What would you do?

leiela

well it's all out in the open now, lying to her would have been wrong hopefully bettween the pair of you now you can sit down and discuss it and come up with an acceptable solution.

My husband get's dragged to 100's of auditions/jobs etc and im sure sometimes the LAST thing he wants on the planet is to watch me dance for the 10,000,000 time, but he loves me and he knows it's important to me so he comes even when he doens't really want to, just makes me love him even more.

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jenhug wrote: »

Go with the OH, every time. They are your partner, and they need your moral support, I don't see where the dilemma is!

I agree with this. Plus the fact that The Script are shite.

seven-day-weekend

Whatever you decide to do, don't lie about it. That would be the beginning of the end.

weeclick

Real tough choice, my heart says be with your girlfriend, my head says be true to yourself, I guess only you can make that choice.

Ive had a situation when my best friend was jealous of my partner (who I was only friends with at the time) and the attitude became really childish to the point I decided to confront my friend, and since then we havent spoke in about 3 years! That also meant I lost all of my friends from school because naturally they saw my best friend more and he walked away with all my childhood friends too!

Im happy with that though because the way he spoke was unforgivable and Im happy its just me and my partner now. I stuck up for what I believed in and I guess thats what you should do too with your situation. Im not saying fall out with one and walk away to be with the other but if you strongly believe your partner is in the wrong with the situation or vice versa you should sit down and discuss it, you cant be expected to walk on egg shells for the rest of your life.

The youve got the issue with should you or shouldnt you go. I personally think if it was me I would go. But thats just because I promised my partner that I would always put our needs first and if they needed my support then Id be there 100% - together we are like family now and I could never walk away from family when they need me.

On the other hand your partner needs to understand that she cant have everything her own way.

What about a compromise? Say you go to the concert with your mate (and you make her aware what you are doing - lying never solves anything) but you will catch a flight out to Ireland the following day and turn the trip to Ireland into a romantic few days away to make up for it - that way maybe everyone will win?

ailuro2

You don't like ppl demanding you go somewhere but an ex has bought you tickets to a concert and now expects you to go?:p

you know what you want to do, so do it.....

Mme.Hibou

lufcgirl wrote: »

I've got this huge dilemma.

Also, probably due to my upbringing, I'm not into the whole Irish music scene.

I'm an absolutely massive fan of The Script.

The Script are Irish as is your girlfriend's band - you apparently aren't into the whole Irish scene *confused-face* According to your sig. You are obsessed with everything Irish.

Also, I'd go with my OH.

lufcgirl

LOL yes I do appear to have contradicted myself there. The Script are pop music, myself I love anything pop...Girls Aloud etc and traditional Irish music is one of my weaker points and not something I'm interested in. I've even taken up learning the Irish language, that's how much I love the place!

My best friend hadn't demanded I go, I told him about the concert and he bought tickets to surprise me as we haven't been spending much time together recently.

I tried my damned hardest to talk to her last night and tell her I wouldn't be there but I'd be there if she needed to call or text at anytime. She's not happy and basically said I have to go regardless. It's not even like she's on her own, her sisters also play in the band!

Paparika

lufcgirl wrote: »

Yeah I guess your right! Although my reasons for not wanting to go are perfectly justified...nothing is booked with her yet my concert tickets are. And I hate people demanding I do something!

What do you want to do?

lufcgirl

Not go! But my heart says different, feel like I should be there.

GracieP

Sorry lufcgirl, but I think you are being selfish. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for the people we love. I don't want to do everything my husband asks me to do with him, but if it's important to him I do it anyway. If he's worked on a movie or tv series that I would never watch under any other circumstances but he asks for my opinion, then I watch it. And in all the years I've worked for NGOs my husband has done volunteer work for me if I needed him to. I go to parties with friends of his that I have nothing in common with and vice versa. That's how relationships work. We do things we aren't into sometimes because it's important to the person we love.

If I asked him to attend an event with me because I needed his support, but his female friend who has made no secret of her attraction to him bought him concert tickets he really wanted for a weekend I'd be in another country and he decided to disregard my feelings our relationship would damaged. Not irreparably, but it would make me feel so unimportant to him.