My kids are being bullied - What can i do?

suekjw

You mentioned a little girl who goes in when this bully comes out. Have you spoken to her parents? Just thinking, it may be good if the two of you could look out for each other?

My boy is very sensitive. I'd rather have him like that though and I'm sure you are the same.

Taye

suekjw wrote: »

You mentioned a little girl who goes in when this bully comes out. Have you spoken to her parents? Just thinking, it may be good if the two of you could look out for each other?

My boy is very sensitive. I'd rather have him like that though and I'm sure you are the same.

yeah ive spoken to her parents but they are the "none confruntational" kind, they would rather just let her come in than try and cause a fuss about it.

i've had her come over to play in our back garden a few times and that does seem to work but tbh she just gets upset and run's home if the insults start flying over the fence.

liney

Taye wrote: »

No unfortunatly no friends or family (someone play me some tiny violin's please :cheesy: ) so i can't even get some bigger kids to go give him a push around !!! grr ... besides im not sure sinking to that level is the example i want to be setting to my kids.

I will certainly be giving the police a call see if i can get some advice from them. :T

You don't have to start a fight, just have an older boy snarl and look out for them. Your boys wont hit the bullies back which is why they are being targeted, so it's a case of get them to stand up for themselves or get someone to give a little helping hand. Without the support of the childs parents then other then a taste of his own medicine i can't see much else working.

Hopefully you will have the support of the parents if the (kinda) police turn up though.

Best of luck

Spendless

Taye-Have you put up an SOA (incoming and outgoings). I'd recommend you doing it on the DFW board,people are very good and can maybe spot some areas where you can cut back that you might not have thought of.

Re- the bully, have a word with your community police. Meanwhile let some of the children play in your garden, or if they want to ride their bike you stand and watch them, with your mobile phone in pocket. (just in case).

If you can scrape the money together I also recommend Beavers/Cubs. I've found it a very good way of getting children to learn independance within a 'safe' environment.

Let your children's school friends come over. They won't care about the lack of room, put a few toys in your small room, or let them play downstairs/in the garden.

Penny-Pincher!!

Taye wrote: »

I don't want to work less hours, im currently trying to do courses etc so i can get a better job and build a career.

Going part time or onto benifit's compleatly isn't going to build a brighter future for my family, the only thing it with ensure is that it 10 years we are still in the same situation we are now. I'm hoping for better than that.

I'm cabable of working there is no reason why i shouldn't be providing for my family myself, no reason for me to claim more from the state than i need.

I understand everyone is trying to help but changing my hours of work, moving into rented/council accomedation etc isn't the answer to what im asking, i live in my house it might not be much but it is mine, as much as anything on a morgage is anyones.

I've fought for 7 years to keep it im not about to give up on it now and let the goverment provide for me, to me that seems like a step backwards not a step forwards.

I don't want to seem ungreatful because really im not, i'm thankful for your kindness and suggestions, but im looking for ways of dealing with a bully not ways of running away.

My son is most likely always going to deal with these things in senior school especially, i need help dealing with that or in helping to support my son so it doens't make his childhood misrable.

I really don't belive running away is the answer as we can't spend the next 10 years moving everytime a child has a problem with the fact that my son is alittle different.

I think this is one of the most inspiring posts I have read for a long time on MSE!

I take my hat off to you.:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

PP
xx

Taye

I've put a SOA up on the boards already,

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1717149

Other than suggestions about writing to my creditors and ask to pay them less and a suggestion about buying less food (which im trying to do without much sucess as the food money is also the "everything else" money) there didn't seem to be much help available, i'm pretty much cut to the bone already so i don't think there is much stuff i can cut back on.

princeofpounds

Check out the neighbours from hell (NFH) forum for advice. They might not be your direct neighbours, but the hell part is appropriate. You might be able to get pointers on getting the police involved, mabe even as ASBO. It's not necessary for the occasional kid's scrap, but a persistent pattern is a worrying sign.