A new start for Mooloo

oystercatcher

Molly41 wrote: »

Hi Oystercatcher,
Lovely to hear from you. Hope you are doing ok. Maybe send just the videos and not the cases via parcel post? Im always pleasantly surprised how reasonable that is? Otherwise perhaps we are in Leicester at the same time? Hugs xxx

Hello Molly,

I am back in Leicester in just over two weeks.
I'll have a think.

I am OK but not Ok, struggling with depression still. Will update in 'the other place'
Hugs
XX

Savvy_sewing

hello Oyster Catcher, and Molly, thanks for the offer. I wouldnt mind paying the cost of Postage! or carriage.

I am sorry to hear that your also suffering as Molly does. You are both very brave. Braver then me I think. I have had a long run of being better, but of late its been getting worse. I know that the movement in my head is limited and I really do struggle to keep the exercises up! I had tried to reduce the amount of Gabapentin I was taking, and after a week of being on the lower doseage, I am going to have to go back up to the higher dose, as I cannot go on like this, unnecessarily anyway!.

Had hoped that DGD would be sleeping for a while, put her up about an hour ago, and I can hear her already. She does start to play in her room, but as she is now in the cabin bed, I have to be careful as i dont want her falling out!. (Its just about my chest height). Mind you there isnt much room for her too fall out what with the other bed in there for her Mum staying. (when she does).

Savvy_sewing

DS has just telephone asking when I am next going to Oxford. The family he was staying with are on Facebook asking him what he is intending to do.
they are also expecting him to still pay rent for the time he has been away. Dispite I told them that they were to take notice from that week. 3 weeks ago. I have told him I am not due to go until mid week, but if his sister can care for DGD we could go and get his stuff now, so that she cannot keep charging him rent. I am so angry with her. She was supposed to be a friends mother, and she is just wanting money out of a 17 year old boy who has no income what so ever.! And £86 a week for sharing her sons room is disgusting!. Ohh I am so angry I could spit tacks!
DS has said that he wants to live back up here and not in Oxford, so at least thats one decision he has made.
What we do, where he goes, etc etc I have no idea.
Twin2's neighbour came to the door while he was on the phone and was telling DS off for some one flicking a cigarette onto their garden chair and burning it. (I could hear him over the phone). The sooner she gets back and she sorts her self out and kicks them all out the better!.
If she isnt too late and looses the place!.
So much for stepping back and relaxing.! I just cannot relax with all of this going on!.

peppa-pig

Mooloo did DS have a tenancy agreement or anything with that woman?

it might be worth posting on the House moving, buying and renting board for some advice on where he stands.

whiteguineapig

Mooloo wrote: »

Morning,
Even though I only saw the boys for an hour, I obviously madea difference to my arm, with lifting the baby and cuddling him tc etc. As I was struggling, and in too much Pain by tea time. I put DGD to bed after her bath, and went straight to bed myself. Fell asleep with the laptop on. Woke around 11pm. But soon went back to sleep. (used my Media player on, to relax me, and drift of).

This morning, I have had a reply to a message sent to twin2, but she is still anti me, as one of my friends apparantly told her off. So nw I have told Everybody her business.etcetcetc. At the moment I even feel like "naming and shaming" her, if that would have done any good.! But it wont. So I dont.

Twin1 didnt come back with us yesterday, when I would have liked and she was supposed to.
DS has said to not help anymmore, including him.
Not sure if I wrote that yesterday or not?

This morning I have still got mild pins and needles down the leg, but not as bad as yesterday. However I still have the feeling of " prickly heat" over the body. Will talk to the nurse this morning.

May miss my App F00d delivery, as they sent an email yesterday to tell me its coming today, but I am already commited to things this morning. I could give Twin1 bus fare to get to town, but then she would need to be let off taking DGD to play and stay this morning. So which ever way it is, I will have to help her! So frustrated with her, for spending her money in one hit!

i can't hilight it but this bit has stuck in my mind since i read it

DS has said to not help anymmore, including him.

i think i would be making one of his mates give him a lift really

(i sometimes think you'r too soft for you'r own good, i think i would let him stew , try turning your phone off )

whiteguineapig

i maybe sound a bit harsh , but honestly they all seem to think you don't have a life of your own, you are expected to just run them here and there, i think i would be turning off the mobile, sticking the answerphone on , not going on facebook etc, just let them get on with it for a while

Errata

HTH - if DS didn't sign anything proving he was a lodger then his 'friends mum' hasn't a leg to stand on. In any case, I'm not certain he could legally enter into an agreement as he's under 18.
My evil twin, who occasionally looks over my shoulder when I'm posting, says 'Is the woman on benefits ? If she is, shop her to the Social for benefit fraud. If she isn't, shop her to the Social for child abuse of DS'.
The aches and pains and gloominess sound like it might be time to have a chat with the GP again. There may be a better pain management regime that would suit better just now, and an urgent referral to the practice counsellor could be helpful if going back on anti-depressants is out of the question.

Savvy_sewing

Well I am flumoxed. I cannot read the thread anymore? All I can get up is page one? Cannot seem to get it to stay in Linear Mode? Very frustrating as I havent a clue what people have said since my last post? Wondering what I can do about it? But obviously if anyone does tell me, it would have to be in a pm. Cos I cant read it! So very frustrating. I have tried closing down my computer and restarting it. Noticed that my logging in automatically hasnt worked either? Nor is My MSN hotmail? So something has happened to my computer. Very odd.

Savvy_sewing

Ah, I have had to change the settings in the options side, thats allowed me to see the last page first, so I can read comments now!.

I did go to get DS's things, but the man there said the woman was out, and he was under orders not to let us take anything. (She is demanding over £500 now. I got the figure wrong, its £76.86 a week! Still at £538.02 now, when it was at £384.30 last time we spoke.
DS had told her on Facebook, (I didnt see her, she was talking to DS) that he would have to give her her money in installments, of £20 a week, but she apparantly told him to get the money from me! Thats a laugh in itself.
DS's moped was not in the garden anymore, and unfortunately his paperwork for it, insurance and log book, is at her house. Was wondering where we stand legally, and if she doesnt want to play ball, saying its been stolen?

I also asked if he had a tenancy agreement, but he said no, she helped him fill in the housing benefit forms and that he had a letter. But I cannot get out of him what the letter said. She reckoned that she would write him another letter, and I said that we would get the council to give us a copy. Thought that we could get citizens advice to see what options we have.
I have drafted a letter to her, to say that we had turned up to collect his things and that as we were denied access, or to have his things brought out to him, that we have no other option but to seek legal advise about the situation, and the legality of the amount she was charging him. Also that she was advised that he was not returning execpt to collect his things on the 14th may.

I too think that she knows the benefit system quite well, and that she was using DS. Maybe we could call the benefit fraud team, but I am not sure if she is on benefits or not, as she was working at one point. I am also not normally a nasty person, and feel guilty just at the thought of doing anything underhand.

I did point out to DS yesterday while we were driving that really as he was only 17 she should have told him to Go home to Mum, not opened up the doors to keep him there. But I have never liked her and still think that twin2 would have not been able to run away that christmas, if she had not helped her there either. There was no way that twin2 would have even known that there was a homeless hostel in Oxford, or where it was, before meeting that family. When she walked out on me and BF, on boxing day, she went straight to this woman, and had packed her stuff etc etc, so we always knew that she had had help. I have a deep grudge against her now. For me, who is always someone who forgives and forgets, she is one that I do not forgive and forget.

shaz_mum_of__2

Don't worry too much about this situation with DS but do report the theft of hispossesions, moped and documents , no matter her right to the money he may or may not owe her , She has no right to seize his goods without a court order you could ask a local police to accompany you and ds to collect his belongings. i would advise DS not to offer to pay any money as this is an admission of the debt which i think given his age is un enforceable (not sure though). Hopefully DS has learned a valuable lesson though.......

Sounds like this woman is a piece of work best let the authorities deal with it all .

Hope you are physically feeling better and getting some relaxation , Any news on re housing you?