What type of woman?

overthehills

Soubrette, sorry, I don't normally do woe is me either and my OH is a fixer too, just don't know what to do for the best. Wait for another kick in the teeth perhaps?



DUTR, why is she so jealous? It was her who dropped her knickers, her who ende the marriage. Why does she make OH suffer?

Soubrette

chnelomi wrote: »

This has made me cry. How can ppl be so stupid don't they realize that in the end it will only be the kids that suffer. mediation should be a requirement not a request from both parties. if only they could see the future damage they will cause.

I wholeheartedly agree with this - what a shame there isn't a CSA type organisation (but much better run) where either PWC or NRP can ask for mediation and both sides are then compelled to turn up (probably with police and counsellors with rubber bullets at the ready).

If either breaks the agreements then back they go - if they continually break the agreements then the organisation takes them to court like the CSA can over maintenance.

No parent should be prevented from seeing their children because they feel they cannot afford the court fees.

Sou

Zara33

overtthehills maybe it time for him to take a step back and let his daughter come to him when the time is right. This will be making him ill.

There is nothing stopping him writing letters/cards to his daughter weekly and keeping them for her when the time is right.

Soubrette

overthehills wrote: »

Soubrette, sorry, I don't normally do woe is me either and my OH is a fixer too, just don't know what to do for the best. Wait for another kick in the teeth perhaps?

No need to apologise, it's a lack in me I think, I just wanted you to know that I sympathise even if I sound hideously practical (and possibly uncaring :o)

Don't wait - join families need fathers

Sou

DUTR

Zara33 wrote: »

Your assuming it's jealousy, like everything in this world there are infact two sides to every story.

Indeed that is true, I can't fathom any other logical reason why the pwc concerned would behave as described by the OP. Perhaps you could give me a variation
My current GF informs she would have a problem with me going to see my child even though she has 2 young ones herself, my last 2 GFs at the time I was seeing my little one gave me a hard time (even though there is no way I would reconcile with the pwc).

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

Indeed that is true, I can't fathom any other logical reason why the pwc concerned would behave as described by the OP. Perhaps you could give me a variation
My current GF informs she would have a problem with me going to see my child even though she has 2 young ones herself, my last 2 GFs at the time I was seeing my little one gave me a hard time (even though there is no way I would reconcile with the pwc).

Of course i can't :rolleyes: and i suspect the OP won't be able to either because the PWC will have her version.

How sad a GF dictates whether you can see your child.

DUTR

Zara33 wrote: »

Of course i can't :rolleyes: and i suspect the OP won't be able to either because the PWC will have her version.

How sad a GF dictates whether you can see your child.

She doesn't she just said she would have a problem with it, I didn't see my child long before she came along, similar to an earlier reply, the child will make moves when they are good and ready

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

She doesn't she just said she would have a problem with it, I didn't see my child long before she came along, similar to an earlier reply, the child will make moves when they are good and ready

I can't see what the problem would be are you being a father to her kids then?

Let's hope your child does come looking for you. Perhaps the child will be "brainwashed" by that time or even have a father figure in his/her life and really won't need to seek out their biological father.

pink_princess

I find stories (I wish it were ) like this very sad.I rarely post on this board but I read alot.Im (as regulars may know ) a nrpp,and a rpp.ie We have custody full time of my step son (with mums wishes ) and no contact (against our wishes ) step mum.I really can t get why people are so selfish in life to put their childrens best interests behind their own.
My step son s mum agonised over the decision to allow him to live here full time.Why are some other pwc so against what is best for their children?
I so wish you and your other half well op.I hope yous get the contact yous seek with your step child.
PP

overthehills

Zara33 wrote: »

overtthehills maybe it time for him to take a step back and let his daughter come to him when the time is right. This will be making him ill.

There is nothing stopping him writing letters/cards to his daughter weekly and keeping them for her when the time is right.

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