A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Would you believe its just gone from one bad thing to another.
Twin2 was offered a flat, 2 bedroomed, in Northampton, in the unit that we had been trying to get her with New Horizons and she has turned it down!!!
I am so angry with her. She lied to me, to them. I have had a blazing row with her now.!(Perhaps my hormone patch needs changing? did I forget?) I dont know how she can be so bull headed and stupid. She is living in a single room with her and her toddler, and BF, with a baby due in January.! She has to share bathroom facilities with 3 other occupants of the flats!
I am afraid I have blown my top, and I have gone over the top myself and told her that I will having nothing to do with her now!. (I know, stupid, of me, lowering myself to their childish levels!). She told me it was becuase the council had offered her a house. After talking to the council yesterday, and again today, it is confirmed that they had not offered her a place, and although she is on the list, they do not have anything to offer her.
Then she told them today, it was Northampton Borough that had offered a place in Grangepark.(an area near town we used to live in 9 years ago), which is the wrong council, and I know she is not on thier list as we tried and were turned down.
When I spoke to her sister she said it is because BF doesnt want to go, as his Ex girlfriend lives in the area, and her new BF is "out to get him"

I will be out to get him in a minute. So I have told them he can go fish tomorrow. I am not going to honour my word and go and run around after him. i really dont care if he cnnot now get to the JC meeting.

Is there steam coming out of my ears yet!!:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

There may be a light at the end of the tunnel, as that means twin1 is now next on the list to the project, so she may be offered the flat instead. Although they originally said that it would have to go back to the board, but I just had a call from the lady in the housing department here, and she has had a word with the New Horizons, and they will now offer the flat to twin1.!!!!

So I have told twin1 (Just now) that when they offer it too her, she has got to take it!. It has got to be her way out of the hostel for her and her baby. Well the baby is going to be 2 on the 4th October. So wouldnt it be lovely for her to have her own bedroom. For both of them, and thier own bathrooms! With a group of other young mums in the same block, and a play room downstairs!!
:rolleyes:
I am hoping that she takes it. Then perhaps twin2 will realise what she passed up, and accept the next one. (If in deed she gets offered the help next time its available.).
Do you know, I am absolutely worn out. I haven t managed any of the things on my todo list. Exhaustion, and I have to confess I have cried my heart out, as I have been battling for these girls for too many years, and I feel its just been thrown back in my face too long.
And here was I thinking that I had started a new life for Mooloo!! Ha, what a joke.! Its just as bad as it was.
How long can a mum back, help and keep fighting the cause for thier children. Am I a failure if I just want to walk away!???? I know that is such a bad thing to think, but at this moment, I just think that everyone has had a piece of me, my money, my time, and my health.! Oh and my energy!!:o

Hardup_Hester

Oh Mooloo
I'm so sorry you arehaving such a bad day, I firmly belive that you are a great Mum, not a failure at all. I'm afraid I have no advice to offer, just a huge HUG.
Hester

Ellidee

And a hug from me too Mooloo - wish I knew what to say. XX

Savvy_sewing

The only thing anyone can say is "why are you so gulible,?" Havent you learnt by now that they will take the urine every time.
Even DS has not returned from Oxford, and just used the old my bike wont start, I will now be home tomorrow.!
He was supposed to be here to get ready for his start for College tomorrow at 1.30pm
He has just sent me a message/conversation by MSN!
So what would have happened if I had not been on line??

Savvy_sewing

Time for me to cut myself off for a few hours. Bury myself in a book or something to switch my mind off of today.
Thanks everyone for the hugs. I really appreciate them.
I suppose I just feel as if I have been kicked in the teeth from all sides so many times that I dont have the teeth left anymore!! if you get what I mean.
Maybe I came off the antidepressants too soon. Cos I really feel somewhat useless, worthless, and not really wanted. ( tomorrow maybe I will think this is all daft. But its how I feel at the moment.)

Errata

Blimey, !!!!!! innit !
Don't despair, there's one thing you can do if you choose. She's a vulnerable adult so you can speak to social services asap and tell them the BF is emotionally abusing her by forcing her live in inappropriate accommodation.
In any case, she'll be moved when the new baby arrives as the accommodation will be dangerously overcrowded.
Wonder if he's thought about that :mad:

Surfbabe

Just wanted to send big hugs Mooloo

Floss

:grouphug: Mooloo....hope you feel better after a bit of time-out.

Maybe you could put the way you are feeling onto your list for the next time you see your nice Dr?

Floss xx

Jo4

I do hope today is a better day for you and you feel loads better!:grouphug:

Savvy_sewing

Well I was going to say its an early morning, but I have been awake for an hour already. Had a cup of tea, and written a bit in my diary. Then realised I need to fire up the computer incase DS does send me a Message to go and get him from Oxford,
I will be really angry if I have to go, after rowing with the BF about petrol money, and having to be here rather then there in Oxford with him.!!

Quite a few things have come out of yesterday, apart from my red eyes, exhaustion and lack of sleep!.

I telephoned BF instead of allof this emailing and texting lark. Mind you when I rang him crying about twin2, I did get the "You have let them walk all over you for years story, and not any sympathy. But what can you expect when we had argued a few hours earlier!.
I tried to stop just sending texts, now that I have realised that I am on Free evenings and weekend calls to UK landlines. (Dontknow what time they start at, the evenings I mean,). But I think he will get fed up of having to get up to answer the phone if I phone instead of texting, all the time. Especially when its the odd, "I love you" I tend to send randomly!!:rolleyes:
But I will try to phone him. (I know why cant he phone me first, but we wont go there, or its just another arguement about who is first. Tit for Tat crap that is juvinille and exhausting!)

I decided that its just not worth having th timeshare as its a huge bone of contention with him, and is a major cause of our disagreements, and now that it is so expensive compared to the type of holidays out there, its just a millstone now. I was valiantly trying to keep hold of it, as it was/is the only thing that has been constant in my life for the last 22 years, apart from children.:o
So I have emailed the Hotel chain, and asked what steps I can take now, to hand it back.
Perhaps I can just send the deeds back to them and let it go? Well I know it wont be quite that simple. But then maybe we can just go somewhere that BF actually wants to go. Rather then where I have to pay for!. But his words will sting me for quite some time. Why do people have to hurt others when they row (I know me included!). We really are a nasty race at times!! :rolleyes:

The council lady said that I was not currently on the council list anymore, and did I want to be, as I had had to be taken off when I moved? So she is sending me out a council housing form, so I can go on the list.
That might be useful if DS leaves home, as I will not be able to stay in my lovely cottage. And although I didnt think that that was going to happen for years and years yet, I think I better not believe it anymore. Especially as he is hardly ever here.

Its strange, because, I dont usually stay angry very long. I tend to have a quick let off steam, like a chimney on a steam engine, make a hoot, and then chundle away quite merrily immediately after. But yesterday, and infact this morning the anger is still bubbling up, and the frustrations are all, on Volcano alert here!!

:eek:
DS has 3 minutes to contact me, about getting home!!