep my fingers crossed that that is going to happen.

Right, now I am off to find the papers for the timeshare, and see if DS can find the bank details for his bank so he can get his EMA application form in.!!

THANKS FOR ALL THE HUGS, THEY ARE WORKING. x:T

Errata

THANKS FOR ALL THE HUGS, THEY ARE WORKING. x:T

Good, you certainly seem more positive this morning.
Sue's right about only giving people 'what for' about what they've done to deserve it. Sometimes it's difficult, because emotions tend to 'leak' from one area of great aggravation to another area of lesser aggravation.

A practical tip: if the Timeshare Co. is in the UK, send anything to them by SPECIAL DELIVERY not recorded post. It costs a fiver, but guaranteed next day delivery and it's tracked all the way to the recipient's hands and signature, so there can be no mistakes about it not being received.
HTH

shaz_mum_of__2

Errata wrote: »

A practical tip: if the Timeshare Co. is in the UK, send anything to them by SPECIAL DELIVERY not recorded post. It costs a fiver, but guaranteed next day delivery and it's tracked all the way to the recipient's hands and signature, so there can be no mistakes about it not being received.
HTH

I strongly agree with this the documents are valuable and should be treated as such and at least there is some insurance should they be lost and need re issuing which will incurr a fee

jha

No advice so sending you a nice big <<<<HUG>>>> mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Well I think it will probably be an early night for me. I am cream crackered.!
DS's bike was not working properly so i took him to College. I hung around in the near by shopping centre! oops, found 4 lovely books/magazines on sewing things, and couldnt resist buying them, andthen I also overspent buying things in the 99p shop!
So I think I have cheered myself up with a bit of spending!! It will come from the savings I make in this months grocery spends! As I have a menu plan to take me through to the end of October!
DS starts the college course on Monday. It will be a few weeks before he gets his EMA through so I will still have to subsidise him for a bit longer.

Twin1 confirmed that the housing people contacted her, and she will sign for the flat next Thursday. What a relief that she was not stupid too.

I dropped DS off at the family that take him to Judo, and he will be there now until Sunday as its the lads birthday. (Must remember to check twin1 is OK as its her ex BF).

Spoke to my BF when I got home and he has said for me not to bother going over tomorrow evening as he doesnt know when he will be back. He confirmed that he is taking his daugher with him, which is fine,(I would have been a bit annoyed if she had decided not to go after all the trouble yesterday).

Now my only problem is I cannot remember where the deeds to the timeshare are.
I know I had them when I first moved in to the cottage, but I have turned the place over and cannot find them.
so its time for me to stop rummaging madly. Relax and then just start looking again, in a more methodical way, and its also made me realise that I have dragged paperwork with me from years and years ago. Sewing invoices from 10 years ago!! All sorts of things from before my bankruptcy, and since, which really are not necessary.
So while I am watching TV tonight I think I will open the last bottle of wine, and sit and slowly sort out all the old files and see if I can at least spend the weekend on my own doing something constructive!.

Am I being positive enough? I hope so, although do you know that my eyes are still sore and dry from all the tears of dispare yesterday! I know its rediculous a fully grown adult distraught over what to other people are probably rather minor things. But all added together became rather major things for me.
Right first place to look is the picnic basket that I keep under the coffee table. I swear I had it in there before I moved the rooms around!!.