MSE Parents Club Part 3

sparkle03

slscarborough wrote: »

OH did say to me we will look back and laugh about these times one day!! I did say to OH that I need some time to myself at the weekend without the kids - I dont think he approved.

Im sure he'll come round to the idea! If not he's going to have too!
You said your OH tries to get out of doing things for Caitlin, do you think its because he's not sure if girls work the same as boys? iyswim? sorry that hasnt come across as I wanted it to but hope you know what I mean?

sparkle03

I have done everything on my 'list of things to do' for the day, Go me! :T
LoL All I have left to do now is list ebay stuff, but I really dont want too! I guess I could go and sit in the garden with the lappy and do it there! Lexi is sleeping and Josh is playing in his room! That never happens ........ Hmm best go and check on them both! Although Im sure five minutes of peace would benefit me and I can play with my super cool new stereo that OH bought me yesterday - I wonder how loud I can have it before I wake bubs..............
Im going away now, can you tell I dont get much free time to myself?:rotfl:

Becles

Sorry to hear of everyone having a rough time at the moment *hugs* I think you need to read this:

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front garden. The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog.

Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the dining room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.

In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the bench, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What the hell happened here today?"

She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world did I do today?"

"Yes," was his incredulous replied.

She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."

3onitsway

sparkle03 wrote: »

Im sure he'll come round to the idea! If not he's going to have too!
You said your OH tries to get out of doing things for Caitlin, do you think its because he's not sure if girls work the same as boys? iyswim? sorry that hasnt come across as I wanted it to but hope you know what I mean?

Is it a size thing? My OH was terrifed when baby was new. He managed a few nappies, but couldn't bath her - he was scared of breaking her! :rolleyes:
Now she's bigger, sturdier and likes to be thrown about - he's doing a lot more with her.


ETA: Thanks Becles :rotfl: I might need to print that and stick it to the fridge.

sparkle03

Becles, thats sooo funny and more importantly so true! Rather than trying it and losing my sanity, the bit of it I have left anyway I think I will email that to OH! Thanks x

SusanC_2

feelinggood wrote: »

Supposed to have a property inspection today. For the past week, I've been asking OH to sort the bins out, so the house is tidy. He hasn't, and has informed me this week that the wheelie bins are full, so I'm left with several bin bags in the kitchen, and a pile of boxes and recylable stuff. Not really giving the best impression to the lettings agent is it?

He wouldn't sort it out, so has gone to work, but not before asking why I chose to be ill, why I can't just force myself to go outside, how it isn't fair on the baby, how I'm supposed to be healthy for him, how I should make an effort. He walked out, I didn't tell him I love him, so he came back in and said he bets he'll die in a horrific car accident on the way to work now, because I didn't say it.

I'm coping alright with the day-to-day baby raising, but if I don't get better, I can't be a decent Mum. I don't know what to do. To be honest, I don't think I can go through the process of getting better again. I've done it once before, and it was awful, and if I end up relapsing again and again, I think I'd rather just stay inside for good. I can't raise a kid like this though.

Oh I used to hate having property inspections. They used to phone OH's mobile to arrange them for some reason so he arranged one for the week Alice was born. :eek: When the estate agent found out we had a newborn baby he said we could have put it off for a few weeks and he didn't go round looking in all the rooms - just asked OH all the usual questions.

I'm sure you are (and will be) a great mum. :grouphug:

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

And I can get some housework done. I know DH is going to come in in his normal supportive way and accuse me of not doing anything all day though, as I've been doing things that need doing, but aren't obvious to him, because he hasn't fallen over them (filling out an application form for another job, cleaning out a box in the kitchen I found maggots in this morning :eek:, cleaning the inside of the kitchen bin, emptying all the bins and changing the bedding... oh, and we're on the 2nd load of washing of the day...)

:eek: I used to be a Biology Science technician in a secondary school - maggots were the worst thing. Especially when they escaped.

I think men just don't notice a lot of things because they don't bother them as much. I just tell my husband what I've done (or make him guess and then tell him).

Becles wrote: »

She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world did I do today?"

"Yes," was his incredulous replied.

She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."

:rotfl:That is hilarious.

Lu_T

Mazcabs wrote: »

Hi Lu T, I went to get this the other day and it was back up to £9.99 again, gutted.

Aw. I only bought it on Sunday. Boo!

feelinggood wrote: »

Having a bad day today.

Supposed to have a property inspection today. For the past week, I've been asking OH to sort the bins out, so the house is tidy. He hasn't, and has informed me this week that the wheelie bins are full, so I'm left with several bin bags in the kitchen, and a pile of boxes and recylable stuff. Not really giving the best impression to the lettings agent is it?

He wouldn't sort it out, so has gone to work, but not before asking why I chose to be ill, why I can't just force myself to go outside, how it isn't fair on the baby, how I'm supposed to be healthy for him, how I should make an effort. He walked out, I didn't tell him I love him, so he came back in and said he bets he'll die in a horrific car accident on the way to work now, because I didn't say it.

I'm coping alright with the day-to-day baby raising, but if I don't get better, I can't be a decent Mum. I don't know what to do. To be honest, I don't think I can go through the process of getting better again. I've done it once before, and it was awful, and if I end up relapsing again and again, I think I'd rather just stay inside for good. I can't raise a kid like this though.

Feelie - you are a fab mum, you're just having an off day - and we all have those. I know you'll do what's best for both you and Toby in the long run, whatever that turns out to be. OH must have been having a bad morning too - I'm sure he didn't mean any of it. If he's anything like mine he will have realised that he should have taken the bins out, felt bad, got defensive and then taken it out on you. Men!

slscarborough wrote: »

OH did say to me we will look back and laugh about these times one day!! I did say to OH that I need some time to myself at the weekend without the kids - I dont think he approved.

Sls - sorry you didn't have a good night. You MUST make sure you get some 'me' time though. I used to go to Slimming World one night a week and that counted as 'me' time. I don't do that any more, but will be starting riding lessons as soon as this one is out and my under-carriage is healed enough to take the bumping! That will be my 'me' time. DH gets his 'me' time at work :rotfl::rotfl:

Hope you can find some more chores for Owen to help with. Sounds like attention is what he's craving.

Repeat after me, "It's just a phase. It's just a phase."

SusanC_2

Grrr why do travelodge always have their postcode wrong?

sparkle03

SusanC wrote: »

Grrr why do travelodge always have their postcode wrong?

I dont know

Oh two nice suprises for me, just got utility statements through and they owe us over £400 they say they will carry it over for the next bill but I think I will have it back thank you very much!

And need to book a hotel room for BIL wedding and just found that OH gets a nice 25% + corporate discount for marriot hotels through work, so its much less than we planned! Woo Hoo

Lu_T

sparkle03 wrote: »

Oh two nice suprises for me, just got utility statements through and they owe us over £400 they say they will carry it over for the next bill but I think I will have it back thank you very much!

When we were in credit with British Gas I called and asked for it back and they refused because we weren't at our 'review date'. I pointed out that, as it was spring our usage was unlikely to go up over the next 2 qtrs until our 'review date' but the advisor was vrey rude and refused. So I switched the same day and made a formal complaint. That money should have been in our account earning us interest, not in theirs! (Although the advisor pointed out they aren't allowed to earn interest on this kind of over-payment. She didn't get my point that we weren't).

I will probably never use British Gas again because of this. It's my money, GET OFF IT!!