MSE Parents Club Part 3

Savvy_Sue

I am so glad Toddler Taming is still popular, wish I'd got shares in the publisher. :rotfl:

For daytime naps, I used to sometimes hold DS1 down in his cot. Otherwise we went through a cycle of him hauling himself to standing, howling until he was so tired he fell asleep, falling over because he was now asleep, banging his head on the cot bars on his way down, waking himself up, hauling himself to standing again ...

Curious_George_2

bloody acid reflux... (me, not the kids)
my eyes were already looking awful after the MJ memorial thing (life long fan here) and now im awake at stupid o clock, unable to sleep thanks to waking up unable to breathe thanks to all the stomach acid blocking my throat...

looking like this, im going to frighten the children at toddler group tomorrow

Sami_Bee

Elle - will you have to set an alarm to wake you?
CG - *hugs* hope you're now soothed by gaviscon or something xx

For the 2nd night in a row Edgar has fed much less so I've just had to get changed because I was soaking wet! My cups runneth over majorly
Righ back to sleep for me xx

Becles

Curious_George wrote: »

bloody acid reflux... (me, not the kids)
my eyes were already looking awful after the MJ memorial thing (life long fan here) and now im awake at stupid o clock, unable to sleep thanks to waking up unable to breathe thanks to all the stomach acid blocking my throat...

looking like this, im going to frighten the children at toddler group tomorrow

Hope you feel better today and that toddlers goes ok. That's the last place I'd want to be if I'd had no sleep

Pleased everything is going to plan Elle. I think all mothers worry about sleeping through night feeds, but you sort of learn to cope with it when it happens. Hope it works out ok.

elle_gee

Morning all..

I know what I meant to ask.. Rhys gets very frustrated and upset when he pushes with his feet but gets nowhere - when he's lying on my chest, he tries to stand on my belt and just ends up straightening his legs and sticking his bum up in the air cos his chest doesn't go anywhere, and the same when lying on the playmat, pushing against my hand. He has a "bendy" (gel filled sausage support thing shaped into a U, supposed to make little ones cosier) and often pushes off that when lying on his back in his cot and his head hits the top edge of the cot.

Is this all normal, and is there anything I can do to help him or do I just comfort him out of his strop and wait til he gets bigger and figures out he has to move his arms/chest forward too?

He's 7.5 weeks old now, but still only 38+3 gestation so it's hard to work out what he would be capable of at what age!

I was going to try to rest this morning and just chill in my room with Rhys, but one of the other mums got called in in the middle of the night when her little one took a bad turn and all the other flats are full, so I think I might go out for a while and offer her my bed to sleep on so she can catch up on some rest herself.. Have offered to fetch her chocolate for breakfast if that's what she wants!

Mazcabs

Lu_T wrote: »

If anyone wanta the ITNG game on Martin's e-mail last week that had been reduced and then increased in price by Amazon (naughty, naughty) I've picked it up from Toys R Us today for £4.99. It'll go in the cupboard for Xmas as it's 3+ but it looks really good.

Hi Lu T, I went to get this the other day and it was back up to £9.99 again, gutted.

feelinggood_2

Having a bad day today.

Supposed to have a property inspection today. For the past week, I've been asking OH to sort the bins out, so the house is tidy. He hasn't, and has informed me this week that the wheelie bins are full, so I'm left with several bin bags in the kitchen, and a pile of boxes and recylable stuff. Not really giving the best impression to the lettings agent is it?

He wouldn't sort it out, so has gone to work, but not before asking why I chose to be ill, why I can't just force myself to go outside, how it isn't fair on the baby, how I'm supposed to be healthy for him, how I should make an effort. He walked out, I didn't tell him I love him, so he came back in and said he bets he'll die in a horrific car accident on the way to work now, because I didn't say it.

I'm coping alright with the day-to-day baby raising, but if I don't get better, I can't be a decent Mum. I don't know what to do. To be honest, I don't think I can go through the process of getting better again. I've done it once before, and it was awful, and if I end up relapsing again and again, I think I'd rather just stay inside for good. I can't raise a kid like this though.

slscarborough

Well last night did not go to plan. Owen woke up and was uncontrolable - woke Caitlin up so didnt get to have the wine. Finally got them both off then Owen was awake again at four and again woke Caitlin up. Oh was in owens room for an hour settling him and Caitlin took longer than that to get off to sleep. So didnt get to have my sleep either. Ended up sobbing myself to sleep as I have just had enough.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Elle - will you have to set an alarm to wake you?
CG - *hugs* hope you're now soothed by gaviscon or something xx

For the 2nd night in a row Edgar has fed much less so I've just had to get changed because I was soaking wet! My cups runneth over majorly
Righ back to sleep for me xx

I express before I go to bed, which serves 2 purposes:

a) I can build up a supply of EBM (which is now taking over the freezer!!)
b) I can wake up without rock solid boobies and a wet duvet

elle_gee wrote: »

Morning all..

I know what I meant to ask.. Rhys gets very frustrated and upset when he pushes with his feet but gets nowhere - when he's lying on my chest, he tries to stand on my belt and just ends up straightening his legs and sticking his bum up in the air cos his chest doesn't go anywhere, and the same when lying on the playmat, pushing against my hand. He has a "bendy" (gel filled sausage support thing shaped into a U, supposed to make little ones cosier) and often pushes off that when lying on his back in his cot and his head hits the top edge of the cot.

Is this all normal, and is there anything I can do to help him or do I just comfort him out of his strop and wait til he gets bigger and figures out he has to move his arms/chest forward too?

He's 7.5 weeks old now, but still only 38+3 gestation so it's hard to work out what he would be capable of at what age!

I was going to try to rest this morning and just chill in my room with Rhys, but one of the other mums got called in in the middle of the night when her little one took a bad turn and all the other flats are full, so I think I might go out for a while and offer her my bed to sleep on so she can catch up on some rest herself.. Have offered to fetch her chocolate for breakfast if that's what she wants!

Bless you for thinking of the other mum!
With regard to the pushing up - you will find that as you have him in more normal surroundings then you will adapt to let him test himself a bit more. Benjamin has been standing whilst just holding on to our fingers since he was about 5 weeks...he stands most of the time that we are holding him now and people are always saying 'look at how strong he is on his legs!!' when I think he is just being normal
In other words - he will teach you how he needs to be held and where he is happiest!

feelinggood wrote: »

Having a bad day today.

Supposed to have a property inspection today. For the past week, I've been asking OH to sort the bins out, so the house is tidy. He hasn't, and has informed me this week that the wheelie bins are full, so I'm left with several bin bags in the kitchen, and a pile of boxes and recylable stuff. Not really giving the best impression to the lettings agent is it?

He wouldn't sort it out, so has gone to work, but not before asking why I chose to be ill, why I can't just force myself to go outside, how it isn't fair on the baby, how I'm supposed to be healthy for him, how I should make an effort. He walked out, I didn't tell him I love him, so he came back in and said he bets he'll die in a horrific car accident on the way to work now, because I didn't say it.

I'm coping alright with the day-to-day baby raising, but if I don't get better, I can't be a decent Mum. I don't know what to do. To be honest, I don't think I can go through the process of getting better again. I've done it once before, and it was awful, and if I end up relapsing again and again, I think I'd rather just stay inside for good. I can't raise a kid like this though.

Feelie - don't worry about the bin bags for a start.

I haven't got a clue what else to say but (((HUGS))) I think you probably need to be talking to a professional about how you feel

For the moment all Toby needs is a happy mummy who can cater for his needs - focus on that for now, and try and plan to do the other stuff in the future.

sparkle03

Morning Feelie, sorry your not having such a good day! I dont know what to say really apart from your a brilliant mum and all couples have mornings like that, well I know we do in our house anyway! Raising children is a rollercoaster and you never know how upside your going to be from one day to the next! I find that I think I have cracked something and then something else jumps up and bites me in the a$$ :rolleyes: You'll make it up with your hubby and then other things will start to fall into place, Im sorry I cant help with the other things you mentioned, I dont want to sound patrionising when I have no idea what your going through! Hope you start feeling a little better soon (((hugs))) x