A new start for Mooloo

granmadelighted

hi mooloo , thinking of you today as you soldier on, you are brilliant .hope you got on ok at the hospital and that you will get the
help/recognition you deserve from the social soon .

hugs from granmadelighted.:)

bertiebots

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

At the risk of sounding like a cracked record on Mooloo's behalf, the twins have some learning difficulties. From what Mooloo has said, that means they struggle to learn things, and then to retain them once they have learned them, so they then have to learn them all over again, and learn to retain them.

Rotas are a good idea, except that they haven't worked well in the past - even left a list of things which needed to happen, very little did happen, either because the twins were arguing over who had done the most, or because they didn't look at the list, or lost the list, or didn't understand the list, or forgot they were supposed to look at the list, etc.

They're useful as a tool for showing that Mooloo is doing her best, but that the twins need more support than she can give.

Twin2 has learned that she can use as much heat as she likes, and it doesn't cost her any more. She now needs to learn that in her mother's cottage, that's not how things work. But it's not as simple as 'getting used to' something or being told something - she actually needs to re-learn something. But then that's complicated because she's going back to the hostel where it doesn't matter once more!

Is there anywhere you can lock the electric heaters away until absolutely required, Mooloo? I'd worry on safety grounds anyway!

Another thought for transport: would it be simpler, quicker and easier to take one 'family' to the nearest bus or train, and then come back for the other? Without knowing the geography, I have no idea, and I know you'd have considered this, but remember to think about it every time, don't just let everyone assume that you will run a taxi service all the time!

Plus, do consider taxi services, and out of interest, how far is it to the village and what facilities are there once you get there?

Thinking of you ...

Having worked with adults with learning difficulties for 12 years before becoming a sahm I am aware of the many complex issues that come with Mooloo's situation which is why I said she would know best what will work for her family;). Just because something hasn't worked before is not reason to not try again....if Mooloo lived by those rules the poor soul would have given up long ago:(. I suppose we all just want to offer the best advice we can because this whole situation is so damed frustrating and we arent even the ones living it:o
Hope you and your family are ok Mooloo.

jackieglasgow

Och, Mooloo. When I win the lottery you'll be the first person I remember. I promise. Those SWs need a kick up the backside. {{Hugs}}

granmadelighted

hi mooloo how are you this morning hoping that things went well yesterday and you are busy playing with your grandchildren ,not tearing your hair out with yet more trouble. thinking of you today.
hugs from granmadelighred

Savvy_sewing

hello, sorry, I missed all the posts yesterday. It was a hectic and tiring day. I was at melting point last night, therefore I didnt come on to the computer at all.
I was only doing the driving, but it was awkward. I had to drive backwards and forwards to make sure that all thekids were with an adult.! The car is too small for all of us.
By the time I got home last night, I was crying with the pain. Struggled to eat as I could hardly get my arm up to my face. Went to bed within an hour of putting the kids down. Twin2 did as much as she could.

Due to the notice from SS about her BF, she is struggling emotionally with his loss.

On a good point the babies hips are fine. No problems so he is now "discharged".
We drove past one of the villages that may have a house soon, it is a worry as it is nearly as isolated as this one, however it does have a bus pass. Twin2 really wants to be in Towcester near her sister, and my parents though.!
Today I have had an unannounced visit from the Social Worker, who arrived just as my Dad was arriving to take twin2 to the doctors. She was supposed to have her 6 week check, and the baby had to be weighed as he had lost weight last time.
As I am not so good, although much improved on yesterday after a good nights sleep, my Dad took twin2 and the baby, and I stayed at home to look after the two twoyear olds.
Molly41 came to see me today. That was lovely, and we chatted quite a bit. She met twin2 and the children, (and my dad and the SW in the end). So she now knows what I am talking about for the logistics on my exact village and my remoteness. She also has seen the cottage and knows now why I am fighting to stay where I am if I possibly can, get the family sorted out.!
I have not heard from housing today, so am not aware of any changes etc.
Biggest of Mooloo is going to take DGD tomorrow for the night, and my Dad has just suggested that if I am helping twin2 to get her hostel room sorted out etc, that if Biggest of Mooloo can keep her sunday night as well, and drop her off on her way to work, he will have her with my Mum on Monday morning, and bring her back to me once I have moved the others, or I would have had to do all that double driving again, just becuase my car will not hold us all.
Now I must feed the kids, as they slept for a long time and are now hungry.

Savvy_sewing

Well there is already a change of plan, my dad has said that if he can borrow the car seat from Biggest of mooloo's he can take twin2 back, save me as his car is bigger. he can help monday but not tuesday or Wednesday.
So its great that I am getting some logistical help.
And the emotional help, with someone to actually talk to. All I do need now is the actually help for the kids to get housed, the SS to sort out Biggest of Mooloo, and to win that lottery!!!

Seriously I really am tired, and I really do need to have some me time soon. Thank god for my Dad's help today.
Twin2 has been back to collect her post and has been told that her BF cannot return to the hostel at all, so I am just going to go and check out with housing if that is true,and how come the people in the hostel know her moves etc etc before she does?

Molly41

Hi Mooloo,
Just wanted to say I really enjoyed our chat and meeting your family - they are truly a credit to you and you are doing a really good job supporting them. I really hope you get some good news soon for the the twins as regards their housing and future support. Keep your dreams and hopes for that little cottage - I can see why you want to stay there as its idyllic xx

granmadelighted

hi
i hope you can get some rest and metime this weekend, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
so glad you had a bit of good news, some help and a friend to vist.
your cottage sounds lovely, i live in the country too and i agree that the lack of and unreliability of buses and taxies are a nightmare and an added expense to anything you want to do.

p,s i dont have a computer at home now soi can only reply to your posts when im visiting my dd and dgs, but i do read your thread in the local l.ibrary in between.
hugs from granmadelighted.:)

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo, I'm so glad to hear you are getting some practical help, long may it continue. Out of interest, what (if anything) did the Social Worker say on that surprise visit? Did you manage to communicate that This Cannot Continue?

and it is indeed appalling that other residents know what is going on before Twin2, if it is true (rather than the rumour mill). However, that's not uncommon, and it may be hard to work out how the news got out: it may be someone stating something which they don't know for certain but which happens to be true.

bertiebots wrote: »

Having worked with adults with learning difficulties for 12 years before becoming a sahm I am aware of the many complex issues that come with Mooloo's situation which is why I said she would know best what will work for her family;). Just because something hasn't worked before is not reason to not try again....if Mooloo lived by those rules the poor soul would have given up long ago:(. I suppose we all just want to offer the best advice we can because this whole situation is so damed frustrating and we arent even the ones living it:o

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend. But I suppose I'm at the stage of thinking that really, Mooloo has to stop TRYING to make it work, even in the short term. I don't know what that looks like, mind, but I think if it was me, I'd want to concentrate my energies on ensuring that the little ones are dressed, fed and as settled as is possible under the circumstances. For Mooloo at least, that means hang the washing up, hang the cleaning, hang the laundry, and most definitely hang moving furniture around!

bertiebots

Savvy-Sue I really wasnt offended (it is so difficult to word a reply in type isnt it!:o) I just wanted to clear up where I was coming from. I totally agree that Mooloo shouldn't be doing anything except making sure she and the lo's are well, like you say hang all those other jobs! Instead I was trying to suggest she deligates(sp?) to everyone else in a meeting. Maybe I am not very good at saying what I mean......:doh:

Mooloo hope your arm is better than earlier and maybe its time for a dodgy hug:grouphug:and a cuppa:coffee: