A new start for Mooloo

shaz_mum_of__2

mooloo can't you put the car in park , i have an auto and never put the handbrake on

Savvy_sewing

Its a strange car, its a Semi-automatic box. so I can click it into gears, but there is no Park on it. (Unfortuantely).
thank god my garage floor is level or it would run down the hill!

Errata

They both were expecting to go straight back to Town and as DGD was nearly due her sleep, i reluctantly decided that they were adding to my stress levels and that I would just be as well to take them back! so I did.
Unfortunately DGD fell asleep on the way back, and now she will not have her propper sleep, as 5 minutes in the car she reckons thats all the sleep she is having. Unfortunately for me, that means that I will not get the rest now that I wanted.

Sorry this happened. DGD's needs should take priority over those of her mum and uncle. Should this happen again, in your shoes I would tell them to start walking ! DGD can't stick up for herself in the face of the immature and irresponsible demands of two adults, which right now means you have to stick up for her. She has nobody else.
As always, best wishes, and good luck with the car.

Savvy_sewing

I suppose my BF is right, I am a bit of a soft touch! I really find it difficult to deal with my family these days.
I really am beginning to feel that they are taking me for a ride, and that I am stupid trying to keep the family together, and that its costing me not only financially but emotionally as well.

But they were getting on my nerves being here, when they really dont put in the kind of work load that they should be doing.
I have tried talking to them both, seperately and together about helping me and not hindering me, but to be honest its going straight in one ear and out the other, and I give in. (which is probably why they sulk, and are awkward and argumentative etc etc etc.

This afternoon DGD didnt sleep, I tried several attempts but decided that it was getting too late then, so left it and she went to bed early. just after 6.15 I think! So I shall have an early night no doubt as I will get an earlier morning!.
I am just going to nip out and do a little 10 minutes (probably all I can manage) on the little bit of garden at the front of the house, as I really want to get my sweetpeas planted up.! Or the seeds will have been wasted.
So I will do that now knowing that she is asleep.
Tomorrow we will not be going anywhere as the car is being collected, then in the afternoon, my mr.A delivery is coming.
Stocking up the cupboards and the freezers again.. Bit early but its going to be the majority of things for June.
(At least I hope it is).

SDG31000

Hi Mooloo, sorry I haven't commented for a while, but I've been dealing with my own chaos here. I'm sorry to hear about twin 2 and her attitude. I think you are right to concentrate on those that want and appreciate your help. As long as your grandsons are happy and well cared for, then she needs to accept the consequences of her actions. She brought them on and needs to admit she is the cause of her problems and that you aren't in any way, shape or form.
I hope that your car is quickly and cheaply fixed and that you get to enjoy a quieter day tomorrow. Take care of yourself please xxx

Savvy_sewing

Well good morning, we are up. DGD is eating breakfast and I have had my first cup of tea. The washing machine is on, as unfortunately she was asleep for 12 hours well that bits good) but the nappy leaked. So all the bedding has to be washed.
I have a load ready to hang out, but only just been and dressed!
The garage are sending someone to collect the car. Lets hope that they can find me. (presume they will have sat nav.). Think that I may as well get them to service the car at the same time. Know that that will be a lot costlier, but at least when its done its done, and when the money is gone its gone.

Biggest of Mooloo wants me to ring up about a house for her today. We will have to see. But I hope she isnt going to end up trying to pay rent on two properties! for too long.

Next door the lady is having a coffee morning and selling plants (in aid of the church) so I might just be nipping in and seeing what I can get to enhance my failing gardening attempts.
Too much time doing things for the family and not for me and my garden, home etc.

Talked to Biggest last night, and I am really determind to try to grab some of my life back! Ok with a 2 year old in tow its never going to be what I envisaged, but surely I can slow down a little.
I may just tell the Social Services that I am not going to be at the next meeting about the boys, as I need a rest from all of the stress. Just keep in touch and ask for a copy of the minutes to be forwarded to me. Lets face it, I am not even sure that Mum is coming. If I go I may not be constructive enough. I may just be too negative and damage her chances even more.

floss2

Mooloo, have the Social Workers come up with any support for you while you have DGD yet?

Savvy_sewing

floss2 wrote: »

Mooloo, have the Social Workers come up with any support for you while you have DGD yet?

In a word NO.
They are always suggesting what could happen but nothing has materialised. They now have 8 weeks to come up with a plan etc and present it to the Chairperson from the fostering meeting.

I have been so busy trying to catch my own tail these days!.

I shall telephone the office around 9.30 and ask them who is the new social worker, and when are we going to meet them, and what they plan to do.
I am also going to tell them that I cannot make the next meeting next week re the boys.
I shall see the boys tomorrow, if I can, but next week, I need a week off! Just do what I want to do, with DGD of course.
The rest of them can all just wait for my attention etc

Savvy_sewing

OK, so I have spent the morning doing a little bit of weeding, then I went next door, suitably changed my clothes thank goodness, and met the local reverend and his wife, and a major or two, and helped hand out biscuits and lent my garden chairs and tables. Oh and spent £10 on plants! so yet more gardening that needs doing.
DGD went down quite well, she was a talking point anyway. Now I suppose the Rev. will be visiting!. But I was given the number of the headmaster of the local school, in the next village, and was told that there is a playgroup coming back to the village in September. (well the next village, but if I was fit its only about 3/4 mile up the hill). So I am going to ring up and get DGD's name on the school list.

DGD is asleep. She was tired by 11.30 and so I put her to lie down. Went back and forward a couple of times but she is still fast asleep.

floss2

Hope you've had a sit-down, Mooloo!