MSE Parents Club Part 3

astonsmummy

Claire_Jones wrote: »

AM: has DS1's behaviour been difficult for a while? And how is his co-ordination - throwing balls etc. Only because its worth checking out if he has Dyspraxia and is just becoming frustrated rather than naughty

Can I have the sleeping through the night course for Reece please!!

Yes it has, he's been seen by the child develpment team since he was about 2, was in speech therapy but just got signed off, is under the SENCO at school, but I'm not actually sure if anyone thinks there is a problem.
One doctor said he displays ADHD symptoms but I dont think he has.
He is to put it nicely, rubbish at throwing, kicking etc, but i think it's just because he's not been taught much.

He wont sit still, and He has little concentration skills, and I have to literally repeat myself numerous times for him to take in what i'm saying to him, which is really frustrating then I end up loosing my rag and shouting

I just feel a bit hopeless

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

You have loads to offer! Especially to me, it great to have a baby so close in age to DS, I like comparing!

Is Ryan ticklish? That is Tobys new thing, he giggles hysterically and curls up when tickled!

Aww thnx, how is Toby doing?
yes Ryan is ticklish, but only on one foot (like his Dad)
He is a right chatterbox too, loves having 'conversations' with people, I woke up this morning to him cooing and gurgling away to himself, I layed there for about 20 mins listening to him.

Sami_Bee

astonsmummy wrote: »

Not been hiding as such, just took some time out from MSE as I felt i had nothing to offer.
No it wasnt romantically, we got up one morning and he said we were going out, I asked where, he said you'll find out then we pulled up outside the registry office to go and ask what you do lol

Aww thats quite romantic, how sweet!
I'm sure Aston will settle back into school, maybe in sept after he's had lots of time with you over the summer, he's a bright boy i bet he knows just what he's doing

SusanC_2

feelinggood wrote: »

Is Ryan ticklish? That is Tobys new thing, he giggles hysterically and curls up when tickled!

I'm jealous - Alice wasn't the least bit ticklish until she was about 1.

Sami_Bee

SusanC wrote: »

I'm jealous - Alice wasn't the least bit ticklish until she was about 1.

Chris is super ticklish my mum has him in hysterics tickling him over the phone!! :rotfl:
My friends LO isn't at all, i could never get him out of a tantrum because my first reaction with Chris was to distract him with tickles

Krystaltips

Caitlyn is ticklish, she doesn't laugh yet but she squirms and curls up... Hubby is ridiculously ticklish so she obviously gets it from him...

AM, Aimee's behaviour is becoming a problem at the minute, like you I'm constantly repeating myself and end up shouting... I've just started a behaviour reward system... When she's behaving or does what she's told she gets a happy face, if I have to shout at her, or she back chats / growls or doesn't do what she's told she gets a sad face... For every day that she gets more happy faces than sad ones she gets 25p and if she manages a whole week she gets 25p extra making it £2 pocket money... Last week she managed 6 good days... This week, so far... 2... But it's early days so once she realizes she can't buy anything because she doesn't have enough pocket money it might encourage her to try harder... I never really agreed with sticker charts when she was younger because I didn't want her thinking she should be rewarded for things she should do anyway, but I just can't see any other way at the moment...

Lu_T

Thanks for the labour vibes. I'll take what I can get - American or not! Midwife's coming shortly to give me a sweep so hope that helps.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Oh yes... Where you been hiding AM?
Congrats on the engagement! Did he propose romantically?
My OH proposed with the ring when i was watching hollyoaks :rotfl:

We got engaged during an argument! My friend had given him details of a ring I liked. He'd then confessed he had them. So I'm thinking, good, I'll get a romantic proposal (bit out of character). Then one night he starts asking me about the ring. What was it like, etc. Then claims he's lost the details. I flip cos he hasn't got enough gumption to walk into the shop (where he knows it's from), tell them the shape, the rough amount and the range (it's a Millenium diamond, we got engaged in 2001) and figure it out for himself! Cue big row which ends with him saying, "Well I won't propose on our anniversary next week then!"

We went to buy the ring that weekend :rotfl:

BrunoM wrote: »

Yurgh.
Morning all... back in sunny England after a 17 hour journey yesterday.

First error - we ran out of one of his reflux meds a day before we travelled. Although he didn't throw up on the plane, he did 3 times in the departure lounge (once each on me and OH), and then when we got home 4 times around the house poor little man.

The flight itself was ... ok ... he slept in the airline bassinet for about 6-7 hours, but very very restlessly and grumping, had to be re-settled or BFed back to sleep maybe 5 times. Comedy images of OH standing at the front of the cabin bent over him with her boob in his mouth trying to avoid getting him up...!
OH was very good and did most of the settling so I caught quite a lot of catnaps and she didn't get much rest.

He slept in the cab home, then when we arrived (3.30) I put OH to bed for a few hours as she was a zombie, and entertained Elijah for the afternoon. Got her out of bed after giving him supper and a bath, and we began the attempts to get him to sleep...

Between 7.30 and 8.30 he went down for an hour but woke up screaming; he then wouldn't settle at all (bearing in mind it was around lunchtime California time). At 10 we agreed I'd crash out - as I am back at work today with major jetlag - and OH would stick with it, I was a bit worried as she was still well out of it and bleary.
At midnight I woke up to more of his screaming, thought I'd come out and offer to help - found her standing confused and tearful in the hall having shut him in the bathroom to scream I took them both to bed and told her she should just co-sleep and use the booby every time he twitched. It did work but she didn't get a lot of sleep and I woke up quite a bit too.

This whole 8 hour timeshift travelling is a bit of a pain! I really hope he moves closer to UK time body-clock today!

Hugs Bruno. Hope everyone's jet lag settles soon and you can decide what you want to do about the sleeping. You must both be like zombies. Bless you for giving your OH a break - a lot of men wouldn't have thought about it.

astonsmummy wrote: »

I'm good thnx, just plodding along.

Started slimming world last week, but has been a hard week as OH's family were down from Scotland and they love to eat out!
His Nanna and Granda are on it and have lost 2st and 3st since January!
I'm really in that frame of mind though and it is such a good plan to follow, i mean this morning i've had a small bowl of cereal then a 'grill up' (bacon, tomatoes, mushrooms and a dry fried egg. :drool:

Ryan is officially a beast lol I'm not used to having such a chubby baby, and long!

He is sleeping through the night, from about 10.30pm till 6.30am, which is good, Aston didnt sleep through until he was 18 months :eek:

Astons behaviour is getting a bit bad so am going in today after school to ahve a word with his teacher as I need to sign off some of his ISP work (he goes off with a teacher into the sensory room and to do extra activities with what i can gather is other naught children )
But he is extremely clever, is way ahead in his reading writing and maths skills so I dont really know whats going on, OH's family think it could be because the baby and his teacher said he seems to be seeking attention alot more than usual.

AM - I agree with the others. It probably is because of the baby. Have a fab time with your boys over summer and I'm sure Aston will settle down in September. He'll have missed his friends and be raring to go!
Good luck with the SW (it's what I normally do). Have you joined the Baby Weight Shifting Club? http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1778827&page=11

Lu_T

Oh, forgot to say that Jojo's sale has just started if anyone wants anything from there. There are some good baby's room bargains. Just off to look for a BF top.

Krystal - Imogen has a sticker chart and she really responds to it. We reward with books, trips out etc as she's a bit young for cash, but I'll remember that tip. I've just had to take a sticker off her as it took 30 mins to put cream on and get dressed. But she is promised a 'special' Mr Men sticker if she naps properly - which she's currently doing. We change the criteria quite regularly depending on what's becoming an issue.

SusanC_2

If we had a reward chart for Alice we wouldn't need to give her anything - the stickers would be enough, she's mad about them. She regularly swipes stickers off fruit and veg in the supermarket - one time she was walking round with a big sainsbury's basics strawberry punnet label. She looked so funny! (I did get her to put that one back though as it's a bit more important than the ones which just say fyffes or jaffa or whatever.)

Sami_Bee

I was a 'problem' child (I bet you're all really shocked at that...no?) I had a spot chart at school and it really worked for me I got to choose which picture I had, the picture was filled with spots (I bet you could make your own with a cheap colouring book and draw the spots on using a button/5p as template)
If I was good all day I got to colour in 2 spots, one for morning one for afternoon. Each time I started a new chart I'd pick something like a toy or casette (yes remember them!) and once I'd filled all the spots Mum would buy me the thing

what I find funny is there was quite a bit made of my behaviour at school (partly I think because my mum worked at the school) but Mum says that now no one would even notice me in a class because most of the children behave how I used to - its the break down of societly don't ya know