Daughter caught us having sex....

N.I.M

Dinah93 wrote: »

I don't think many relationships can survive for a long time without sex, I know a couple who broke up because she just swore off sex after they had the two kids, and the guy left eventually (he stayed well over 10 years mind). He's certainly making up for lost time now though! I'd much rather I knew my parents were still happily romanced with one another than fiddling someone else on the side.

Shes trying to spare my feelings here. Its my parents shes refering to. Theres more to the story here but its basically true, a bad sex life ended a 20 year marriage. Sad really but they're happier now and so far as I'm concerned thats all that matters. And yes my DF is making up for lost time now in a major way. Paper thin walls in that apartment. *shudder* that said DB and his GF are much worse. My other wall has a LOT of marks from thrown shoes :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

SugarSpun wrote: »

In one of my old apartments (six sharing), the walls were paper thin. It was considered appropriate to attempt to keep the noise down, but we all knew that sometimes it was just going to get loud.

It was also considered appropriate that, if any actual words were distinguishable from the general racket, these words ought to be introduced in some casual way into the conversation the next day. Bonus points for ingenuity.

My housemate's ex was horrified to learn that we did this, all the more so because he discovered it while the two of them were drinking tea in the kitchen the next morning. Another housemate and I wandered in all bleary and morning-headed and started making breakfast. She went to drop a glass jar into the recycling box (covered, with holes in the top for different types of recycling) and I yelled out, NO! That's the WRONG HOLE!!

The three housemates in the room almost passed out laughing. The boy was not so amused.

I think I've done myself a mischief having read this one...owies.

Birdie85 wrote: »

I can't believe how naive I am, I had to ask my BF about the various chocolate bar references made on here and he now thinks I spend my days looking at dodgy websites! And the spit roast story sounds like something right out of a 'Lady's Confession' in a lads mag! I shouldn't have shown him that blow up bed thing though, he wants one! Lord knows where we would keep it!
I am eternally grateful that I never walked in on my parents but I was once rooting around my Mum's bedside drawer for some reason when I was about 12 and found her... toy! I was suitably mortified and never ever mentioned it!
The tables turned not so long ago though, I had my Mum and SIL in my bedroom and was getting something out of my bedside drawer for SIL and accidentally knocked my 'pocket rocket' on and had to quickly make up a lie about the buzzing being a massager because I had shoulder ache!

Birdie I'm shocked and appaled that you would possess one of those, your such a nice wholesome girl, or so you led us to believe.

Anyway OP has your DD calmed down or moved to your mothers?
And as regards your mothers, potential reaction, I would point out that:-
1:- its none of her business
2:- its none of her business
3:- its none of her business
4:- its really none of her business (am I getting my point across yet?)

But all jokes aside you said your relationship with her was not the closest, is that still the case? Has it gotten better? Are you worried that this will affect it to the point that it gets bad again if it has improved? And this is going to sound really harsh but are you all that bothered if she does decide never to speak to you again if she heard about this? Is she the sort to do that and if she is do you want that in your life?

I'll stop now before this becomes a full fledged rant.

ChIpStIcK

My parents are getting old, in their late 60's, Somethings in life you put up with and even though my relationship with my parents hasn't been the greatest, they do dote on their grandkids, so for their sake i keep schtum, I don't want the regret and hurt when they pass away so for my sanity and because life is so short i let things go.

sarymclary

On a holiday to Ibiza with my parents, when I was about 13, I woke up in the middle of the night to 'strange' noises. I was sharing a bedroom with my parents in an apartment we were sharing with another recently widowed lady & her daughter, who were in the 2nd bedroom. It took a few minutes for me to work out what was going on, and I was mortified. I daren't move, and was thankfully facing away from them at the time, but I do remember feeling quite upset at the time, and quietly crying afterwards. I don't know why, as such, probably because I just felt it was wrong for them to have done 'it' with me in the room I guess, and it did seem rather gross (they would have been early 50's then, so ancient to me). The one thing I do recall also is my mum complaining to my dad afterwards that he didn't do it very often! If only he'd held out a few more days!!

My parents used to send me and my older sister to Sunday school, despite them not being churchgoers, and of course it was only as an adult I realised why. As I became a teenager I seemed to work out that the radio cassette being played on a Sunday morning seemed to indicate their 'lie in'; I've never liked Julio Iglesias since!

N.I.M

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

My parents are getting old, in their late 60's, Somethings in life you put up with and even though my relationship with my parents hasn't been the greatest, they do dote on their grandkids, so for their sake i keep schtum, I don't want the regret and hurt when they pass away so for my sanity and because life is so short i let things go.

I'm the same, but I made the mistake of letting it cross the line from "letting things go" to "letting them walk all over me". Just dont make that same mistake.

Bettyboop

sarymclary wrote: »

On a holiday to Ibiza with my parents, when I was about 13, I woke up in the middle of the night to 'strange' noises. I was sharing a bedroom with my parents in an apartment we were sharing with another recently widowed lady & her daughter, who were in the 2nd bedroom. It took a few minutes for me to work out what was going on, and I was mortified. I daren't move, and was thankfully facing away from them at the time, but I do remember feeling quite upset at the time, and quietly crying afterwards. I don't know why, as such, probably because I just felt it was wrong for them to have done 'it' with me in the room I guess, and it did seem rather gross (they would have been early 50's then, so ancient to me). The one thing I do recall also is my mum complaining to my dad afterwards that he didn't do it very often! If only he'd held out a few more days!!

My parents used to send me and my older sister to Sunday school, despite them not being churchgoers, and of course it was only as an adult I realised why. As I became a teenager I seemed to work out that the radio cassette being played on a Sunday morning seemed to indicate their 'lie in'; I've never liked Julio Iglesias since!

When my mother's mother (deceased) now divorced my grandfather and ran off with another man she told my mother to move in with her...so she did but like you found it equally disgusting and inconsiderate to be at it with minors in the room. My mother would be lying in the same room on a single bed hearing everything her mother was doing...she didn't give a hoot and this happened on and off with a few different men...she soon moved back to her fathers as I'm sure you can see why.

windswept

ChIpStIcK wrote: »

My parents are getting old, in their late 60's, Somethings in life you put up with and even though my relationship with my parents hasn't been the greatest, they do dote on their grandkids, so for their sake i keep schtum, I don't want the regret and hurt when they pass away so for my sanity and because life is so short i let things go.

I don't find late sixties to be that old really, my father in law is that age and we recently took him on holiday with us, he had a room directly next door to ours and at one point had a connecting room - we had to lock the door after he wandered in as hubby was applying sun cream rather "affectionately" to my back , I was topless and rubbing myself backwards against him at the time - it's a good job I was facing away from the door.
He must have heard us at night time, he always seemed to flush the toilet just as were getting stuck in!
He was widowed at 57, with a long illness beforehand so he's gone a long time "without" - I also suspect my mother in law would have had a similar attitude towards sex as the OP's mum. I do wonder if his prostate cancer is in part due to a lack of a sex life from quite a young age.

KellyWelly

sarymclary's story reminded me of a time when my parents took us to Spain on holiday. We had 2 rooms with my mum and I in one and my dad and brothers in the other (no door between). One afternoon my mum said she had to have a shower in the boys' room and my brothers and I sat in the bedroom area watching telly while my parents ran the shower and did the deed but unfortunately the water wasn't loud enough. That's also reminded me of another holiday when they did the same thing.

They're divorced now (after we all left home) but if they were at it so much that I've lost count of the times I've heard or accidently seen them, I don't know why!!

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

windswept wrote: »

I don't find late sixties to be that old really,.

I don't consider late sixties to be old either.
I'm 54 my husband 58 if he thinks he's retiring from doing the deed anytime in the next 25 years he's sadly mistaken.:D
I think as long as everthings working ok,there's no reason not to.

chiefgoobster

sarymclary wrote: »

On a holiday to Ibiza with my parents, when I was about 13, I woke up in the middle of the night to 'strange' noises. I was sharing a bedroom with my parents in an apartment we were sharing with another recently widowed lady & her daughter, who were in the 2nd bedroom. It took a few minutes for me to work out what was going on, and I was mortified. I daren't move, and was thankfully facing away from them at the time, but I do remember feeling quite upset at the time, and quietly crying afterwards. I don't know why, as such, probably because I just felt it was wrong for them to have done 'it' with me in the room I guess, and it did seem rather gross (they would have been early 50's then, so ancient to me). The one thing I do recall also is my mum complaining to my dad afterwards that he didn't do it very often! If only he'd held out a few more days!!

My parents used to send me and my older sister to Sunday school, despite them not being churchgoers, and of course it was only as an adult I realised why. As I became a teenager I seemed to work out that the radio cassette being played on a Sunday morning seemed to indicate their 'lie in'; I've never liked Julio Iglesias since!

I had to re-read this for a second time as I initially thought it was the widowed
lady and her daughter who were having a ' kitkat shuffling sesh ' so to speak.

:rolleyes:

Notsosharp

I caught my parents at it once, they were lying on top of the bed and just starting so I didn't really see much to be honest, I just walked out of the room again, they did'nt see me and I think they probably just carried on....I was 17 at the time I think and didn't really think it was a big deal! I was just ever so slightly bemused because my Mum was adamant she didn't do that kind of thing any more!!!