New Baby Sleeping: In Own Room or In Your Room???

money_saving_diva

Hi We had our son in our room until he was 6 months old - but this was because we were moving house and it fell through he didn't have a room to go into until he was 6 months. I think if we had been in our new house when he was born he would have gone into his own room when he moved from a moses basket to a cot because in the new house we don't have room for a cot in our room. This would have been at 12 weeks. I think I would move another baby at that point.
but .... saying that .... I am glad he was with us for that long as I got use to his general noises in his sleep and happy noises - that dont need attention and I now tend to only wake to him actually needing me and not every noise he makes. Also, I think he sleeps through noise because he slept through us going to bed every night after him etc and putting lights on and off.
You know what you think and want and you will get to know your baby - and you know your baby best so you have to decide.

Millie's_Mum

twentypenceoff wrote: »

please wil people who live in terraced houses who want to sleep with their baby have some thought for thier neigbours?

money_saving_diva

twentypenceoff wrote: »

please wil people who live in terraced houses who want to sleep with their baby have some thought for thier neigbours?

i am confused too please explain

twentypenceoff

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

good attitude.
wake up your next door neighbour every few hours for months at a time with a screaming baby then shrug your shoulders.However, if your neighbour woke YOU up by making noise you can bet you wouldn't be shrugging your shoulders, you'd be complaining.

money_saving_diva

twentypenceoff wrote: »

good attitude.
wake up your next door neighbour every few hours for months at a time with a screaming baby then shrug your shoulders.However, if your neighbour woke YOU up by making noise you can bet you wouldn't be shrugging your shoulders, you'd be complaining.

Surely then you want people to have their baby in their room with them so they can attend to their cries quicker? Some babies cry at times and there is nothing you can do. If YOU make noise you can help it.
I can't see what this is apart from yet another message on this forum that gets at parents?? :mad:

emlou2009

twentypenceoff wrote: »

good attitude.
wake up your next door neighbour every few hours for months at a time with a screaming baby then shrug your shoulders.However, if your neighbour woke YOU up by making noise you can bet you wouldn't be shrugging your shoulders, you'd be complaining.

i think you're the one with the "good attitude", sometimes its not as easy as you seem to think. ever heard of colic? and in case you werent aware, part of bringing up a baby when they get older requires that you dont run to them everytime they cry once they get to a certain age. i suppose you would rather a childs development was stunted and its parents shattered though.
however much of an inconvenience it must have been for you, i guarantee it was worse for the parents.

everybody needs to live somewhere!

twentypenceoff

money_saving_diva wrote: »

Surely then you want people to have their baby in their room with them so they can attend to their cries quicker? Some babies cry at times and there is nothing you can do. If YOU make noise you can help it.
I can't see what this is apart from yet another message on this forum that gets at parents?? :mad:

just asking people to be considerate It was so bad being woken up all night and working all day that i thought about leaving work, and cried the whole time it went on.

emlou2009

twentypenceoff wrote: »

just asking people to be considerate It was so bad being woken up all night and working all day that i thought about leaving work, and cried the whole time it went on.

i live in a tiny one bedroom flat with my 8 week old son and my OH, we werent made aware when we moved in by the estate agent that all of the residents are OAP's, the estate is more or less a retirement area and clearly dont expect to be hearing a crying baby in such a area. because of this each time i hear so much as a whimper i do my level best to quiet him. unfortunately its not always that easy. i count myself lucky that i have lovely understanding neighbours who understand because they have all had children and know how it is, and not you.

money_saving_diva

twentypenceoff wrote: »

just asking people to be considerate It was so bad being woken up all night and working all day that i thought about leaving work, and cried the whole time it went on.

I can understand it annoyed you but I am sure they couldn't help it - I have had nights where nothing would stop my lo crying. I am sure the parents weren't sleeping through it and must have felt worse than you.

If you have kids I hope they sleep through for you cos I think you will find it hard from reading your statement above

emlou2009

anyway, in answer to the OP's question, mine will be moved into his own room firstly when he actually has a room to call his own and secondly when he is able to sleep through the night, at the moment its quite convenient having him next to me cos usually when he is disturbed in the night i just put his dummy back in and off he goes again, it would be really annoying to keep getting up and going in another room to do that and by the time i got there he would have woken himself up again!