A new start for Mooloo

bertiebots

Mooloo wrote: »

I will never forgive myself if they do find problems with the grandchildren, that I have not seen, or that Twin2 was not aware of.

Mooloo unless you have superhuman powers ie: x ray vision and the ability to be in several places at the same time (and god knows SS think you have) how could you possibly know? You simply couldnt have done more than you have.
Lets hope for everyones sake that they are just being overly careful.
Take care x

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Sorry people, dont know how I did that? Posted twice?

It happens sometimes, don't worry about it. But if you click on the Edit button beneath your second post, you should be able to delete it.

Skint_Lynne

I hope everything goes well re: the kids Mooloo. Don't beat yourself up about this, it's not your fault.

If it helps any, you're not the only one with family issues. I have just spent the day in the hospital with my uncle who has a drink problem, so my day off did not happen today. I've not seen him for months and he turned up at my door this morning asking for help. What can you do? I couldn't turn him away although my head told me to do just that.

Anyway, he is settled in the hospital and hopefully this time, he will accept their help, although I will not hold my breath.

Take care and as always, you are in my thoughts. xx

clairehi

Hi Mooloo, Im a long time occasional lurker.
I have huge admiration for what you have done for your family, but to be honest its painful just to read at times - what you have been through - I cant imagine what it is like to live through.
Your thread reads like a catalogue of what is wrong with Social Services, I hope to God your grandchildren are ok.
I havent read all your thread but PLEASE contact your MP if you have not already done so. it is their job to support you in your battle with public services - that is what they are there for. It may take a bit of explaining - as the situation is so complex - but has to be worth a go. You need someone else to help you fight these battles, you seem to be doing it on your own and it is exhausting you.

lolababy

The ss services are hopefully just being safe. They have come in for a load of flax for children who have been abused under their noses.
Its a hard time for all of you and Im sure decisions will have to be made with regards to the childrens long term care.

Im really pleased to see your talking with your boyfriend and maybe this is the start of a more supportive relationship.Maybe its time to concentrate your efforts on you both rather than everyone else.

jackieglasgow

Good morning Mooloo. I will be thinking of you today, and hope that this too will pass. Like the others, and yourself, I hope this is just then excersizing extreme caution. {{Hugs for you all}}

Jackie X

Savvy_sewing

Oh lolababy, I wish I could just concentrate on BF and myself.
I feel so guilty that I am stepping back at the moment. Its just that I nearly collapsed on Tuesday afternoon. I had to spend Wednesday in bed. Mentally as well as physically exhausted to be truthful. Not only becuase of the breakup with BF, but with continually trying to work with SS and not getting on very well.

Before this I had always believed that SS did thier best etc. But I fear that they are so stretched it is only those that shout that get heard. The problem is the fact that they shut the door after the horse has bolted does not help anyone.
I have tried to get the family/girls help since babies were born. The first two!.
I have worked alongside them from the beginning. But as I was "coping" they would leave us to fend for ourselves once they had done thier so called assessments.

I AGREE THAT IF THERE IS A BELIEF THAT THE CHILDREN HAVE BEEN HARMED THEN THEY NEED THESE SCANS ETC. What I didnt agree with was them waiting for a week after the BF of twin2 had gone, and then take them in, without letting twin2 know what was happening!. If they were worried that they had broken bones etc surely the scans would be done immediately. Not keep them in the hospital all weekend. But its the way that the SS worker didnt explain to twin2 what was possibly going to happen, and prepare her for this. Then it was the way he spoke to me. I have never been spoken to like that by a Social Worker before. They usually are calm, and not so rude.

I fear for twin2 losing her children, but if that is the best for the children then we will have to abide by that. I just do not want my sentiment for my grandchildren to get in the way of the FACT that I cannot care for them.
I also do not want to go back to two years ago, and have twin2 move back in with me. I just know how that went the last time don't I. Dont we all. I got left to fend for them all myself. It lost me my health and my job. I loved my job, but the stress of both just didnt work.

This morning, I am hoping that twin1 manages to get the bus to Towcester on time, so that we can see the Housing Officer etc. I hope that we get her home secured. Once that is doen, then I will be able to breathe a sigh of relief.
Then I can go on to the hospital and face the facts there. Twin1 will have to care for DGD while I am at the hospital as my parents are away and Biggest is off to work today.

elona

Mooloo

I'm crossing fingers, toes and everything I can think of for you.

I almost asked what more social services wanted from you - blood?

Wouldn't put that past some of the specimens you have encountered.

Big, gentle hug.

Molly41

Thinking of you and yours today. Hope we can meet up tomorrow for a cuppa and a catchup. Hugs xx

lolababy

Im in agreement with you with regards to ss services they should have been honest. Lets face it though they twist things to suit themselves .
Please do get legal help for your daughter and tell her not to sign any documents until she has sought advice. At least then you wont be in the dark regarding ss and your grandchildren.
I really feel for you and your family as I know from what my family went through to keep our niece from the clutches of ss. Pray be to god that things will work out.