A new start for Mooloo

queen_of_string

Mrs Mcawber had a whole garden of pots last year. It was called the patio appotment! She had all kinds so it's perfectly possible and something I am going to try this year as we are in rented accommodation at the moment and keep having to move. You could probably search and find her thread on here about growing stuff.

Savvy_sewing

tired_mum wrote: »

Morning mooloo
What happened re twin 1s boyfriend and all the aggro that happened the other week? hopefully it was a storm in a teacup
Good news re mum n dad helping out hope your path becomes clearer as time goes on

Hi,
I know what you mean, but it was twin2's BF that was the problem.
We are having a Social Services meeting tomorrow afternoon, where I am invited, as well as the Health visitors, housing officer, and housing support worker.
Not sure what the outcome will be, but I gather that some of it is over the terrible housing situation, and the other part will be about the children.
So we will see.
there are still issues that I am not happy about, and I will see if there is an opportunity to bring that up tomorrow.
Twin2 is a littlebit stronger, but he still is "dominating things! and I am determind that he is put firmly back in his place if I find anymore of his old ways occurr again!.:mad::D

Savvy_sewing

queen_of_string wrote: »

Mrs Mcawber had a whole garden of pots last year. It was called the patio appotment! She had all kinds so it's perfectly possible and something I am going to try this year as we are in rented accommodation at the moment and keep having to move. You could probably search and find her thread on here about growing stuff.

Well I am still not happy about the idea of moving. My head is in a spin. It is not just about the garden, its about my independance and my freedom too.
I am worried about moving as I really do not have the funds to do that. I will have to downsize to a flat, and I really wanted to have a house that the family could also come visting etc.
I have moved so much, I really wanted to put down roots for at least 5 or 6 years! I will not be able to do that alas. That is disturbing me considerably.
I feel that everything is always about the children/young adults and I wonder if any of them have ever stopped to consider how I am feeling, and what the benefits would be for me.?

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Hi,
I know what you mean, but it was twin2's BF that was the problem.
We are having a Social Services meeting tomorrow afternoon, where I am invited, as well as the Health visitors, housing officer, and housing support worker.
Not sure what the outcome will be, but I gather that some of it is over the terrible housing situation, and the other part will be about the children.
So we will see.
there are still issues that I am not happy about, and I will see if there is an opportunity to bring that up tomorrow.
Twin2 is a littlebit stronger, but he still is "dominating things! and I am determind that he is put firmly back in his place if I find anymore of his old ways occurr again!.:mad::D

I think SS wouldn't have invited you if they didn't want you to contribute, and your contribution would help to provide a fully rounded view and be an important part of any decisions that are made.
I know you are aware of the BF's rough handling of the eldest child; even if you only know that second, third or fourth hand it would seem to be quite an important issue that should be brought to the attention of the meeting

candygirl

Mooloo wrote: »

Well I am still not happy about the idea of moving. My head is in a spin. It is not just about the garden, its about my independance and my freedom too.
I am worried about moving as I really do not have the funds to do that. I will have to downsize to a flat, and I really wanted to have a house that the family could also come visting etc.
I have moved so much, I really wanted to put down roots for at least 5 or 6 years! I will not be able to do that alas. That is disturbing me considerably.
I feel that everything is always about the children/young adults and I wonder if any of them have ever stopped to consider how I am feeling, and what the benefits would be for me.?[/QUOTE]
I don't think they are considering you hun, with the exception of your oldest:(I only have 1 DD who is selfish as hell, so can relate to this, and really feel for you:o
It must be such a hard situation to be in, and hope you can get sorted and settled asap x:A

Jo4

Good luck for tomorrow!

Savvy_sewing

Well another day has dawned, and more Social Services to contend with.
Twin1 was a little upset last night, when her sister took DGD to her flat with her. We both cried, as we knew it was the beginning of things to come.
We also talked a lot, for over an hour,which is a miracle in it self. It was sad to hear her talking etc. But helped us both understand the way she is feeling about DGD.
I spoke to housing officer yesterday, and we are to get an application in to South Northants council and the homeless person there, who knows our case said that she may have somewhere in mind that would be more appropriate for Twin1 with careworkers close. So fingers crossed I can get the right letters written by the SS and the housing where Twin1 is now.

Now its time to move my self and go and take her home, before I do the meetings etc for her sister this afternoon.
Just as well that DGD has gone to her Aunties!. It might have been more difficult this afternoon if not.

granmadelighted

hi mooloo, good luck this afternoon, so glad your parents are able to h elp you with the rent ,they must be very proud of you the way you have coped with all this.
if eldest dd fosters dgd and is working she should get help with childcare costs,through tax credits or nursery voucher scheme if her work is in the scheme. thats what my dd and her oh do for my dgs aged 3 and they get help even tho he is now in fulltime state nursery school.
also it would be worth you trying for a disabled bus pass, ive got one,in wales we travel free on the buses but it might be half price in england. you need a form from the council and your gp has to sign it to say you are disabled
hope this is of help to you.
hugs and prayers from granmadelighted.:).

Savvy_sewing

Well i am exhausted. Not sure which part of me is not hurting now!
Twin1 went back to her flat, with plans to do some sorting out, ready to pack. We got the letter of her date to leave the accommodation, and we downloaded the housing application form which she signed, (and I can fill in for her).
I got onto her social worker, and she is going to email me a letter to give with that to housing, asking for them to consider Twin1 for Assisted living accommodation. Which I believe there is some in Towcester. That really would be a coupe if we can get Twin1 placed smoothly.
So now I am awaiting my email. Then I can take the lot into the Housing, hopefully tomorrow, and they can get the ball rolling for twin1.

this afternoon I was at a meeting for Twin2. Although the housing officer for there didnt turn up, even though she was supposed to.
The meeting took an hour and a half, and I am exhausted after it. (But I did get to feed my grandson while I was there, and have the compulsory feed back over my shoulder. ).
The father was warned about his actions and was given some instructions to do something about his Anger, and his drinking.
He was also warned that he was not allowed to harm the children, by intent, or by mistakes. that it was not acceptable etc etc.
Twin2 said that he has asked her to marry him! God help us. That they were going to stay together and work things out. well thats OK if he changes his attitude, but to be honest I think its a load of !!!! and bull.
I asked for a few things to be noted, so i dont think I was flavour of the month.
The social worker that was heading the meeting, made sure they were listening, and went over things several times and got them to repeat things back to him. His warnings were stern.
We have another meeting on the 8th April. But in the meantime the healthvisitor and the support workers would be keeping an eye on them. He was also aware of the money issues, and twin2 said that she has taken over the money and gives him an allowance! Wonder what that amounts too?
anyway he also said, was she aware of what had happened with her sister? and that he didnt want to see the same thing happen to her.
](Niether do I!!) At one point twin2 said that she didnt think she could cope on her own, and about 4 minutes later her BF said he had work in the Summer with Haven, but he didnt know the dates, or when or where? which seemed very odd to me. Anyway I called the meeting to attention, and I asked if he had heard what Twin2 had just said.
the social worker has told them that they have to discuss this situation better, and that in 2 weeks time, he would be asking them what they have decided, as Twin2 admitted that she didnt want him to go. So its going to be interesting to say the least.
I had forgotten to give Biggest of Mooloo's the pushchair so I dropped that off when I was driving passed. Stopped for a cuppa and my lunch. DGD was happy, and drawing, and she was watching fifi on the tv. So I was pleased that she didnt distress when I went. Just said "see you later, love you". She really is quite cute at times.

So this evening. its time for me to relax. Fill in a few forms, and get ready for the Housing tomorrow.

I did have a good look around Biggests Flat, and really took the size etc in. And the patio area, the carparking, and the noise issues etc etc. Just want to get my head around the things that she and my parents are talking about.

I really want to talk to my BF about things. I still swing from the practical ideal and the fact that its a ground floor flat, with a patio area that nobody else uses, so I could probably use for container planting, and there is already seating there., so when I get worse I wouldnt have to negotiate the stairs at night etc. I wouldnt have major fuel bills either, and its a pay as you use, so that would be easier then running up bills. Although I heard that they are usually dearer.
We will just have to see.
The other part of me wants somewhere to do all my crafts, and things, (if I ever get the time.). I also dont want to loose my furniture etc etc. But I will just have to see whats happening. My mind has so very much to contend with, I feel like I am the bunny in the lights again!!

Errata

You've had a pretty exhausting day. Try and take things as easy as you can this evening, it will help your 'kaliedoscope' head to settle down and start to put things in order and start to make sense of them. As always, my best wishes.