Advice on how to live happily ever after!

roswell

Little_Monster wrote: »

Let me know how its goes! you must be tired, i am without having one on the way! Has it always been that way? The washing up bowl thing happens in our house, and when he does wash up it's like a foam party in the kitchen :rolleyes: Dishwasher all the way! I told him how I felt and out came all the stuff he was unhappy about so we've agreed to a fresh start. He then went round the house making a list of 'man' jobs, lets see how long these take! He has offered to clean more I guess I just have to be more supportive than letting it build up before i get fed up! It was good to get things out in the open and find out stuff thats been building up from both sides.

I am totally worn out after it all tho! Definately no cleaning for me tonight! :rotfl:

It sounds liek your both back on track, add to his list cleaning behind the washing machine + Fridge + Cooker as im goign to take a guess these are jobs you will struggle with.

Pee

roswell wrote: »

It sounds liek your both back on track, add to his list cleaning behind the washing machine + Fridge + Cooker as im goign to take a guess these are jobs you will struggle with.

And strong men are so much more capable of those jobs!! (I like your thinking!)

Pee

fay144 wrote: »

I agree with Belfastgirl - if you are not happy, just stop doing it! It sounds like he considers his own job and spare time as more important then yours. I don't think that is healthy, and shows a huge lack of respect.

I don't really understand who these men are who think there are male/female jobs... I don't know any adult men among my friends that think their wives should take on the role of their mothers. Different people have different standards, and it is maybe inevitable that the tidier person in a couple will end up doing a bit more as it will occur to them first - but that is their choice. They only have themselves to blame if they do more than they think is fair.

I think a few people on here have been a bit daft and created a rod for their own backs by viewing "setting up home" as a fun thing to do in the early stages, and then changing their mind. There is nothing romantic about washing dishes, crazy people!

Easy for me to say though, as I'm a lazy mare, and my husband is the tidy one.

I don't know... I think there is something very romantic about washing dishes. My boyfriend always does the washing up, and I think that's romantic.

I think pulling your weight in the house is as romantic as buying flowers, and maybe it would help if men knew we felt like this.

I think if you were otherwise happy in a relationship, particularly where you had compatable ideas on the future - children and being a SAHM - then splitting up over housework would be taking a pointless stand.