A new start for Mooloo

jackieglasgow

Mooloo, you need to make sure you are taking care of yourself. If the worst does happen for your daughter, and the children are taken into care, you will need to have the strength to deal with everything that will bring emotionally, and if everything is OK and they remain with their mother, you will need to be string enough to say no, and keep a healthy distance. Make sure you are resting when you can, and that you are getting at least your 5 a day! Thinking of you and yours a lot just now, I wish there was more I could do than that.

Jackie X

Savvy_sewing

Mooloo reporting back!
Mixed news, really.
Twin1 managed to get the right bus, and meet me in the local town. We went for the meeting at the Churches place, and our (nicer) social worker attended, although she was late.
It was a long meeting and they said that they do not have any places at the moment. My heart fell. But they eventually said that one of the houses would be available, but it had been smashed up by the outgoing tenant and they have to fix itfirst. IF they offer her a place. After loads of questions etc and forms to fill in, the meeting ended with a we will ring you later. Anyway I needed to see the SW about the Kinship forms and so asked if we could stay on in thier meeting room to just do that. Which they allowed.
When we came down from the meeting with the SW, they have agreed to let twin1 have the house on its availability. This may mean that she will have to come and live with me, while we wait, if we cannot get another extension on her staying in the New Horizons. So fingers crossed for the results of that....

The meeting with the SW afterwards was quite straight forward and we signed the various papers to put DGD into my care as a Kinship carer. Which means the assessment I should have had gets done, etc andthat I will then get Kinship funding back dated to the 25th November.
She said a between me and you, (well its now between the MSE people,) that my letter stirred a hornets nest up, and when they started to look into the cases that I had quoted etc, they realised that it would be a very expensive case if Itook them to court. So they are to pay me.Then the sting in the tail was a parting shot, that they have now decided to temporarily pull Biggests assessment from the pile, as they will not allow her to take on DGD until she lives in a 2 bedroomed place at least.
I broke this news to Biggest, and now we have various problems to deal with that and this will mean that DGD will be with me a lot longer then the 2 months or so we were expecting all this to take. Biggests lease is until September for a start.

From that meeting it was back to the main town, expecting to take twn2 to the hospital to see the children, but she had had a call from the (not so nice) SW and the core meeting was to go ahead in the health centre back near her place,, so we had to go all the way back and meet with the SW, health visitor, housing officer and housing Support. The housing officer did not come, the healthvisitor could only report that the children were still in hospital,the social worker could only confrm that the fathers of both children are not allowed unsupervised access and the children canno leave the hospital until all the tests are done. The skeletal scan for thebaby was donetoday apparantly, and the two year old will be done tomorrow, as he has to be sedated to do it.
This means that we doubt that he will be allowed home/both, until at least Wednesday. (Praying to God that they do not find anything negative in the scans).

We convene again in 4 weeks time. But will have a new SW as he is handing over the case to someoneelse. To be named at a later date?

It was 5pm before I dropped Twins at the hospital. Brought DGD home and she is currently having a bath.
You will laugh but I am perchd on the loo seat, (top down), with my laptop, updating you.

I am so tired that I feel will not have the energy to update if I do not do it now, and that I may forget something.

I have actually telephoned the BF and told hm all this. Before I post it.

jackieglasgow

Well, these are all baby steps in the right direction. The funding thing is a HUGE thing, so that's fab news, and backdated to November is fantastic news, and although taking care of DGD is exhausting for you, the money will mean you can maybe get her a nursery place which will help you get a break more regularly, especially if she does stay with your for a few months longer than initially planned. Aslo the new SW for the children is a huge step in the right direction too, IMO! Things will come together. I am glad to hear that your are making an effort with BF too, if these are the things which will help you repair your relationship with him. I hope that he is making as much effort. I'm off now, take care, and I'll catch up tomorrow.

Jackie X

Savvy_sewing

Well he made some huge steps at the weekend, so lets hope so. But rome was not built in a day, and we have to both remember not to put up our devensive mode all the time. He has to learn that it will be a while before I am able to say NO to things alot more.
I am trying to, but some of these things still need my input unfortunately.

At least by the end of April both twins should be rehomed.
I should have some money so I am able to pay my bills.
The stress hopefully will have disipated and the new social worker will be more accommodating of twin2's comprehension skills. (And I dont mean her essays!).

DGD has just decided to tear up her sponge and stuff it into the end of the bubblebath bottle!! So I guess she is more like her mother then I thought. The twins would eat the sponges, and in the end I didnt bother having any!.

Right better get her out of the bath before she becomes a prune,and my laptops power cuts out!.

Molly41, I am planning on our new regime of Tea and Cake in the morning, and as I do not have to go and get Twin1, I am takingthe day off. (Unless I have to do a hospital run tocollect the children, but realistically I cannot see them coming home until the SW has another meeting!). Except of course we will still have DGD, perhaps I will do us a bite to eat for Lunch if our natter extends.
Still need to sort out the basis for Wednesdays sewing lesson now, as I havent got Twin1,,,

floss2

Mooloo wrote: »

....I will then get Kinship funding back dated to the 25th November......

Fab news - at least you will be able to manage financially for the next few months

.....they will not allow her to take on DGD until she lives in a 2 bedroomed place at least.
I broke this news to Biggest, and now we have various problems to deal with that and this will mean that DGD will be with me a lot longer then the 2 months or so we were expecting all this to take. Biggests lease is until September for a start......

Does Biggest's landlord have any other properties?

.....I have actually telephoned the BF and told hm all this. Before I post it.

That's a good thing to do - you can share more detail with him than you may always want to with us, and he knows what is going on too

Mooloo, you may wish to edit your post a little.....you don't want anything to jeopardise your new good fortune

minimoneysaver

Congratualations Mooloo, hopefully that money will provide you with the much needed holiday and to pay off your debts. Maybe you will be able to put some money aside for a rainy day? x

minimoneysaver

floss2 wrote: »

Mooloo, you may wish to edit your post a little.....you don't want anything to jeopardise your new good fortune

Agreed

bertiebots

I just wanted to say I am thinking of you Mooloo....fantastic news about the funding btw. It must be a weight off knowing you & dgd are going to have enough money to live off.

Take care of yourself.

Savvy_sewing

Have I edite out the right bit? hopeso, having quite a thick moment. So much is going around and around in my head.

Savvy_sewing

Right, its time for me to sign off, get some sleep, while I can. I am exhausted. I will need my strength over the next few weeks still, so I better take care of myself better.
will aim for those 5 a day!
Was thinking of a soak in the bath, but the bathroom is still too cold. (I dont want to put the wall heater on, or I may fall asleep in the bath!.).
Heat pad and bed it is then.