Weekly Flylady Thread 4th May 2009

xx_Jo_xx

Hi

Im back - I went to gym and did the aerobics class, which I do feel better for.

Came home and some ignoramus has parked across my driveway!! So I have blocked them in.....what else was I to do!?!

Anyway, have had a lovely hot shower......am off to find some lunch and do some of the kitchen!

Now, where did i leave my list.............

SarahShattered

Hi All, :wave:

Just pooping on to say hi. I've managed the school run, and I've been shopping, and put it all away.

I've also made pizzas, pasta and spring rolls for school lunch boxes.

That's quite enough for today, as I feel exhausted now. Whatever this bug is, it's blooming horrible!!!! :mad: Still, I'm a little better every day. And given some of the stuff others are going through... I really shouldn't grumble.

So I'm going to see my mate for a coffee.

Hugs to all and healing vibes for anyone who's ailing. :wave:

SS
xx

soappie

Sneaking in from work again - Tut tut!

Mozzy - eyes are a lot better this morning. I think I'm over the worst.
DDB - glad your Bub's is Ok
Nicki - get yourself to the doctor to have that cough checked out
Greenbee - glad your back's a bit better

Mrs_Dawn

Magnificent Monday ~ Master bedroom and Landing

Done:j
Extras

1. Binbag dance
2. Binbag for charity only a carrier bag
3. Sort out your own shoes and bags.. can any be rehomed?
4. Wipe hand rails on stairs done from top to bottom(three storey house)

Tuesday twinkles! - Living room, hall and stairs!

Done:j:j

Extras

1. HHI will make this one hour

Winkly Wednesday - Kitchen and dining room
Level Two
Wipe and replace small appliances
Clean oven and hob
Wash windows and sills
Level Three
Wipe the table and chairs... clean cloth if necessary
Sweep and mop the floor
Degunge the fridge!
Extras

1. Thoroughly clean the cupboard under the sink! did this on sunday
2. Run the WM's and DW's through a clean cycle done
3. Clean all the filters and door seals etc done
4. Wipe the back door down.. inside.. and out!! and front door done too

Hugs to all that need, off to put washing away and start that ironing.

Catch up later xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

emily_jackson

Hi,
Hope everyone's well. Sorry I've not posted for a while but hopefully after this post you'll understand why.
My friend had her baby last Thursday night, so I was with her from 2.45am-13.00am the following day. I went to see her on Friday and made sure she had everything she needed & get some shopping for her. She was in a right state because her partner has been in prison ever since she got pregnant. When he got with her he was released on license & he got into a fight & got sent straight back. When she was in labour she kept ringing the prison chaplain so that her partner could be informed. However he never got the messages, so he rang her on Friday morning to tell her that he'd been sentenced to 2 years, only for her to then inform him that she'd just given birth to their son! So when I saw her she was obviously very upset. She said that at the worst she was expecting that he'd be out by November. I was late going in to see her because I'd overslept & I also had to pick up bits & bobs she wanted from town. When I got there she said that she thought I wasn't coming.
So she came out on Saturday afternoon. I went to see her again on Saturday morning, again getting her stuff from town & sending baby pictures to the prison. She knew that I'd been invited to a wedding on the Sunday & she said it was okay for me to go but would I please stay with her on Saturday night. I said yes, that was no problem. so I stayed with her that night when she was discharged. She was very upset about her partner & didn't get much sleep. I left in the morning to to to the wedding. I knew that her sister-in-law & the midwife were coming round & I said that I'd ring her later. so I went to the wedding, which went on for most of the day, although I did ring her to check she was okay. I went home & had a big argument with DH. I was also on my period & was on my way to bed & then she rang, saying that she felt really ill & would I please stay the night. It was after 11pm by this stage. I atayed the night but snapped at her once because I was feeling terrible & she said "oh, it'll be okay with you & DSH, you're just being silly" which really got on my nerves. DH & I had had a big row. We've not rowed for ages & he said that he was thinking about splitting up with me, which he still is. After I snapped at her I apologised & tried to explain that I felt terrible. so I stayed the night & my parents picked me up the next day. We went to the shop for my friend & then I went out with my parents. Again, my friend had said it was fine for me to go. I didn't ring her that day because I could feel a cold coming on, whcih I suspect i got mfrom my friend because she had a fever, I was still on my peroiod & the situation at home waas still pretty bad & it still is now. I slept in the spare room, which DH was worried about because he knew I that the spare duvet was at my friend's & I only had a blanket, but I said I'd sleep in there anyway, which I regretterd the next day because it was freezing & probably didn't help my cold! I rang my friend when I woke up, & told her what had been going on. I agreed to get some bus timetables for her but said I'll post them as I don't want the baby to get a cold. At this stage I thought I would just get a duvet from the charity shop but when I got to town I realised that that probably wouldn't be that easy & I had a bus ticket, so why not ask my friend if I could collect the duvet from her house? I sent her a text & gave her about an hour to respond. she didn't. I should have known then that I shouldn't go round to get the duvet, but stupidly I went round anyway. She was there with her dad. She said "oh I thought you weren't coming round becuase you've got a cold". I said I'll just get the duvet & then go. I said to her dad I'll get the bus back now, which again I shouldn't have said, becuae I know he lives just up the road from me, & I suppose if I was being honest I was hinting for a lift. which was wrong, but it was 6pm, I'd already got 5 buses that day going all over town, & I still felt really rough. He said "I'm going in 2 minutes, I'll give you a lift". I said "thanks". My friend looked uncomfortable & said "I never got your text. I really wish I'd known you were coming round. I don'tt want the baby getting ill". She went off to make me a brew & her dad just looked at me & rolled his eyes. I said she's right, it is my fault". She made me a brew & said do you want to drink it upstairs. She was really laying into me, so I said "maybe I should just go". She started shouting & swearing at me, saying "Yeah, if you're gojng to put your godson's health at risk maybe you should go & think about things. So I went home. I was really angry on the buses going home, thinking about all the stuff I've done for her & the baby, going to antenatal & the scans & everything, taking photos & sending them to the dad & staying with her when she was ill despite my own problems. But as I calmed down I realised I was to blame for going round there to get the duvet & so I texteed her & apologised. She was still ranting at me thiough, saying that I should have thought. I said "yes I know that but I've still tried hard to be a good friend & godmother" & pointed out all the crap I'm going through. She still wouldn't listen to me, saying "DH won't divorce you", which just started to make me mad again, so i said maybe we should have some breathing space from each other". she said "Yeah, probably a good idea" & I texted her back saying "I hope we can work things out"
Sorry for ranting but I just feel like a really bad friend. I know that we're both going through rough patches, but it was like she didn't understand me. She got upset when I was late visiting her in hospital & yes, that was selfish of me but (a) I didn't do it on purpose (b) I still rushed round the shops getting her stuff she needed which made me even later & (c) I know her body had been through hell but I'd also had very little sleep myself. She said I snapped at her when she was ill but I did apologise straight away & explain that I was going through a lot. And she still keeps going on about it. And why doesn't she believe me when I say that DH is thinking of splitting up with me? Why would I lie about that? I'm starting to look at myself & think am I really that bad a friend?

AnW'sMum

toottifrootti wrote: »

greenbee hope you manage to control the pain a bit tonight - argh !!!!:eek: dont fancy what they might do to you tomorrow. Or are you doing an AnW'sMum and trying to find elaborate excuses for not flying too:rotfl::rolleyes:

Wooooohooooooooooooo I'm a role model :rotfl:

AnW'sMum

emily you are not a bad friend at all. The last few days have been very emotional for you both for a variety of reasons, huge ups and downs for you both.

You both need support, lack of sleep and feeling ill will not help either of you. Neither of you should make any rash decisions at the moment but you do need to keep talking to each other. Also you need to keep lines of communication open with your DH, is he feeling left out of things with the new baby? Does he feel you have taken on too much? Were there issues between you before baby was born? These are all rhetorical questions but might give you a few starting points in trying to unravel everything.

Keep strong, believe in your abilities as a wife, a friend and as your own person.

HUGS

Justamum

emily - I hope you don't mind me saying this, but it sounds like it's not you who is selfish and should be apologising, but your friend. You've been running around like a mad thing for her - you have a life too!

I hope things work out with you and DH. That's the relationship which is more important now, not that of you and your friend, and if she is a real friend she will understand that and not keep demanding your constant attention.

Hope you don't mind me saying all this

mOZzy_2

emily after reading your story i've got to say you've been a great friend and tried to be always there for her! i am sorry but she's taking the mickey!
you've got a life to live too and she can't really expect you to hold her hand all the way anytime and every time! - she just has to get on with it - some people don't have any help at hand at all (like me :rolleyes:) - AND if you have time you can go and help here and there! - and the duvet incident: she didn't have to invite you in in the first place and could have just handed it over to you at the doorstep. after all you are ill too and are having problems at home and needed a shoulder yourself!!
you can have my shoulder!! and i do hope your dh has calmed down by now too. i guess you spent rather alot of time with your friend lately and that just reflects on the time you (didn't) spent at home (if that makes sense?)
give it some time and don't you dare feeling down about your 'friend'
i assume she is rather overwhelmed with the whole situation atm too so needs some breathing space too.
((((hugs)))) - in my eyes you didn't do anything wrong!!

AbbieB

Afternoon all :hello:

I have not had a chance to post over the past few days but I have still been flying Toots all lists are completed for Mon, Tue and Wed :j
(although I have to admit that I did some of it at the weekend ). I will try and catch up with all the news in a bit but I hope you are all well.

Toots - how are you feeling? Have been thinking about you; hope you are ok.

Must go and grab some lunch, see you all later :hello:xxx