What type of woman?

overthehills

Decided to remove

dimbo61

Been there got the letter from my child
still paying the CSA every month and not had contact with my child for over 3 years
Some very good PWC and some not so good
Be strong and carry on with life. GOOD LUCK

Barneysmom

What a horrible situation to be in, I hope it gets better for you, she sounds like a real problem. Good luck xxx
Did you see this a little while ago?


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/5303756/Mother-denied-access-to-children-for-turning-them-against-ex-husband.html

Soubrette

Has your partner joined families need fathers? He may get some help there.

Unfortunately we cannot turn someone from a poor parent (and someone who denies access or turns a child against a parent even unknowingly is poor) into a good parent. This is a measure of what kind of parent your partner is in difficult circumstances.

I personally would fight to the bitter end to see my children but I know that some people choose to walk away believing that is the best thing for the children compared to the hurt and turmoil the child would have to go through while access is being reestablished.

He needs to make sure that one day (and you know it will happen) when his daughter turns up at his door, that she is aware that your partner has loved her through out her life and has been waiting for that day.

Good luck and please do keep us posted if you take things forward - the courts are getting more and more aware of the importance of contact with BOTH parents.

Good luck

Sou

overthehills

Decided to remove

Zara33

overthehills you are very angry atm which is understanable however don't let this eat you up.

DUTR

Thankfully not everybody is like that, unfortunately you OH has a bad ex, good luck , I'm sure it will all work out in your family's favour in the long run.

Soubrette

I'm not very good at poor old you posts - I'm more of a problem solver I'm afraid so I have to ask again - have you looked at families need fathers - there are lots of people with similar experiences to yours and you could benefit from their advice and experiences.

Apparently (I have no experience of this myself) they have something called McKenzie's friends who can help with court cases when trying for access - they do cost something but much less than court fees and some will even accompany you into court.

You would have to go on their website http://www.fnf.org.uk/join-us and investigate. It costs £32 a year.

Sou

chnelomi

overthehills wrote: »

Please don't come to school daddy as you embarrass me infront of my friends. I don't want to see you because I don't feel ready. Ps. I miss you very much.

This has made me cry. How can ppl be so stupid don't they realize that in the end it will only be the kids that suffer. mediation should be a requirement not a request from both parties. if only they could see the future damage they will cause.

DUTR

chnelomi wrote: »

This has made me cry. How can ppl be so stupid don't they realize that in the end it will only be the kids that suffer. mediation should be a requirement not a request from both parties. if only they could see the future damage they will cause.

Yes to a point but from what I read, it seems the ex pwc needs help to deal with her jealousy issues .

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

Yes to a point but from what I read, it seems the ex pwc needs help to deal with her jealousy issues .

Your assuming it's jealousy, like everything in this world there are infact two sides to every story.