A new start for Mooloo

Edinburghlass_2

Mooloo, I'm a lurker on this thread but all I can say is good, get angry and just blinking tell them, truth be told you should have been getting angry with them all for weeks now. You aren't helping them nor yourself by being so nice!!

Savvy_sewing

Its a bit difficult to go against my nature thats the problem.!
But I really feel I need a holiday.! Alas I havent the funds.
I did think of packing DGD up in the car, and a couple of suitcases and heading for the hills!! But of course its not so easy.
My little cottage was supposed to be my sanctuary, but having everyone here lately has currently lost its charm, and I just have the urge to escape!.

Its a pity that there is nothing sorted out about DGD yet, and it looks like there are not going to be any miracle changes very soon.

First we need to get DGD into a Nursery, and of course fund it? Then of course it means that I am still needed/expected to help out, which will tie me up.
Actually seems to be more of a commitment then it is having her with me. Although I am sure its probably not all as bad as it is seeming to me at the moment.

Time I go and get a shower, and wash all the antagonistic thoughts away, (if I can), its not helping my jjoints with the tension etc, and after the physio I hvent been myself since!!

granmadelighted

morning mooloo ,heres a gentle hug for you:),

i hope you feel better for letting of steam yesterday at your family, it wont do them any harm to hear some home truths and it wont do you any good to bottle things up.

you cant go against your natural and maternal feelings because in the long run it will make you feel bad .
you have a naturally kind and generous nature and of course they are your family and you love them, the world would be a much happier place if there were more parents and grandparents like you.

the only thing i would say to you is that remember in your family there is one person you are putting last and she deserves an equal share as she is just as important as everyone else .of course that person is YOU,

dear mooloo please please look after your needs as well as the families if and as much as you can , just think ,
WHAT WOULD THEY ALL DO WITHOUT YOU ????????

you deserve a nice weekend, hope you have a lovely time.
hugs from granmadelighted.:)

granmadelighted

mooloo, i forgot to add maybe you could get a cot off freecycle or perhaps if you have one spae put her in a big girls bed, shes old enough to try it i should think.
hugs granmadelighted.:)

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo does DD have to notify the benefits people before you can claim? i would have thought you could apply and then they will sort it out after all yours is the greater need .

Shaz - still popping in but lifes a bit chaotic at the minute XX

Savvy_sewing

Morning.
I have been away, I went to Oxford middle of friday afternoon. Leaving DGD with Bigggest of Mooloo's BF. Had a good chat with him before I left. I feel confident that he loves both my daughter, and DGD. H said that he would happily be taking DGD with them to a wedding in America in October. He also said they were going down to Bournemouth with her at easter. He seems willing for Biggest of Mooloo to stop working for a while, and support her. But she seems bull headed about things, and doesnt want him to have to take her and DGD on.
Her job have refused to reduce her hours, as she requested last week, so on Friday she was gutted. She will need to work out a planB.
MyBF was surprised to see me as early as I got there, he was extremely attentive ths weekend, (must have missed me not going down last week). Which is just as well as the kids were unsurprisingly not!. (Except biggest of Mooloo).
BF ran me a lovely bath on Friday night. Took me out for lunch on Saturday. So I got some TLC.
I bought a blouse that is the kind of colour I want for my Mum's Bag and I hope I will cut it out later today. I also managed to find my sewing magazin in WHSmiths in cowley, so that along with watching the GrandPrix gave me lovely weekend. I didnt want to come home.
I called into the club that Biggest of Mooloo still works in, spoke with her, she told me I am getting my mothersday card on Monday. She also talked alot about DGD. She is looking forward to having her, but worried about the finances. Which is normal. Quite a few of the customers, (People I used to hang around with many years ago, when I was the secretary and the club), all said that she was a lovely person, and brilliant to be taking DGD on. Well I know that ! She is my daughter afterall.
Then I went back and picked DGD up from her flat, her BF was babysitting. He helped me take the stuff to the car, and told me he again about supporting Biggest of Mooloo.
DGD slept in the single bed in her room. She did get out this morning, and come into me, but I was listening out for her for about an hour before she did. I was worried she would go down the stairs. But she didnt. She just told me I needed to mend the other bed!. Such as life.

Today we are going to stay at home.! I am not going to drop anything for the twins. They didnt even ring me to say Happy Mothers Day. When I got through to Twin2 she said that she had a card for me, but I hadnt gone to see her.
Twin1 didnt answer her phone. So I dont intend to ringher again. I am still very cross with her.
The Tax Credit forms arrived in the post while I was away.
So I have some paperwork to do.

Twin2 seems to have coped over the weekend dispite all the telephone calls and the tears on Friday.
She has been nominated for a house in a village the other side of Towcester. It is on a bus route, so lets see which one of the places comes to fruition.
The meeting about the Child Protection Plan for her two is on Thursday.

Right thats the weekend covered. Oh, no I forgot, I went around to see DS on my way back from BF's. Briefly got a hug, and an I love you mum. Which breaks my heart to see him in the place he is at the moment. But I do not see signs of him coming back home.

Today, the sun is shining. DGD is colouring at the moment. But we wll still need to light the fire, as its very cold in here.
I noticed some of my seeds are starting to come through. I have many more that will need to be planted soon. So I am hoping to show DGD some nature lessons today.

Errata

Good to see you were pampered this weekend.
Perhaps it might help if you had another lengthy chat with Biggest about how she
feels? I understood that she and her BF will be joint fostering DGD - have I got that wrong ? If I haven't then he has as big a role to play as she has, and that includes him keeping her and DGD if necessary and of course vice versa. If she's being 'bullheaded' about his role in this, he may naturally start to feel pushed out and struggle to understand what his role should be in this new little family. I'm sure that's what none of you want to happen, and the important thing is that DGD has a stable and reliable family environment.

Savvy_sewing

I think its the previous debts she has, that she is worried about. (they came from the previous chap she was supporting after his car accident a couple of years ago). I dont think its any of the other things. Just the loan. she wants to work to pay that off.
He starts a new job soon, couple of weeks, I think, that will give him as much as the pair of them I think, but he doesnt actually live with her all the time, as yet. So its depending on the future really.

Anyway I left the potty at hers, and the dressinggown, so I am going out after all, as holding DGD over the loo is killing me. !
Shes getting to be such a big girl. (Tall not overweight).

Thanks xx

Apricot

Sounds like things are starting to improve Mooloo and you so deserve it. It is a wonderful thing of your eldest to take on DGD and Im sure that she will do a fab job of bringing her up.
It's a great shame about the twins but sometimes you just can't help people who aren't willing to help themselves. Obviously this is more difficult as you are their mother but they are adults and need to learn to stand on their own two feet without being able to run back to you all of the time.

Savvy_Sue

I know it's a long way off, but if Biggest and her b/f are talking of taking your DGD abroad, they might want to apply for a passport for her sooner rather than later, which I believe her Mum will have to sign in the absence of any other paperwork. Then I don't know what other paperwork they'd need nearer the time so that they could 'prove' they weren't kidnapping her!

Glad you had a ME weekend.