MSE Parents Club Part 3

Fritha_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Oh and p1ddle of with your dropping a few stone - do you think that we are supermodels? :rotfl:

Well, I do look remarkably similar to Kate Moss with bigger boobies *tries to look convincing*

Savvy_Sue

emlou2009 wrote: »

i think sue couldnt sleep last night

I didn't want to go to bed before DS1, in case he needed me for anything. He did let me make him sandwiches at 1 am. :rotfl: By then I was half way through the 30 pages you lot had written while I'd been busy / without access to the 'puter for two days. So I decided to finish reading, and ended up writing an essay saying what I wish people had said to me when mine were little.

Then I got up when I heard his alarms going wild, to make sure he got in the shower before someone else did. And then I fussed round until his friend arrived (late) and wrote another essay.

But I really must go now ... DH has been waiting for me to take him to work, only he's taking himself to work as my friend is picking me up! Communication: first rule of a good marriage. :rotfl:

Js_Other_Half

Savvy_Sue you are a star!

I worked with special needs kids for years, but God knows there are times when I find my own toddler harder work than any of them!

I made most of my mistakes on coping with other people's children, I could share the responsiblity, and I could then hand them back at the end of the 2/4/6 days...rofl.

I have the VOICE, and the LOOK. The VOICE is saved for DS running towards a road, or for me being at the end of my tether with PMT and just having had ENOUGH!! <blushes> I do then apologise to DS who accepts it with good grace...

The LOOK is used after I've explained what I expect him to do, and he ignores me, I then say his name and give him the LOOK. I then take a mental step back and start the process again of asking him what I want to do.

Whatever we do is wrong - accept this now and you will be happier parents. We cope as best we can, and our children will hate us as teenagers - this is a GOOD thing and means we have made them independent human beings. Eventually they will speak to us again...

Remind yourselves they do not come with instructions!!

<hugs> for those who need them.

MrsTinks

Ladies - quick question - do you find Next sizes come up normal, big or small... ie if I'm normally a size 16 should I buy a 16 at Next?? HELP!

money_maker_3

cazscoob wrote: »

i think we should arrange a mummies weekend away! health spa or something along those lines:D a few drinks and a lot of laughs!!!!!!!!!

lol at the scottish BF picnic there would be me and r.mac!

just looked at prices for flights but have lost my driving licence so thats that one out lol!

my Northern Ireland one would be just as small , me and Mrs Moc :rolleyes:

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

BTW, I always wondered if I would like my toddlers better once I didn't have a baby to worry about as well. I didn't ...

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

emlou2009

me AF and laydbird could have a dahn sarf picnic :rotfl:

r.mac_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I don't mind if you call me MFD!! Sometimes I spend so much time on here I think of myself as MFD :rotfl:


Hubby is away tonight and I have spent all night chatting on here and FB!!

i sometimes call you MDF :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Which is mostly for Agutka, atm, but really for all of you, at some point.

All the books, all the TV programmes, all the 'experts' say that you have to be consistent. You have to say no and mean it, you have to respond in the same firm way, you have to set the boundaries and stick to them.

Obviously this is a Good Thing.

However, you mustn't think that if you are NOT consistent 100% of the time, you have Failed. That's not being inconsistent, it's being human.

Now, since we're all parents to other humans, they can (honestly) handle the occasional inconsistency. I find with my lads, it helps to explain it, but then they have always been very rational.

So, you have decided to use Becles's Firm Voice. You have practised in front of the mirror (perhaps with the phrase "I am doing a Good Job"?) You have explained to Tiny Tearaway that you are going to stop shouting and use a Firm Voice instead, and when he hears your Firm Voice it's important, he must listen and do as you say.

And it starts well, if you're lucky you've been able to get a lie-in or a break to energise yourself, and off you go.

Then on Day Three, you haven't slept for two nights, you get an invasion of flying ants, Tiny Tearaway's Father won't be back until nearly midnight, you've had your Monster-in-Law on the phone telling you that SHE never needed to do X, Y or Z, and you crack, and you shout instead of using the Firm Voice.

Deep breath, fresh cup of tea (even if it's gone cold), batch of tissues for the tears, and a cuddle (if you're allowed - DS1 never liked them much!) Tell Tiny Tearaway that you are sorry you shouted, but you were very tired, you love him very much and you were worried that he was going to hurt himself / break something and you shouted (possibly because he didn't seem to be listening to your Firm Voice!) but you don't like having to shout so ... you're going to start again.

And that's what you do. Start again.

Now, I don't know if what I've described above is going to help any of you. All I can say is that I think it's possible to explain things - not necessarily reason with, but explain things - to young children.

You can do this with nice things too: "We don't usually buy anything for you on the way home from school / nursery / playgroup etc, but you've been so good at listening to my Firm Voice lately that we will call in at the Post Office today." Or they ask you for something you'd usually say "No" to, and you think "OK, we can do that today." But you make it clear that this isn't a permanent change to 'the rules', it's just something you can do today.

It's like the way some of you find a routine for young babies helps you and them, and others of you are more 'free spirit'. Some of you can manage 99% consistency, but even those of you with a routine find it sometimes goes out of the window, but it's not the end of the routine if that happens. Same with consistency.

Anyway, I need to go and get dressed before my friend arrives to pick me up. Hope this helps, and if it doesn't, feel free to ignore me. Remember, all of this will stand you in good stead when they're taller than you.

you should write a book - you are my parenting guru

MrsTine wrote: »

Ladies - quick question - do you find Next sizes come up normal, big or small... ie if I'm normally a size 16 should I buy a 16 at Next?? HELP!

next is big - i'm normally a 10, but buy an 8 in next

r.mac_2

okay - went to sale at next at 5.30am. It was much quieter than i was expecting, but poeple were buying hundreds and hundreds of items :eek:

I was very good and used my mse mantras! Anyway I got:
2 x long sleeved bibs (nneded now we are weaning) 6-12m
A beautiful red wintery dress and body suit 9-12m
matching set of red tights for above dress 6-12m
beautiful 'Party' style dress 6-9m
5pk of plain bodysuits 9-12m

And I got a t-shirt top for myself

The whole thing came to £23.50! There was a lot I could have bought, however, as tis was the summer sale I had to keep in mind that seasons change there was a lot of 3-6m sizes, but as that's what she's just started wearing I didn't think even at sale prices I needed to add to her vast wardrobe. So I stuck to the wintry things and I'm really pleased.

speaking to the assistant on the till they said they would be putitng out stock all weekend and probably the beginning of the week as well as there was tonnes out the back! so I may go back to see if the things I saw that weren't in the right size suddenly appear

just looked at my reciept and they never charged me for my top!!!!! :eek:

cazscoob

hi ladies well im determind to finish the girls room today! so fingers crossed the kids behave and i can get it all done!

with the weather being so bad here i cant see any picnics going ahead!
right im off to start but may be back lol! x

Mazcabs

Sami_Bee wrote: »

My Friend had a baby on the 11th :T She's just updated her FB status Henry 9lb 5oz :eek:

Wot a great choice of name.... (yes I'm biased)