A new start for Mooloo

jha

Chin up mooloo - you are doing wonderfully and are having a very very stressful and tiring week. Go and have a lovely rest and re-energise yourself.

oystercatcher

Big hug.

I wondered how you found the energy and money to do all you do.
It's not surprising you've hit a low patch.

Hope you feel better after some rest and 'mooloo time' .

Can you get DS's dad to arrange to have the bike taken into a bike place and sorted out, and he pay for it. I worry about safety if DS does his own repairs. They are very vunerable on these machines, I know as I have DS and DH who are bikers! It is very scary when they have accidents ! I think as (I believe) it was his dad who bought him the bike then dad needs to help with the upkeep. At least until DS's EMA arrives and then you need to insist he keeps an 'emergency bike fund' to one side!

Savvy_sewing

HI Oystercatcher, and everyone else.
Low was terrible yesterday, and I am wiped out.
The move is done, but the problems have left me with little funds, and as a bankrupt that scares me intensly. No way of borrowing, (No wish to either).
I bought the bike, with the help of my Dad, and insured it etc. His Dad finally pitched up £110 two months later. After promising to pay £150.
He was supposed to have fixed it, but let an apprentice look at it, now he says he is too busy to help.
The not to savoury friend of the twins has weedled her way back into twin1's life, and was at her flat yesterday when I got there, which is one of the reasons I stressed so much. I was shaking with reaction and had to leave. I couldnt stay in the same room as someone who had called my daughter a "disabled freak", unclean, a thief and plenty of other things, only a week or so ago. I have to pick up the pieces everytime she does that.
I had thought twin1 wouldnt let her know where she was moving too.
After walking out on twin1's home, until the girl left I am now being harrassed by disgusting text messages, and the girls mother is also hurling abuse over the phone. Dont ask me how she got my mobile number, but she did.
I am no longer anwering my telepone. Infact the minute she started I said I was not speaking to her, and hung up. DS answered when she rang next. He was amazingly polite, with a continued run of Excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, while the vile tongued woman hurled insult after insult. Then hung up on her. We didnt answer the phone anymore. I still got text messages basically calling me a prostitue around 9pm last night.
It was just too much for me to cope with yesterday. I felt suicidal. I am not an unfit mother, or a low life. I am not scrounging of of the state, I really am ill.
What kind of a family they must be is beyond me.
Funny when her mother threw her out, it was me she lived with remember. About the time I was burgled, in Oxford.
Anyway. Its been an awful time. I am staying away from the twins for the rest of this week. I have told Social Services I am fed up of doing it all, where is the help they are supposed to be giving etc. Got told they will "look into things" and are their to protect the babies.! Cant help me.
I have to see a doctor.
I dont want to see a doctor. I want my family helped.

Better go, as I am supposed to have left to take DS to College and I am not even dressed!. Damb

floss2

Mooloo wrote: »

....I am now being harrassed by disgusting text messages, and the girls mother is also hurling abuse over the phone. Dont ask me how she got my mobile number, but she did.....

Ring your mobile phone company, tell them you are being harassed, and ask for the numbers to be blocked.

ifonlyitwaseasier

mooloo call the non emergency number for the police and report her!

and ask(tell!!) Twin1 that she needs to get this person barred from visiting or report to the social workers yourself about her and get them to do it.

and then come back here and b*tch about them all :-D

hope you've not let them get to you today, you are a good good person and they are scum!

Savvy_sewing

I have had to call the police in the end. This morning after I had dropped my son at College. Got him there on time. Few.
I went to my parrots house to collect a dolls pram I was storing there, for GD1:D, its her birthday on Sunday. She will be 2.
Anyway as I arrived I got a death threat mesage, which in the grandscheme of things was the last straw. Mum said to ring the police, on the local number, and while I was on the phone to them I was bombarded with nasty messge after nasty message, calling me a disabled !!!!!, and many other unsavoury things, including repeating that I am an unfit mother, and what type of mother goes to social services on thier kids., etc etc.
Then she sent a message to Twin1, saying that if she knew where I lived "she would be burnt in hr house by now". (that about me). Nice woman. Girl.
Then she tried phoning me, but I didnt answer (as I was on the phone to the police).
Needless to say, I am a nervous wreck today.
It took me 4 hours to calm down, after the police came to see me at my parrots, and feel able enough to drive home.
I feel sick to my stomach that I tried to help this monstrosity of a person when she was thrown out of her home, and pregnant etc.
I intend to change all of our mobile numbers tomorrow, when I can get into town.
The police said that it is an offence to send abusive messages, and they will try to follow up, but as I dont know where this girl lives, just the area, it may or maynot be so easy.
I have reiterated in my statement that I am worried for the twins as they are vunerable adults with minimal social skills.

You will probably think I am over reacting, my BF certainly seemed to think I am, but it could just be that he was at work when I told him, and in an office full of people. So I wont dam him. Just wish at times like this that I wasnt a "lonely defenceless" old (ish:rolleyes:) woman. Could do with a strong arm around my shoulders at times. Living apart means that we are not actually in the same place when these thing have happened.

I feel like I am on a terrible rollercoaster mixed wth a spooky train ride! That I cannot get off.

I had high hopes for relaxing, getting my health back, and enjoying life in my village, with all the Tuesday clubs (which I missed again today), the gardening etc. Alas 5 months and I am not quite living the way I had intended.!:o
My Dad has helped me with some money so that I wont go into the red, and can take that pressure off this week. But they are away again tomorrow for a week. If my mum will still go now. Being in their 70's these messages and the language used in them has shocked Mum, and I wish I had been home when the messages arrived, then they would not have seen me collapse in a heap on the kitchen floor. Which I did literally.

There is one thing, my life cannot be described as dull. :eek:

Savvy_sewing

I have called the doctors and managed tobook an appointment for tomorrow. To start with he was fully booked up, but then when I told the receptionist, I need to chat as I am stressed after receiving death threats, she said, you what? and an appointment is there tomorrow at 10.30. Means lots of driving,or bus money to DS.
But think he needs to know the stresses are there, as he writes my sick notes, etc, and they are due again soon.
Bath running, better go turn the taps off!!

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo i don't know what to say........................................but I hope you are ok and the doctors help and the police deal with these people

Anyone who reads this thread knows how much you love your girls and your grandchildren and how difficult it was for you to take a step back from there lives....................you need not reproach yourself you are a good person !!!!

Shaz xxx

Errata

I'm so sorry all this has happened to you. Please put pressure on the police to act, they need to take death threats and threats of arson extremely seriously.
You are being hounded and threatened because Twin 1 is a vulnerable adult, so what's happening could be classed as a 'hate crime'. It would be worth pointing that out to the police in the light of Leicester police horrendous failure we've all heard about this week.
The driving must be taking it out of you. You mentioned giving DS bus fare. If he can get to college and back on the bus - let him. That's what he would have to do if you didn't have a car. Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but if he can do it, he should. Every day until his scooter is back on the road. It won't kill him and he can use the journey time to do some studying.

Savvy_sewing

I realise the rational side of me, that text messages should not bother me, its just another form of bullying. But it hurts, and I really try to make sure that the girls had the best care available. To also be called a lady of the night etc and the unfit mother/role model etc has not bothered me so much. Childish, and imatur. But when I tol my BF this, he had the affront to ask me why she would think that, and I found myself trying to defend myself to him. I have been with him for 5 years for god sake. He knows of my failed marriage in 2003, and so I was very hurt. I feel that he is from the old school of no smoke without fire. This is going to damage our relationship considerably, as I know how jealous he can be, and how distrusting he can be as his exwife was playing around in the end. So when we got together he was mistrusting of women, and would question any male attention, even astranger talking to me.
I had to work hard at our relationship, to gain his trust, now I fear he will go back to mistrust.
I know I should not worry about what may not happen, but the way my mind is going its not that easy.